Being a Boring Person is Acceptable

Most of you are scratching your heads, feeling confused. It's understandable but hear me out. Having a quiet and stable life is what many people want. For me, I like having a career, great friends and followers, and appreciating the simple things in life. When you live your life drama free, your life will run smoothly. As someone who's on the autism spectrum, I like having a structured schedule. In other words, I like having my life in order. However, many people confuse having a boring, stable life with chaos. I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I appreciate the things that life has offered me and the people who love me. I've been writing stories on Vocal for nearly a decade, and I like discussing the many interests that might be relatable to others. As far as my dating life, most men wouldn't date me because of one reason: I don't party or attend parties. It's not to say that I dislike parties. I just don't hardcore parties that involve drugs and alcohol. I don't begrudge anyone who wants to partake in that. It's just not how I like to have a good time. I rather remain drug and alcohol free and attend parties and get-togethers that are exciting, like Super Bowl parties.

We have to accept that we're boring people in some capacity. It doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you or you're a bad person. You're just prioritizing the things that are important to you, such as pursuing your goals, whether they're personal or professional. Since childhood, I was severely bullied and became a people pleaser once I became an adult. Even in adulthood, I desperately wanted people to like me, because I hardly or ever received any attention from my parents growing up. Now, I've resigned to the fact that I'm comfortable with being my authentic self and focusing on my career, interests, and so on. Everyone isn't going to like you and that's okay. I stopped being a people pleaser and not caring about what others thought about me. All I do is rely on my faith to help me get through this thing called life and live it well.

I rather spend a night at home streaming my favorite TV shows and movies and play video games than going out to clubs. That's the honest truth and as I've stated earlier, most men would reject me because I'm not a party animal: smoking, drinking, and doing God knows what late at night. I'm nearing 40 and it's not how I like to spend my time. You wanting a simple and stable life doesn't mean that you're boring. It just means that you refuse to entertain drama in your life. The ones who say that you're a boring person are bitter or don't know how to not be chaotic. I've been estranged from my parents for nearly 15 years and I'm a lot happier and my life is less stressful. Many of my readers and subscribers on Vocal know about my tragic childhood. For those that don't, I encourage everyone to read my previous stories.

These days, I surround myself with positive people, such as my friends and followers on social media. I seek things that will make me happy, because the only person who's responsible for your own happiness is you. Don't rely on others to make you happy. Stop trying to impress others who don't give a damn about you, won't give you the time of day, or who want you to fail. Being boring can benefit you in a positive way. Focusing on your career, hobbies, having supportive friends, etc., means that you're living life drama free and also free from distractions. Never allow someone to make you become someone that you're not. Boring is awesome, so embrace it.