Authentic Connection: Effort or Being?

I've come to a profound realization: none of the people who are truly good to me became my friends because I tried to make them so. Instead, we were drawn to each other naturally, connecting with ease as soon as we met. I now understand that no relationship in this world can be forced. If you attempt to gain affection by sacrificing your true feelings, you are destined to fail. People who genuinely like me don't need me to force myself to do anything; they simply want me to be free and happy.

Therefore, we don't need to try hard to get close to anyone; we just need to try hard to get closer to ourselves. Trying too hard in any endeavor often leads to disappointment due to excessive expectations.

Regardless of who it is, as long as your frequencies align, you won't need to exert much effort to approach them. Relationships thrive on attraction, not pursuit. Any true emotion lives in fate, not in forced connections. Anything that requires you to make special efforts to approach will likely lead to significant losses, including your energy and attention, and most of these won't be healthy relationships.

The right people, a good social circle, and balanced, healthy energy in your relationships are all effortlessly achieved, requiring minimal effort or obstacles. Experts often choose to remain calm and silent, which is also a way to protect their own energy field. After all, contact with people who have the wrong "magnetic field" can lead to severe depletion, potentially lasting for a short while or even several days in serious cases.

The reason is simple: ordinary people are often burdened by the "five poisons"—greed, anger, ignorance, arrogance, and doubt. They are unaware of their true selves, do not understand the authentic path, are narrow-minded and biased, and do not comprehend sincerity or compassion. A truly good person, one who can see their true nature, is actually much rarer than gold.

Therefore, I recommend constantly reminding yourself to overcome your emotions, or at least to be aware of them at all times. Then, stay rational and learn to be silent. Don't speak carelessly or offer unsolicited advice. It takes three years to learn how to speak, and a lifetime to learn how to keep your mouth shut. People who vent their emotions indiscriminately are constantly demonstrating their low level of self-awareness, and they will ultimately be marginalized. Your time and energy are incredibly precious. Socializing is sometimes a process of competing for energy. Low-level means of plunder include jealousy, slander, and framing; higher-level means include PUA (pick-up artistry), brainwashing, and exploitation. More advanced means include sincerity, directness, altruism, and compassion.

For those with low-level energy fields, once you become entangled with them, it will be difficult to discern the people and things that are truly important and worthy of entering your life. If you pay attention to those negative voices and allow your thoughts and emotions to follow them, then you are caught in their game. A smart person will never ask questions about things they shouldn't know, and will never believe anything they don't want to believe. Don't expect others' recognition; ignore the attitudes and opinions of irrelevant people. Do what you truly want to do, are capable of doing, and know how to do, and persevere to the best of your ability.

In other words, you may indeed be richer than I, have more connections than me, and be more eloquent than I, but I will not join your game. I have neither hopes nor expectations from you, so it's futile for you to show off to me.

When I started walking towards myself, everywhere I went was wilderness.

Thank you for reading!