Broken Hearts and Bed Springs

I put pages together with the intention of helping people learn more about relationships. his was written in a notepad over the last year so I've taken the bits that need to be reshaped and added them in an order that seems like a good start..

May they be love, work or friendships. Over the years I’ve come to learn that they wont always be as smooth sailing as we want or expect them to be. And when they reach a point of satisfaction and success, the keep them there takes commitment and care.

I have studied this subject, with the help of a psychology course that I took in 2021 and experience, of the good and bad.

Lost jobs, girlfriends and friends over the years eventually directed me to learning what is it. And for a long time I blamed myself entirely, then learned how it can take two to dance.

I've watched friends grow in their relationship and even get married. Hectic to think the only cards left in the shop before Valentines day are the one's for a 'wife'. I’ve written this content with what I feel has been some of the more helpful information I have gathered through books and research with my own personal touch. It is written it in my own words, and if you take the time out to read it. I hope it helps you to achieve the success and quality in the relationships you have committed to maintaining, repairing, beginning or ending.

I'm pretty sure I started writing this while on my way out of another failed love story. It's been a while since I've revised the content so I'm going to read, then re-read. Then remind myself of the importance of:

1. Numero uno, adios sinorita.

I am a heterosexual man. I love women. So all my content is going to be from my perception. If your gay, lesbian or greedy you can use it to fit to your situation.

So letting go of the ex, if you are in the process of leaving a relationship behind, put a stop to all contact. A bond is built with a partner that is not shared with any other person. No body understands the situation except the two people. There is endless topics I could cover in this but right now I'm putting it straight that when the relationship has ended. When the goodbyes have been said, you must walk away from the situation and you must cut your contact.

Depending on how invested you were in the relationship there is going to be a period of time where you have to focus on keeping yourself and your life on track. How difficult it is all has different factors, and the idea of going back to what your life was can be strange. But your not going backwards, your going forwards.

Were you the one to walk away?

Were you the one to be walked away from?

Letting go of the other person is going to trigger less memories, and if your on your way to dating again the next person you begin to see doesn’t want to hear your still friends with them. Especially not after making progress with you. There is no such thing as friends with an pervious significant other. There can't be, not if your serious about building a new relationship or getting over them.

If your not.. sure. But then are you just fucking with the other persons head and feeling's? Possibly. Are you just fucking with your own head and feeling's? Possibly.

It can also be confusing to someone new hearing your still talking with love interest from the past. Unless children are involved and contact has to be maintained for arranging visits there should be no reason other than you want to work with them to repair or fix the situation.

Baring in mind once they are coming to you with intentions of starting something new.

- Stop the ‘’What could have been’’ thoughts.

What could have been, isn’t and after a certain amount of time, won’t ever be. There is a difference in actually being in love with a person to being in love with the idea of what you want them to be.

This is also something you should minimise doing unless you speak to the person about what your expectations or dreams are. It gives you a more realistic outlook on what the person is expecting from you and you wont continue with high hopes for something that the other person hasnt even considered.

- Love Yourself, don't loose yourself. Unless your bopping to Eminem then loose yourself in the moment u own it u better never let it go. Etc.

We make compromises in relationships, we sacrifice and we change. How you view the world is a confession of your character. How you treat yourself, and what you tolerate is unconsciously teaching others how they should treat you. Take the time you need if something has recently ended, people need time to heal and to adjust to the life change, just don’t end up being by yourself at sixty with a load of cats.

They are your ex for a reason, what you miss isn’t them. It’s what your idea of how thing’s were going to be. You have to be real with yourself, you or they parted ways because one or the other wasn't happy how things were going. Accept that it’s finished and don’t let it cause damage to your next interests. Every ending is just as good as a new beginning.

And that is the last time I will write about an ex's.

So can you spell marriage correctly? Thank you for auto-correct.

A persons intentions become clear after a certain amount of time what they are expect from you. Make sure your not being taken advantage of and it is a given as much as it is received. That is not a sex reference.

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