Avoiding 7 unsafe habits may change your entire love life.

To be honest: no one wants to be in an unhealthy and chaotic relationship. We all want to have a beautiful and satisfying relationship.

Although it is logically impossible to establish a perfect relationship because there is no such thing, we can at least hope that there is a deep understanding and mutual respect for each other's personalities in the relationship.

However, we are the ones who bring difficulties to ourselves and our partners by developing and displaying meaningless, energy-consuming and even ineffective habits.

The worst part?

These habits only make us bad partners and hinder our dreams of having a beautiful and satisfying relationship.

There are many such habits, but today, I will only talk about habits fueled by insecurity. In particular, unsafe habits made my ex-girlfriend and many other women become scary and even poisonous partners.

Therefore, if you act in one, several, or any of the ways, eliminating these habits may permanently change your entire love life.

1. You abandon your friends for him.

It doesn't make sense for a person to completely abandon their friends and stick to a new partner 24/7. However, some women end up rejecting those who care about them most.

We all know that being in love reduces the time we spend with friends.

But letting go of your friends as if they weren't there in the first place is a terrible mistake.

Life itself is not a stable playground. Things can get worse at any time, and you might end up single again. That's why you shouldn't give up the people who will stand by your side at this time.

How to change this:

Arrange time to hang out with your girlfriend. Don't expect them to be friends with him, because they don't have to. Try to avoid gossiping about your man with your friends, or gossiping about your friends with your man. Finally try to keep up with traditions, such as keeping up with common hobbies, occasional outings, etc.

Your friend is likely to be a part of your life long before any boyfriend. Cultivating your relationship with them will be the best thing, not just abandon them.

2. If he does not send text messages or call back, you will be frightened.

The surest way to feel pain and unhappiness in any relationship is to expect your partner to always put you first.

If you want happiness and comfort, you need to understand that your priorities cannot and will not always be consistent.

When your man doesn't reply to your text messages or answer your phone calls, don't panic, just remember that we men are also human beings. We do miss calls and cannot reply to text messages. This may be because we are very busy and may eventually forget to send text messages or call back.

Besides, no one can miss you 24/7, and neither can you, which is normal.

How to change this:

Don’t let your insecurities and emotions occupy your best side, because not texting you or calling back does not necessarily mean that he ignores you or does not love you.

Unless it seems that he did it deliberately for some reason, either because he was crazy or something. But if that's not the case, calm down and don't frighten yourself, because your man doesn't love you.

3. You are easy to feel pain and annoyance for small things.

How often do you find yourself paranoid about small and trivial things?

Of course, everyday and annoying things do happen every day. However, if you find yourself being overly angry with some trivial things, such as losing a card game with your partner and ruining your two nights, then the problem may be your insecurities.

If your anger seems to be overwhelming, uncontrollable, and violent, especially in trivial matters, you will create difficult and unbearable things for your man and yourself.

How to change this:

Try to take a moment to breathe, calm your nerves, and ask yourself how important is the thing you are going to be angry about, and what you will get from an outburst of anger because of something that is likely to be irrelevant.

Feeling anger is not entirely bad. It is even healthy and productive, but if you are always angry for doing nothing, it will become a big problem.

4. You give up and avoid talking about your hobbies.

If you give up your own interests and hobbies for your boyfriend's interests and hobbies, will you be happy?

There is a high chance that you will not be truly happy.

The bad news is that you will eventually lose yourself and your identity, which means you will lose your self-image and value, which is very unfriendly to your overall happiness. But the good news is that you don't have to give up what you like to do when you are single for any reason.

You have only one life, and it is a shame to lose yourself and your identity just because you want to make yourself what your boyfriend might like.

How to change this:

The importance of having an independent life and your own identity cannot be overemphasized. Because it allows your love life to float freely and stabilize your happiness.

Don't give up your hobbies and passions. You might even want to discover new ones. Talk about your hobbies like he talks about him. Because hiding your insecurities means that your interests and hobbies are not good enough.

What is sexier than a relationship: a woman does what she likes and a man does his own thing, and they share their experiences while relaxing together?

5. You often remind him of his mistakes.

Do you think you can handle what appears to be a confrontational conversation by pointing out the other person’s past mistakes?

I don't think such a strategy is almost effective. It will even backfire.

The fact is that the "well, you did X, Y, Z" game is a short-term fix that will definitely fail in the long run. It will only make you feel that your mistakes are right or justified at the expense of your relationship.

How to change this:

Scoring will only damage your relationship. Why not face the situation head-on? Why not take responsibility for your own transgressions?

Why not try to apologize and make up? Remind your man that the things he did wrong in the past are just a defense mechanism to avoid the reality you don't want to face. And you will eventually bring up past mistakes, and he may apologize and compensate for it.

Worst of all, this will tell him out loud that you are ruthless and that no matter what he does wrong, he will stick to it forever. Who would appreciate this terrible behavior of his woman? I do not know either.

6. You are easy to feel pain and annoyance for small things.

How often do you find yourself paranoid about small and trivial things?

Of course, everyday and annoying things do happen every day. However, if you find yourself being overly angry with some trivial things, such as losing a card game with your partner and ruining your two nights, then the problem may be your insecurities.

If your anger seems to be overwhelming, uncontrollable, and violent, especially in trivial matters, you will create difficult and unbearable things for your man and yourself.

How to change this:

Try to take a moment to breathe, calm your nerves, and ask yourself how important is the thing you are going to be angry about, and what you will get from an outburst of anger because of something that is likely to be irrelevant.

Feeling anger is not entirely bad. It is even healthy and productive, but if you are always angry for doing nothing, it will become a big problem.

7. You always apologize excessively.

Many people cannot resist the urge to apologize even when they do not need to apologize.

This is especially done by people who depend on each other-they are obsessed with pleasing others and caring too much about people's ideas. People with low self-esteem think they are bad and are afraid of doing wrong. People who often feel inadequate because of the high standards set for themselves due to perfectionism...I can continue. But I just want you to know that all these people have one thing in common-a sense of insecurity. None of them feel safe.

The truth is that excessive apologies can make you appear less confident. It affects your mental health and makes you feel sad for everything, even things that have nothing to do with you. Worse, it makes people around you feel bad in some way.

Whenever my ex-girlfriend apologizes for things that have nothing to do with her, I usually feel a little sad. Sometimes she even apologized for my own mistakes, which made me feel uncomfortable.

How to change this:

When you obviously did nothing wrong, there is no point in apologizing. This is why you should only apologize if you hurt someone’s feelings, said or did something offensive, violated someone’s boundaries, or did not respect someone.

You don't have to apologize for how you feel, for things you can't control, for not responding immediately, for things your man did (of course, he is an adult) or need something, etc.