How Do You Forget Your Ex-boyfriend and How Do You Get Over a Failed Relationship?

How do you forget it, how do you manage to forget so many beautiful moments together, with going through a failed relationship? It can be extremely difficult, especially if the relationship has meant a lot or if you are in the first breakup - you feel that you will never forget, that you will never be able to have feelings for someone else…

Girlfriends try to give you advice, to teach you how to forget him, to embarrass you with mean words about him: "he was too stupid for you", "he was a jerk anyway", "he was ugly"… But for you, he still he is the one you love and no matter how much you want to hate him or even better, to forget about him completely, you can't… You can't and there is always something that reminds you of him, of your relationship: an old message, a congratulation, a gift, a bar, a restaurant, a park bench

And although now you think you will not be able to get over this breakup, you may be looking for ways to get it back, at some point the miracle will happen: you will wake up one morning ready to move forward, you will wake up without your heart you cry. Because all people have the power to endure and overcome suffering - even if they don't realize it… Read on to help you, to try and learn how to forget it, you will see in time that you will recover - but you have to help yourself, first of all.

How to forget him:

Remove traces. You won't be able to move forward if you still cling to the past! And although you think that his most vivid future is in your mind and soul, the practical traces left by him stop you from going through a separation.

Give up childish thoughts that hurt you, like, "Maybe he'll want me back," "Maybe he'll come and say it was a mistake." Try not to be weak and realize that if he wanted to break up, you have to accept. Get rid of the practical traces of the past; delete his phone numbers, delete him from Mess, Facebook. Don't be obsessed with what they post and whether it's online or not - how can this help you? You tend to hurt yourself by following him, asking about him, being curious if he has someone else…

Try to refrain and realize that any news about him will cause you even more suffering. Put all his gifts, greeting cards, pictures in a box and ask a good friend to keep that box - maybe in the future, it will be just painless memories. If, however, you suffer too much and you can't help but look at pictures or gifts, destroy them!

Perform a whole ritual and burn them in one place, thinking strongly "as things disappear, thoughts will disappear." As for his things, if there are a few left for you, you have two choices: pass them on to a friend to give them or destroy them too! By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. Don't put yourself in a humiliating position - it's not worth it!

Avoid your favorite places. Avoid, at least for a while, walking through your places: park, restaurants, bars. Don't try to look strong, show that you don't care, that you are superior - it's best not to go to locations that arouse any memories.

Don't call him. Even in the most vulnerable moments, don't call him! Don't call him to have mercy on him, don't call him to swear at him! Try to ignore that he is still around, that he is alive.

Don't be fooled into saying that your relationship was special, that it was different, and that you will surely reconcile at some point. Accept that it's over - even in the rare situation where he wants to reconcile you, you need to get to a stage where you think clearly, where you can lucidly analyze whether he deserves it or not. And you can't get to this stage unless you think it's over.

It's not your fault. It's a cliché, "It's not your fault, it's mine." But it's true - it's not your fault because the relationship didn't work out. A breakup almost always happens through the fault of both - even when it comes to cheating!

But it doesn't matter when it ends, whose fault it is! Don't become obsessed and don't think "maybe if I was older", "maybe if I didn't". If he loved you and cared about you, any mistake you made, he would have told you and you would have solved it together, he would not have left you!

Download. Nothing is embarrassing about crying! How you forget it - first you live openly suffering, sadness, anger, nerves. The burning ritual of his pictures or things can help.

Do not deny your emotions, but live them. When you feel sadness overwhelm you, cry when you feel anger grind you, scream, hit a pillow, manifest freely! Don't try to blaspheme and be "tough", "strong", "indifferent", "independent" - it is not important that those around you admire you, but that you accept your emotions.

Time alone… but not too much. Understandably, you want to be alone, locked in your house, in your room, crying and mourning your relationship. But don't do this for long! Impose a period of suffering on yourself - say, for example, "I'm closed for five days and you're done." And respect the limit - after five days, call your friends.

No matter how much you think that your friends don't understand you, that they can't help you, that they haven't gone through what you are going through because isn't it, your relationship has been "more special", try to realize that your support is precious it's them, your friends! And they suffered at some point, more than likely.

It seems to you that your suffering is more intense - this is normal, but not always true. After a few closed days, in which you think, cry, live the pain, go out with them, meet and unload talking. Even if they only help you by spraying mud on your ex, that's fine too! You even do a special "therapeutic" meeting, in which everyone throws mud at your ex, says how many things were wrong with him…

"We'll stay friends"? He may have told you that he wants you to remain friends - and you may think you are better friends than not seeing him at all… DON'T do that! You will not be able to go ahead, get over the breakup if you pretend to be just friends. You shouldn't see him at all for a while. You have to try to forget. You will not be "just friends" with a boy/man you loved, you just can't. Maybe after a while, you can be friends - but not now.

Mutual friends. A big problem is when you have certain mutual friends. Many times, they will take part. The idea is to rely on those who were before you had a relationship with your friends and try to avoid those who were his friends before.

And if you have certain friends that you have made together, try, if you see them, not to ask them about the former. But it is best to avoid them for a while and rely on your girlfriends, who are just yours.

An escape. How do you forget it? How about a weekend out of town? Right next door to a nice boarding house. Just you and your friends. To feel that you have missed a time of your daily life, to play, to swear at men, and to drink something!

Don't take revenge. Even if he was a pig, it's not worth taking revenge personally, swearing at him, threatening him, talking ugly to the world about him.

That puts you in a bad light, and by no means is it a step in the wrong direction! Revenge yourself subtly and only for yourself, burning his things and photos, if you feel that he would release you a little, but don't show up in public and don't tell him anything.

Change something. Change something with you - buy some clothes, change your hair… Change your room too - clean up, put up new posters/paintings, new curtains.

It's like a beginning ritual - because after any end there is a beginning. Change something in your life as well: start a sport, a game, a book, a dance - you take your time, but you also show that you can have a better life.

Get out of town. Don't shy away from the world, from the crowds - I'll do you good. I go with the girls in the evening to the bar, to dance clubs. Arrange so that you feel good and rejoice when a man admires you or compliments you.

No one looks at you with pity unless you look at yourself with pity! Try to look your best - think that if he or a friend of yours happens to see you, he or she should regret seeing how good you look and how you are having fun (in other words, "sitting in his or her throat"). ")!

Do not console yourself with another! It's too soon - although maybe my girlfriends tell you otherwise. But it is not a good idea to start another relationship. Because you would use that man only as a consolation, just as long as it makes you feel better and as long as it fills a void. Then you left him - why do that?

Don't think about it: "If I suffered, other men deserve it"; as a kind of revenge of karma… Don't hurt anyone and don't get excited that you can start another sincere relationship! Instead, if you think it will push you, encourage you, help you, you can have a little adventure, without feelings. Whether it's just a flirtation, just a kiss, or just a sex game - tell your partner you don't want more.

Think about it. After you have managed to go out into the world, to try to feel good, to smile, after you think that sadness and anger have decreased, think about your relationship. Think about why it wasn't good and learn something from the experience.

Learn what to do next; "Maybe I shouldn't be in a hurry," "Maybe I shouldn't be so quick to trust," and so on. It is a life experience and it is not useful unless you learn from it.

So: how do you forget it - living your pain and then just living! Find activities, try to feel good, and don't lose confidence - in the end, everyone will find a suitable partner who deserves it!