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Hello, I wasn't sure but I figured I would leave you a basic idea before asking my question.

Tempting to be a bad girl in a bad bitch world,

or should I say in one that ass rules

and looks is important too.

Do I stop drop a smile or keep it pushing?

I am a homebody with a little bit of "cushion".

a lot of men have said I am insecure.

No offense that should be attractive, if I don't question you.

Also, how you know that?

There is no win or lose with these men.

Just have to be that women willing to be strong enough for that man.

I don't know if I believe in soulmates

does that mean my soul isn't whole until I have found

the other half?

Anyways, I love the way a women just role with the punches and I guess men deal with the wild side regardless!

Yet considering the fact that only fans exist and these women are escorts or mistresses welcomely, I get so discouraged. Knowing a lot of men love it and a lot of my friends or even relatives are into the sneaking around with any other womans man. How can I stay loyal or committed. Especially after entering a totally dishonest relationship. Or even falling into this generation of lust, how do I agree to engage in intercourse with no feelings, and while having an emotional attachment to a man.

I guess in my mind it's be a hoe or be a loyal no. Almost like don't hate the player hate the game?

There is no escaping men who find pleasure, fun in the thought of paying for a woman with her time and sexual attention. Women who find it funny to fuck their friends or enemies man for a benjamin and whatever party item they dabble in.

Yet the temptation of being a bad girl comes quick.

Men, including my brother, sometimes they make me feel like I shouldn't even try to be a good girl or girlfriend.

I am starting to fear my heart will be cold or is too cold already to even help me out.

Like Jazmine Sullivan says "maybe I should look like a stripper, wearing fashion nova dresses, all these dudes so pressed and impressed with it. It aint right how these hoes be wining for a hopeful girl like me. I ain't want to be but you gone make a hoe outta me."

My question is how do I prevent this from happening?

-me

Hey Girl,

Hesitation in temptation is no good for a reaction to a painful situation.

No biggie I love the way you explained your feelings and totally understand where you are coming from. I know it is tough to be going through commitment issues. Its always tough when you have been through many things and this goes for both man/woman.

No worries you can find a way to prevent those negative feelings and thoughts of being cold hearted by remembering who you are without those people who make you feel that way. Sometimes it could be you just overly thinking. Be a dreamer, stay creative. Following temptation is being like everyone else. Don't be like everyone else. Be different but be you. Everything good for you comes with that.

You do not NEED a fat ass, a big nice wig, perfect titties, lashes, and whatever else everyone has. You need to love yourself first and more than ever before in order to be strong enough to believe in whatever it is you've always believed in. We should not change who we are to make comfortable for someone else. Nor should we become cold because the pain left temptation to endless grief and mourning.

Sometimes a womans wilder side or dedication can make a broken man nervous. Oftentimes men tend to push away women who have resepect for themselves or show existing self-love. Sometimes if you would not break and give in or submit to a boyfriend as a wife would her husband, for some reason men tend to sit on that thought thinking well maybe one day I will lose her and its not that easy to please her. You need to make it clear you are a treasured prize to win. That paying will not dedicate your love but it will open your mind to greater things. You must take it easy and slow. If you want to say I love you say it! Thats the only thing you can do. Remember love is love. You can love someone who is with you everyday, someone you fight with or someone from a distance. The key to the new world is cutting your ex completely out and not ever comparing two people to each other.

Also, don't lower your standards for what you like, don't lower your self-esteem over another women and what she has. No one has it perfect and love is the hardest yet most valuable. Remember that these men don't cry as much as us and if they do it's not often shared with other people. Many don't know how hard it is to move forward in life after being completely broken, or finding out your significant other took money to cheat or gave money to cheat.

Just stay committed and loyal to your self-love. Temptation to be a bad girl is one thing and yet temptation to be a bad bitch is another thing. Be careful what you wish for as they say. Stay Smart. Be-Youtiful!

In other words, you got this!

-Love you