Do You Have a Relationship and Work Together, Is It Good or Can It Be the End of the Relationship?

Do you have a relationship and work together, in the same company, in the same office? Whether your relationship started as an office idyll or you were together before and you happen to be employed by the same company, working with your partner can sound great - but is it that great?

When you are loved and working together every day in the same company, although for a while it seems fun and perfect (take breaks together, have the same schedule, go to and from work together), after a while some small problems may occur.

Staying at home and working with each other, seeing each other 24 hours a day can be, contrary to appearances, a negative thing in the couple's relationship.

When you have a relationship and work together:

Constant closeness, always sitting next to each other, seeing each other all day can be the wrong step in the couple's relationship. Why? It may sound good, but in any couple, even if you are crazy about one another, your partners need space and time for themselves. They need short periods of separation, distance, breathing.

There is a theory that says that to maintain harmony, balance, but also to maintain desire, in a couple the partners must alternate the periods of closeness with short periods of distance (days or at least moments of days when they are apart, they do time for himself).

Clinging to each other can be fun at first, but after a longer or shorter period, you will feel that this is too close, and constant closeness will suffocate you somewhat. It is completely natural to need personal space and time for yourself, no matter how much you love your partner!

In the morning, during the day, in the evening, every day you are with your partner… An interesting psychological theory tells us about the oversaturation of stimuli from the person always present next to you - when you spend all your time with a person and always stay with it, passion and the desire decreases due to excessive closeness (you no longer find it exciting and you can't miss it).

Your life will be close to that of your partner and you may end up wanting a period for yourself, an escape on your own, a personal space. You can't miss it - how can you miss your partner, when you always see him / her next to you? The desire begins to diminish - you no longer find incitement and novelty in the other. And your daily routine is starting to get boring.

When you work together, you are also loved and coworkers: which means the difficulty of separating your roles. How do you treat each other at work? You can behave in the same way as in intimacy, as two lovers - in general, it is not accepted and appreciated in the professional environment to manifest emotionally.

Then, do you behave professionally, like two simple colleagues? This can be a bit difficult and you can always treat each other as colleagues and not as lovers… Have you noticed couples in which partners behaved like friends or like brothers and not at all like two lovers? They became very close in time, but they forgot the romantic and passionate side of the relationship between them, so they turned from lovers to brothers!

Enter the competition - when you work together at the same company, you can reach a competition: who is better at his job? Who gets the boss's appreciation? Who has the highest salary? Comparisons and competition can occur in the couple anyway, and if you both work in the same company and the same field, they can become "serious": become rivals, when you should be partners…

Competing with your partner, wanting to see who is better, wanting to win (which implies that you want your partner to lose) is not exactly healthy in the relationship!

Who resembles gather or opposites attract? In other words, is a harmonious couple relationship between the partners that resemble each other and share almost everything or between the different ones, but which complement each other?

As usual, the truth is in the middle: having things in common is beneficial; but it is equally beneficial to have your interests and activities, separate from those of your partner.

Having the same job and working in the same field and the same company can sometimes be too much: the good part is that you can discuss your work and ask each other for advice; the downside is that you can compete, argue about the work you do, and feel suffocated by the other person's presence at work.

So, is it a good idea to work together in the same company and office as a couple of partners? It largely depends on the degree of proximity - if, for example, you have separate workspaces, all of the above is not as problematic as they are if the actual proximity between you is only a few meters!

It also depends on how you perceive this closeness - it may not harm the relationship at all, it may not lead to boredom or suffocation, but it may lead to greater intimacy… It also depends on how you structure your programs: if you have every day in which you do separate activities, then you give yourself time for yourself so necessary even if you work together…