Five strategies to learn to speak your heart bravely

Many women always complain that their spouse does not listen to their voices or understand their needs, feeling that they are not being treated squarely. Some men do not respect women and treat women unequally. Some of their trivial matters are tolerated by women, until they accumulate to a certain extent, they will explode, but at this time men are more defensive and they will only blame women for love. Complaining, always asking for trouble, but don't know how to reflect on yourself.

In fact, the quarrel in love represents the woman trying to rebuild the relationship, wanting to make both parties more satisfied with each other. When a woman provokes a problem and says something that no one dared to mention, although the man is accused of love, complaining and unreasonable trouble, the woman is often the one who allows the love to survive. Therefore, when you are trying to raise issues that the other person should pay attention to and are reprimanded by men, please do not give up too early. Some strategies can help you bravely speak your heart in love and make your relationship better.

Strategy 1. Value and express your opinions, beliefs and cognitions

Remember, if you can establish an emotionally equal relationship with men at the beginning, then you will be able to avoid the typical problems that most people face when they first get married or live together. Men’s hearts are more fragile than you think, and they will feel threatened by your attempts to teach them life issues, so when you are brave enough to tell the truth about yourself, you should be careful, like: "I hope We can all agree that we can have different opinions; although it’s not always that I’m right, but you won’t always be the right one.” Such a way of talking first and then coaxing is better for men. Listen in. Don't say nothing because you are afraid of offending a man, being yourself is the ideal way to get along. Only a man with a strong desire for control will hope that a woman will not have his own opinion and fully agree with his ideas and practices. The average man will not respect the kind of woman who is slaughtered by others. If you don’t express your opinions, beliefs and perceptions, you will lose the respect of your partner.

Strategy 2: speak out your needs

Don't think that the other half can guess your needs, you have to be brave enough to say it so that he can understand. Girls have developed the ability to intuitively know the feelings of others since they were young. When they grow up, they will become expecting others to be like them, and they can understand their feelings without saying more. However, most men do not have this ability, they will want you to take the initiative to speak out, they can't guess what you are thinking. Please don't use suggestive methods, and don't be vague or temptation. Doing so will make men think that you are manipulating them, but they will think that you are troublesome. Just use a direct, clear, and clear attitude to confess your needs, and a man will know what to do to satisfy you.

Strategy 3. Tell your partner about his inappropriate attitude and behavior

There are many men in the world who do not know how to communicate emotions with others. When a woman gets along with a man, she should be like a model student and teach him how to communicate effectively with others. Men often hide their emotions under the attitudes and behaviors of criticism, mockery, sarcasm, arrogance, interrupting you, or not taking you seriously, or underestimating what you say, as trivial things. This is because society teaches them not to respect women, teaches them to treat women as inferior creatures, and makes them believe that women need to be protected and appeased, unlike men who are superior, superior, superior in ability and talent. You don’t have to endure this. When a man’s attitude and behavior make you uncomfortable, tell him: "What you say and do makes me feel unpleasant. You just hurt me! I hope you stop using that. Treat me with an attitude, I hope you will stop doing the same behavior and let us get along on an equal footing. I won’t treat you like you, so please don’t treat me like this again.” Gentle and firm Tell him, let him learn how to communicate with others.

Strategy 4: Explain the pain you endure in love

Some women have too low self-esteem, do not realize that they have the right to complain, and think that they are making a fuss, rationalize the behavior of the other half, and convince themselves that the harm done to her by the other party is not intentional. Other women are overly dependent. They are afraid to point out each other's mistakes because they rely on their lover. They are abandoned for fear of causing the other's anger, so they would rather tolerate the terrorist acts of their lover. If you want to be treated appropriately by your partner, you need to discover your inner voice and express your pain bravely. You don’t have to suppress your temper. After every quarrel or the other person’s doing something that hurts you, you must honestly say how you feel. Explain your position, state it in a gentle tone, and stick to it, don't shrink back, and don't apologize for provoking the incident. Let the other party understand that you have suffered because of him, try not to lose your temper, and speak calmly, so that your spouse will know your misbehavior.

Strategy 5. After talking, wait and see the result

When you choose to be brave enough to speak your heart’s voice, stand firm and express your thoughts clearly. If you give in or give in, next time he treats you with the same inappropriate behavior, you will have to quarrel face-to-face with him. It's no use, he will think that you are nagging indifferently, and then completely ignore you. Assuming you are unwilling to take action to change the status quo, don't utter threats. You should think clearly about whether you want to be with him or not. If you don't want to end the relationship, don't threaten to break up. If you threaten to break up, you should stand firm and take action. Don't let him go because of a momentary weakness, otherwise you will be more despised by him, and then he will treat you worse and worse, and you can only regret it alone.

When the other half does something that makes you uncomfortable and disrespectful, you should bravely say what is in your heart and stop silently enduring it. Only when you find your true voice will you understand that you have the right to express your opinions and Ability to argue for oneself and for others. In this way, you can find someone who truly loves you. This person will respect you and encourage you to pursue yourself. Even if your relationship changes as a result, he still loves you and respects you more. Persist in being yourself, your belief will give you strength, so that the original healthy love will be sweeter, and the unhealthy love will end.