How To Live With No Regrets.

There was this Australian caretaker that wrote a book in 2012 about life experiences. As she was a caretaker, she took the opportunity to discuss this topic with many of her patients. The patients she had that were close to death would get the same question from her. What were your five biggest regrets in life? So many people who lead different lives, with different families, and morals. Yet they had the same regrets. If you asked yourself that question right now what would your 5 biggest regrets be?

1. Living your life for others instead of yourself.

2. Wished you had not worked so hard, took a little time for you.

3. Wished they had expressed their feelings better.

4. Wished they had stayed in touch with old friends.

5. Wished they had allowed themselves to be happier.

Does your list look anything like this? Regret comes from the fact that you did not pursue something. Bad decisions can make more regret. Lost opportunity causes regret. One’s that could have been prevented but can no longer bring on regret. The longing regrets you find yourself with in life are the ones that change you from being the person you want to be. The most important decisions we make in life relate to family, friends, or the distractions that can get in the way of our relationships. You cannot go back and time travel to apologize or change things that have happened. Your experiences and lessons however will never be lost. Seize every opportunity to make the most of it now. Find your purpose and your passion and live your life so that you may have no regrets. You are the only soul who can find your purpose. There are lots of ways to avoid the regret.

Living life for yourself- The people who sacrifice become all that they can be is a direct proportion to their commitment to themselves. We all have unique talents rather if it is being a mother, a mechanic, or a businessman. Your goal should be to make the most of those talents. To feed the inner voice you must learn and grow. There you will find clarity that will measure your life.

Not worked so hard through life- The path of least resistance. Embracing life. What gives our life meaning is not the things we have or are given, but what we give and achieve. Take the time to stop and listen to your wife, or child. Take the time to make the only thing you can take with you in this world, memories. Make good memories for you, and the ones you love. If you have the chance to sit it out or dance…. I hope you dance.

To have expressed your feelings better- It is too easy to take life for granted until a day comes and stops you cold. It makes us realize that everyday is a gift and how we use it shapes our destiny. We have only this moment. Sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake. Life moves at lightning speed but seems to only come back to two things: Your relationship, and your family.

Staying in touch with friends- Staying in touch with friends is on the list of regrets. Right now, you may be busy and consumed with your life. When it is hard to find time for you. It is harder to find it for someone else. If you have someone who is on your mind and comes to your thoughts often. Make the effort to reach out to them. Find their number and call them to say “hello, how are you.”

Allow yourself to be happier-The last thing you want to feel when you're getting close to leaving this world is loss. After everything you have experienced, gained, lost, loved do not let it be at the expense of your own happiness. As far as I know we only get one chance at this and it is a short chance at best. There are no re-do’s or second chances. Once our time is done here. It is done. So, above all else allow yourself to be happy. We all have struggles and adversity to work through. It usually makes us better for it. Finding happiness is not always that easy, and then you must manage to keep it. However, we have discovered that a human being can alter their life by altering their attitude. People can be as happy as they make up their minds to be. We are blessed in so many ways that we take for granted. We need to remind ourselves of our blessings every morning. Having gratitude in the ultimate cure to unhappiness. You must be able to dream. You must be able to laugh. Hopefully have no regrets.