How To Escape

How often have you been in a relationship with another where in the beginning it was everything that you had wanted and waited for? Until things started to become an entirely different world. You begin to feel as if all of the attention they gave to you has somehow led you to believe it was a part of their plan to take away who you once were and change you into someone who has lost their mind. They have succeeded and now you have no idea what to do because you believe somehow, someway, and for a reason you are unsure of that you are in love with them. It has begun.

People who are able to do this to another have absolutely no compassion, empathy, or regard for any damage that they instill on anyone around them. The name for these people is Narcopath. This is a Narcissist and Sociopath combined. Unfortunately it is more so the Narcissist that begins the journey that you are about to take because everything in the life they live needs to be about them. The Sociopath is the one that holds the wheel in this journey with their complete antisocial approach.

From my own and very recent experience, I want to share the seven warning signs that you may be in the most toxic relationship you have or ever will be.

1) They go into overdrive once they have you locked in: The majority of relationships take what some would may say to long to get to the point where both people know they are in love. With a Narcopath it is only a small amount of time before they are telling you that they have found their soul mate. Unfortunately we are wanting to be in love so much that we do not realize things are in overdrive.

2) The compliments they give you seem almost too much: I know that when someone tells me that I am beautiful, it is hard to believe. With Narcopaths they seem to have studied you enough to know exactly what it is you desire to hear. Unfortunately there comes a point when you think to yourself that this is too much because it is said to you over and over and over and over.

3) The sex is almost perfect: Again, this is where it seems they have done their homework on your complete sexual desires and perfects them. They are determined to make sure that you are absolutely satisfied to the point where you never want to lose them.

4) Most all conversations lead back to them: In the beginning it is all about you and anything that you want to talk about they listen better than any one else you have ever known. Then you start to see that any and most all conversations will end up about them. They need your attention, anyone's actually, and they need the satisfaction of knowing that they are the most important person. You can be telling them about how your childhood pet ran away and never came home, then somehow you realize that they have taken control of the conversation and you end up comforting them.

5) They can and will find a way to blame and punish you: When things start to go wrong between the two of you, they will make sure that you are the one saying sorry for whatever happened and that you promise to make it better. This is how and when you start to question who you are. Your self-worth begins to fade, you feel as if you are going crazy inside your mind with thoughts of why are racing, you become quiet because you are afraid to upset them, and you walk with your head down as if you are not worth it anymore. You are numb by this point but still believe that you are in love and cannot be without them.

6) They have no ability to empathize: You will notice after a certain point that their interest in your pain or emotional discomfort is no longer their. They never did care about your pain as it was all to make you believe that they really love you. However, now, you are starting to see this and it breaks you down that much more. They make you feel that you are being selfish and petty about things or tell you that you are bringing more drama than needed.

7) They believe, truly, that they are in a higher class than most everyone: Even if they have lived in middle or lower class as a child, they create their own environment where they believe they have to have the best of everything. This happens to the point where they will go into debt or use others to get what they want. Their opinions of others are very judgmental and believe that they are not worth being in their circle.

These are just a few of the signs that you need to look for and when and if they happen make sure that you do not forget or make excuses so that you look the other way. Just keep reminding yourself that these behaviors are not normal and if left to continue will become so toxic that you will have an extremely difficult time finding a way out. You deserve to be loved not to be made to feel like you are nothing. Believe me when I say that wanting to be loved by someone is completely natural and deserving. Please just do not let anyone, whether they are a Narcopath or not, allow you to become so unstable with your thoughts and actions in life that you cannot find your way back to who you once were.