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Fall in Love Asking 36 Questions

Research-based techniques for intimacy

By Avocado Nunzella BSc (Psych) -- M.A.P Published 4 years ago 3 min read
Fall in Love Asking 36 Questions
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According to behavioural sciences, sharing progressively intimate details with someone leads to love, friendship, or simply a "You're a cool one!"

Psychologists developed an "experimental" model to make people "fall in love." As I have stated, the notion is that this may be accomplished through revealing progressively sensitive information. Aron and colleagues proposed 36 questions separated into three intimacy-level blocks. I decided to present my interpretation of the 36.

Part One

1. Who would you want to go for a walk in the park with if you could do it with anyone in the world?

2. Would you choose famous or wealthy? Answer without hesitation. Then consider it and explain why.

3. Do you ever reflect on past arguments and say to yourself, "... should have responded like that?" If that's the case, why do you believe we do it?

4. How do you generally spend your Sundays?

5. Do you have a good voice?

6. If you had to choose, would you rather lose your nose to a dog bite or all of your toes to a magical spell?

7. Do you regard 30 years of age to be middle-aged?

8. Describe three actions you and your companion appear to be performing with your bodies.

9. For what in your life do you harbour the most resentment?

10. If you could change one thing about your city, what would it be?

11. Spend four minutes telling your companion about your favourite childhood memory. You must fill the four minutes with specifics.

12. Would you rather fly, be invisible, or be wealthy but unemployed?

Part Two

13. Would you or would you not touch Sauron's eye? If you don't get the question...why didn't you watch Lord of the Rings?

14. Is there something you've wanted to accomplish for a long time but never got around to doing?

15. What has been your greatest failure in life?

16. What qualities do you look for in a pet?

17. Have you ever left a message in a bottle before?

18. Describe your most recent nightmare.

19. Do you ever fantasise about falling indefinitely? Please tell me about it.

20. How important is Netflix to you?

21. How important are Bitcoin and Tesla in your life?

22. Alternate sharing what you believe is your partner's hobby. Share a total of five interests.

23. If you had to answer in less than a half-second, was your childhood good or bad?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with pets?

Part three

25. Make three authentic "you" statements for yourself. For example, "you are sitting in front of me..."

26. Finish this sentence: "I hope people will just stop..."

27. What would your spouse need to know to be able to kill zombies in a bleak but exciting alternate reality?

28. Tell your lover something you would only tell them if you were completely inebriated. Yes, even if you've been sober your entire life. Mate, use your imagination.

29. Tell your partner what you consider to be an embarrassing amount of anything. Please elaborate.

30. Do you believe that emotions are only for wimps or champions?

31. Tell your lover something they should enjoy about you because you know you're amazing.

32. Are there particular topics that should not be joked about? Explain why you choose your response.

33. Do you want to die on a Monday or in June? Why?

34.In a worst-case scenario, would you save your parents or your children from drowning?

35. Is there anyone you wouldn't mind seeing die? why?

36.Ask your companion for help with ten potential real-life challenges. Of course, one of them must be a zombie apocalypse.

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About the Creator

Avocado Nunzella BSc (Psych) -- M.A.P

Asterion, Jess, Avo, and all the other ghosts.

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