Emotional Violence Hurts Your Soul

You are used to perceiving violence as something physical in the form of blows and bruises on your skin. But violence is different - it can also leave deep emotional wounds on the soul.

Sometimes a single word, a threatening gesture, or even an unpleasant silence is enough to stab a sharp dagger into your soul. Either they sacrifice themselves on the heights of happiness, or they are thrown into the abyss of despair, filling their lives with fear and irrational guilt…

Emotional violence is a process of psychological destruction that leads to the complete exhaustion of the victim's emotional sphere.

The power of mental prison

Emotional violence is more than real and even more dangerous because it does not distinguish between the gender, age, or social status of the victims. No matter how mature and independent we are, we can all become victims of emotional abuse, whether it comes from a partner, relatives, or even colleagues.

The danger of emotional violence is that, despite its serious consequences, it passes so quietly and invisibly on the other side that, when others know about it, they are surprised to realize that all this is happening right under their nose for a long time.

Emotional violence starts slowly, quietly and usually comes from the appearance of completely charming people, who use their charm to catch the victims, cutting their way to retreat (especially if this is a romantic relationship). The seducer proves to the victim a false reality, full of sweet promises and a cloudless future that will never come.

With all this help, the "spider" gradually lures the victim into its webs, until it finally gets stuck. And then he will show himself in all his glory, showing a tendency toward tyranny and removing all freedom.

Emotional violence is like acid, which gradually dissolves "me" into a person who has come under his influence, depriving him of emotional energy and willpower. This happens unnoticed. The poison passes into the victim's life drop by drop - in the form of baseless accusations, abusive assumptions, and phrases that make you doubt yourself.

The victim begins to wonder if there is truth in the offender's words - after all, he is a good person and constantly repeats that he only wants the best.

The victim of emotional abuse is trapped in a mental prison of self-doubt. Her self-esteem gradually sank into the darkest abyss.

The walls of the mental dungeon, created largely by the victim's psyche itself, are so strong that no one even thinks of fleeing. and therefore such relationships can last for years.

Emotional violence and invisible wounds on the soul

The wounds caused by emotional violence are not always visible from the outside, but, believe me, they are more than real to the victim. These wounds are hidden by others and at the same time cause incredible pain.

These injuries make a huge difference in the victim's self-esteem, as emotional violence primarily destroys his or her positive outlook.

These are the wounds left by contempt and insulting comments to the victim to humiliate and trample as much dirt as possible. Invisible wounds, emanate fear, guilt, and doubt, eroding even the shadow of the opportunity to change the situation of the victim.

How to heal scars left on the soul?

If you have realized that the way you live now, you can no longer live, the first thing to do is to understand that you are the victim of another person and that most of the guilt and bankruptcy you feel is imposed by the offender.

Once you understand how serious your situation is, you should immediately take all possible steps to re-establish contact with friends and relatives. Explain to them what is happening and get their support to take the first steps forward. Little by little, showing you love, kindness, and understanding, they will certainly be able to fill at least partially the void in the soul left by emotional violence.

In addition, you can seek the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist who specializes in a particular field. A specialist can help you rebuild the building of your own identity and self-esteem, brick by brick, healing all those invisible wounds that have crept into your soul.

The day will come when you will understand that the wounded man you once were, has disappeared without a trace and only you, yourself, have remained in his place.

Don't flatter yourself - the healing scars left by emotional abuse are never easy… It's a slow and complicated process. But it is always worth it because you earn what is most valuable in the world - yourself.

And finally, remember that each of us is capable of hurting the souls of others when we ignore, despise, or unjustifiably criticize them, even if they do not affect sincere emotional violence. Our words and gestures are a double-edged sword that must be handled with great care…