Don’t Be A Fool, You Can’t Change Him...

Just like you can't change much. If you have not been accustomed to brushing your teeth after every meal, or at least in the morning and evening, as recommended by any dentist, sometimes in the evening you find that you are too tired and postpone the operation for the morning.

You know he's not healthy, but he's not dying, so you can afford this indulgence.

People enter into relationships and create expectations and hopes, they want their partner to already know what they want and need, as if they could read their thoughts, they want to feel loved and loved, they make plans of the future, often without talking to his partner and his vision, assuming that he wants the same thing or hoping that "he/she will get on the furrow".

Some people are so attached to these plans, to their ideal vision, to the image they have formed of their partner, that their image is built to their liking, to suit their needs and aspirations, that they refuse. to see reality as it is and sink into daydreaming and self-deception.

Especially at the beginning, what their partner doesn't like or his defects are minimized or denied, the lack of compatibility is seen as something unimportant thinking that they will be able to compensate if they make compromises and leave them, and then quarrels, upsets, refusal to communicate, attempts at manipulation, emotional blackmail and "revenge" become part of everyday life.

You don't have to leave things in the room. Everyone has their place, with purpose. Well, even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person.

You are in a session, or you may have had too many meetings with friends, or you are too busy with work activities. Whatever the reason, your camera doesn't look right. You will clean at the end of the week when you will have more time.

You're at the table, you put everything you need or, well, almost everything. You notice that the napkins are out of reach but you don't get up to pick them up; you can eat without. Ultimately, if you need them at some point, you will get up for them.

Although you hear in your mother's voice repeating before bed: did you brush your teeth? Why aren't napkins on the table? Is that how a young lady eats?

And then, if you allow yourself such deviations from the rules, these petty crimes, why do you think He will not allow them? Because now you're a couple and you live together?

Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT ain’t for me either, Looks like BT ain’t for me either.

Then why bother when you don't lower the toilet bowl and lid? When do you leave your stuff scattered everywhere? When do you eat with your elbows on the table or even with your hand?

Try to see if you can change, if you can make an effort to listen to that inner voice that tells you you're not doing well and to follow your own rules. If you don't succeed, it means that you can't ask the person next to you to do that. And then all that's left is to get used to your and his negligence.

Don't get upset and pay so much attention when you find out that he is wrong, make an observation and annoy him unnecessarily. Contraindicated to do this to family or friends! It would be another way to tell him, in front of a stranger, that he is not good, that he is not worth much. You would unnecessarily hurt his pride and drive him away from you.

Of course, you can talk about all these common inconveniences, you can try together to make an effort, to change something, so as not to bother each other.

However, the moment you start to notice that something is not working as well as at the beginning, that things bother you that you didn't notice before or that amused you, it's good to meditate more on your relationship, to see why you are satisfied and if you can do something it will be like in the beginning.

Such frustrations sometimes have other causes and it is good to know where they come from, to see if you can do something and, especially, what to be satisfied with you and your partner.

"True love is not a hide-and-seek game; in true love, both lovers seek each other." —Michael Bassey Johnson