How to Clean Your Life of Toxic People

Your happiness and success often depend on the type of people around you.

No one claims that you should be able to recognize and avoid toxic people. But maybe even more important is if you manage to surround yourself with people who are the exact opposite - people who don't poison your life, but feed it.

The results of the research indicate that human resilience (ie the ability to overcome adversity) is largely the result and consequence of the support of others.

Accepting that your happiness and success often depends on whether someone supports you, nurtures your strengths, helps you achieve your dreams, and most importantly, helps you believe in yourself does not require a radical adjustment of thinking. Such people will inherently be the exact opposite of toxic people. They empower and nurture your very life.

Toxic people

As in any natural ecosystem, there are poisonous plants, fungi, and animals, among humans there are those who behave constantly toxic. If you want to live a truly happy life, you need to learn to recognize and avoid such people as soon as possible.

Toxic people are called toxic because they bring misery and suffering with them. They poison everything that comes in contact: other people, work atmosphere, leisure, career, relationships, and even their children.

Such people undermine your self-confidence, remind you of your weakness, and discourage any action that may make you happier and more successful. In addition, they can use you for their purposes, often making it very secretive so that they are not recognized as toxic people who are. They take, use, and spoil - but do not cultivate or feed. Well, have you already recognized these people in your environment?

It is quite easy to recognize toxic people if you look at them carefully. They are usually dissatisfied and insecure about themselves, but they try to disguise all this through rude toil and arrogance. They often say very painful and unpleasant things and then try to translate everything as a joke or convince you that they didn't say "anything like that", that you take everything to heart.

They, like vampires, suck energy, leaving you in ruins emotionally exhausted, constantly doubting yourself and your desires. They can put sticks in the wheel of your attempts to achieve happiness or success, and when you catch them "hot", they claim to know that you will not succeed anyway and have simply tried to save you from disappointment.

He doesn't think they are good people, they are just lost and you can change them if you want. You will not succeed, their complexes and strict beliefs do not have a number - you simply do not have enough power or time for them.

And if you overestimate your strengths and still try to do so, you will surely be dragged into the swamp of their toxicity, which is very difficult to wash away. Their toxicity is contagious, so it's best to stay away from them as much as possible.

People who "feed"

Such people are the exact opposite of toxic people. They support you, help you and contribute to your growth and development. They will help you make your dreams come true. But their laziness inspires and does not concern you with self-confidence, but, on the contrary, inspires you to believe in yourself more than ever.

They believe in you and because of that, you begin to believe in yourself. They inspire and motivate you to become better than you ever thought possible!

"Nourishing" people, as well as toxic ones, are quite easily recognizable. Such people will always try to cheer you up and inspire you when you doubt yourself and your abilities. They help when you need help and never ask for anything in return. They are more likely to be happy and positive than gloomy and lost.

In their presence, you always feel a little easier. After talking to them, you feel not exhausted, but energetic, motivated, and confident.

"Feeders" differ in the following characteristics:

They are friendly. Such people are always ready to support and inspire you if necessary. It motivates you and pushes you forward slightly, but it doesn't require much. The only thing they want from you is for you to be happy and successful.

They know how to listen and understand. Yes, these people understand you better than anyone else. They can look at almost any issue from your point of view and understand why you chose it. Even when they disagree with you, they manage to convey their opinion in such a way that it is not perceived as a personal insult.

They are trustworthy. You know that these people can be trusted immediately and unconditionally, and in the communication, you have no idea about betrayal.

They are reliable. Reliability is the key to trust. If they make a promise, they will do everything to fulfill it, and this gives you a sense of stability.

They are honest. Such people are distinguished by personality integrity and indestructible ethics. Sometimes it seems to you that in the depths of their souls there is a kind of moral compass that they follow all the time.

They are confident. Yes, they are so self-confident that it becomes almost contagious. Studies of interpersonal interactions show that self-confidence is a key factor in how a person looks attractive to others. Do not confuse self-confidence with narcissism and arrogance, because these two character traits characterize only toxic people.

Suppose you have already wiped out the closest entourage of toxic characters… How to attract people who can be called "feeders" now? It is not difficult - you just have to try to be such a person. Help other people, show kindness and sympathy.

Be a trustworthy person, accustomed to keeping promises. Do not make excuses and take responsibility for the acts committed (this personal quality is extremely rare in the modern world). Follow your inner moral compass.

Demonstrate self-confidence and modesty to the world around you. During the discussions, try to put yourself in the place of your interlocutors - you may be very surprised by what you see when you do it. And most importantly, never get lost.

Although the ability to recognize toxic people and stay away from them is very important much more important is the ability to attract the opposite. "Nourishing" people support, help in every effort and contribute to your growth and development. They help you make your dreams come true.