Chickens Don’t Cook Themselves

I have read a string of self help books. All focusing on one area of life. I’m here to share everything to help your mental health, your physical health, and I threw some recipes along the way. Let’s do life together!

In today’s chapter, we focus on staying calm under pressure. As we all know, everyone has a different threshold of patience. And some are situational. For example, I can be calm when it comes to waiting on people, but irritable when it comes to certain family members. Here are a few tips I have to obtaining and maintaining your peace.

Step 1: Find Your Happy Space

Whether it’s you playing a game on your phone, cleaning the house, or taking a walk, you need to find your “happy”. You must gain control so you are in control of your emotions. Some battles are worth the fight. But most times, you’ll lose the whole damn war trying to defend yourself every time you’re angry or upset. Do this with me, breathe in *hold 5 seconds* breathe out. Repeat until you no longer habour that animosity. We can be our own worst enemy sometimes.

Step 2: Regain Peace By Communication

I’m not saying to apologize for nothing. I’m not saying to apologize at all. What I am trying to make clear is that, we’re adults. At this point, you shouldn’t have a problem discussing issues without arguments. In a perfect world. But that’s not always the case. You know when the other person isn’t ready to listen. When that time comes, here’s how to discuss. Start with their importance in your life. Continue with one of the following:

“I feel...”

“I don’t like it when...it makes me uncomfortable.”

“This is the problem...what solutions can we take to fix it?”

Affirm them with either your apology if at fault. And always end with something positive, whether it’s a hug or kiss. End all the bullshit. Holding grudges ages you double time! And some solutions may result in your relationship with that person being terminated. But it’s the closure and peace that you’ll take away.

Step 3:Find A Positive Outlet

Now that you’ve let go of some things. Now it’s time to allow yourself time to let it all go. Paint. Meditate. Read. Find a good movie and watch it. Learn something on YouTube. By all means, do something besides be on this damn phone looking through your social media reminding yourself of what you let go! Hobbies are birthed from things like this. You got this.

Well that’s all I have for today. Catch me next week when I share a recipe and a story. Later guys!