How breakups and betrayals can make you grief

Every time you fall in love and establish an intimate relationship, you need to take off your armor and treat each other frankly in order to feel that hot love.

But the price of enjoying love is to show people the softest part of the heart.

Therefore, when you love each other, it is also equivalent to giving him the right to hurt you.

You may have stumbled through for a few years or even a dozen years, or you may have been together smoothly and happily for half your life, but in any case, you already have a very deep emotional connection.

You take off each other's armor, use "we" to show people, and then build new armor outside the two to gain a sense of security in walking the world.

You are so close to each other that you are like conjoined twins, connected by blood.

But when one day, he left, betrayed, broke up, it felt like we were half naked, with armor that we took off and couldn't put on.

Feeling ashamed, nervous, insecure inside.

It was like the conjoined twins were suddenly separated, the wound was torn open, bleeding and painful!

At this time, the first reaction of many people is to pull that person back, warm themselves again, or reconnect with themselves.

So we went half naked, let the wounds bleed, and chased him in pain, begging him, pulling him.

Although, even if he comes back, there will always be horrific scars on the wound.

But the other person, it's not that we caught him back, begged him to come back, and he would come back. Even he was already happily glued to another person.

So we are babies, we are angry, we are angry, and then we are sad.

You might be happy when he looks back, and sad when he runs away into someone else's arms.

Regardless, he was still half naked, and the wound was still bleeding.

Only when we recognize the reality and stop chasing him back, can we stop and concentrate on healing our wounds, debridement, dressing, bandaging, and waiting for it to heal, so that we will not feel so painful and return to a normal person as soon as possible .

Then weave his own armor to cover half of his body, so that he can walk in the world with dignity.

But, as long as you look at him again, the wound you just started to heal will tear open again, and it hurts again.

You will eventually know that if you want to get out, you must put on the armor you took off, take care of the wound that was slashed, and let it heal.

You can't wait for him to come back, so you don't want to wrap yourself up.

When you accept the reality that he is not coming back, that is the beginning of your recovery.

When your wounds heal and your armor wears,

He is him, you are you.

You are back to the old self who was alone in the world, and you will no longer depend on anyone.

This is how it came out, to sum it up:

Step one, stop and stop chasing him back;

The second step is to take care of yourself, heal yourself, and concentrate on debridement, medicine, and bandaging.

In the third step, there will be repetitions, expecting him to come back, but every expectation is equivalent to removing the bandage and hurting again.

Step four, put on the armor and give yourself time for the wound to heal.

The fifth step, the wound is healed, the armor is complete, and it becomes an independent self.

So, when you've been cheated on and broken up, give yourself time to heal. How can a wound heal in a day. But in the end, believe in your vitality, you will recover, it depends on whether you are stuck in the first step or the third step.