Are You Afraid of Raising a Lazy Child?

How do you encourage your child to be ambitious, how do you make them try and want to be good at what they do? Give her a warm, emotional family environment, fulfill her physical and emotional needs and be a good parent!

Children develop emotionally and intellectually harmoniously if they feel safe, supported, appreciated, loved. If, on the other hand, all he hears is "why can't you be as good as X", his self-esteem is negatively affected and he will come to believe that he can do nothing good. So the key is in affection and appreciation!

How to encourage your child to be ambitious:

Stimulating games. Especially when he is little, he plays with him and offers him various stimulating games - in which to use his imagination, reason, ability to visualize.

Don't limit yourself to storybooks and cartoons! A very stimulating exercise is, for example, to read the beginning of a story, and then imagine together how the story can go on! Get interested and buy him games to develop his mind, not just fun toys. And she spends time with him, always praising him when he does something successfully.

Appreciation. As mentioned, it is the key to developing the child's self-esteem and ambition. Praise him when he does something good, tell him how well he is doing and how proud/proud you are of him!

But don't make it a habit to praise him for anything - he'll come to believe that everything he does is good and that he shouldn't try. When a task doesn't go too well for him, tell him he has to try again, don't praise him in vain. But when he is successful, show him that you admire him.

Accept his failure. Don't exaggerate when he can't do something, don't look disappointed in front of him! Everyone is wrong, which is normal. Everyone has failures and does less well in some activities. When he makes a mistake, he tries to explain why he made a mistake, but it doesn't make him feel useless.

Encourage him to try again and not force him. If, for example, he has difficulty with one of the school subjects, stay with him, show him what he is doing wrong, try to explain it to him, but do not force him to work too much on that subject - he will develop a rejection of it. What matters is not only how you encourage your child to be ambitious, but also how you teach them to manage and accept failure. He must not believe that with a failure, he cannot succeed at some point.

Reward. It's good when he's successful - when he wins a contest, wins a prize, learns something interesting, gets him used to a small reward. It doesn't have to be a gift, but you can go somewhere on the weekend together, you can let him do something he likes and he doesn't often have the chance to do it.

Competition. How do you encourage your child to be ambitious? Teach him to enjoy the competition! Encourage him to compete with his / her sibling (if he/she has a sibling) or with friends, colleagues. But a controlled, friendly competition, in which he knows that it is not the most important thing to win, but to try to be the best!

It doesn't give him the idea that the most important thing is to be the best. The most important thing is to give his best, regardless of the result. So encourage him to play stimulating games in the competition, but not to overestimate the winning, but the competition itself. If you notice that he is taking the competition too seriously, calm him down and tell him that it is better to cooperate with his brothers/colleagues, to get along well with them than to defeat them.

When he is older, you stimulate his competitive spirit yourself, playing games such as chess, backgammon, rummy - but teach him with the funny game, with the acceptance in case he loses, and with the prohibition of cheating.

Positive example. Give him a positive example - yourself! Tell him how good you were at a certain activity and how the world admires you and encourage him to try to be good too.

But you need to be careful about this situation: the effect may be the opposite of what you want. If you tell him too well how good you are, he might think he's not good enough. So don't forget, while stimulating him with a positive example, to praise him for his qualities.

Interest. How do you encourage your child to be ambitious? Pursuing his interests. Every child is different and develops different interests. All you have to do is encourage them to show interest in certain areas. Even if you hope to be attracted to math/biology/history/literature, he will choose his field of interest.

Accept him and don't force him to be the best in a field where it is clear that he has no special interest. Don't push him from behind to like the same things you liked. But when you notice that he is better, he has skills and he is also passionate about a certain field, encourage him, stimulate his interest, making him more attractive and more interesting books than the ordinary textbooks!