All People Are High Value

I have often come across the idea of a valuable person, or sometimes a valuable man or woman, and their qualities.

Most people, I think, would like to be regarded as valuable people and an asset to those around them.

When I think about how I can be valuable to people around me, I often think about how I can benefit them in the best way, make them happy when they are sad, and be their support and company in times of hardship.

However, it seems that societies' understanding and values are different when it comes to people.

Materialistic people are going to base the value of a person on their wealth and status.

Those who value knowledge and information value learned people.

Religions tend to value religiousness. As a saying of the Prophet Muhammad says, “there is no superiority of an Arab over a non-Arab except in God-consciousness.”

And that: “A woman is married for her wealth, her beauty, her family status or her religion. Take the religious woman may your hands be rubbed with dust (may you prosper).

Therefore, who we see as an asset or value to us depends on the values we hold.

Quite commonly, we find that on the internet valuable people — men and women — are held to be people who value themselves and even have many boundaries or high expectations of other people around them.

High-value people are said to look after their appearance, dress well, and do well in life. They keep promises and appointments and strive to be their best in all areas of life.

They will also set many boundaries with people and will not accept people wasting their time or who do not treat them well.

They are said to be valuable because they value themselves and their time and don’t need others.

On the other hand, there are people who are called, “low value,” who is said to have a lot of free time, do not take care of themselves as much, and are always available.

I don’t know if I am understanding this correctly, but it sounds like the high-value person is a bit selfish stuck up, and snobbish, wanting to put themselves, and their needs first.

The low-value person sounds like a family person, who wants to make and keep time for others and who puts them first, maybe at the expense of their own selves.

This seems to be the problem in society currently. We are not actually valuing kindness, generosity, compassion, or people who want to give us their time and attention.

Instead, we are valuing people who may put themselves first, and their life goals before any sort of relationship.

What is worse is when we undervalue the people around us who may put us first and make us a priority and give us more of their time.

No wonder there are so many unhappy unfulfilled in society within their marriages and relationships.

To be honest, I have some issues with the whole concept of high and low-value people.

I mean, I think it is not nice to call people high or low value. If we call some people high value, it means others are low value.

Can we call any human being ‘low value?’

What is the meaning of ‘value’ actually?

According to philosophers, such as Aristotle and Nietzsche, a thing has value because we give it that value. Things do not have value in and of themselves.

Therefore, in a sense, it makes sense to say that a ‘high value,’ person is valuable because they gave themselves value.

Then again, we could value the ‘low-value person’ and make them valuable too.

But I wonder, does the low-value person de-value themselves? Or are they just trying to value the relationship, even putting it before themselves?

In fact, just someone believing or feeling that they are more valuable than others — or people saying so does not make them so.

I think this is an issue of confidence or high self-esteem.

There may be other ways a thing becomes of value to us.

A thing is said to be valuable when we derive benefit from that thing. The more benefit we derive, the more value something has.

Something is also valuable when it is dear to us and precious to our hearts. Some of the things we value are those things that we appreciate having around.

Therefore, I think that if we are calling people ‘high value’ at times, the real meaning is subjective to us and refers to those people who most benefit us in our lives.

I mean the people who care most about us, who do the most for us, and who strive for our well-being and our happiness should then be the most valuable to us.

Also, those who we love and care about, who we enjoy their company and are happy to be with are all valuable to us.

We value them for who they are and for what they do for us, no matter if they lost their job, have too much free time, have not reached their goals or put on a bit of weight, or lost it.

While appearances, status, and confidence are important, we may find that the most valuable people to us in our personal lives are those called ‘low value’ by many articles on the internet.

This does not have to mean they are really low value, or that they are to us.

I do not actually believe that a person can be objectively low value.

If we do see them as such, then we most likely do not like them and would be better off letting them find those who truly value them for who they are.

Otherwise, we can support them in their quest for self-improvement and becoming the best versions of themselves.

Perhaps, therefore, our families are the most valuable to us, as well as our friends and those close to us.

I don’t think it is nice to call people ‘low value,’ just because of society’s expectations. Perhaps the person who looks the best takes good care of themselves and strives to be the best will not necessarily treat you in the best way, or be good to you.

And if you value them will they value you back? Or will they call you ‘low value?’

In fact, I learned something from some Somalian women, that even in the case of marriage, the person who proposes might not be exactly what she wanted.

So instead of calling him ‘low value,’ she simply asked him to change his appearance and change different things until he had become the kind of person she wanted to marry.

He did as she wanted and they got married.

So we can make people into those we truly value when we give them a chance.

All people have a value to someone, and some people somewhere so who we value is subjective based on how we like and benefit from the company of someone.

If we are going to call anyone ‘low value,’ I think this is also based on how they are with us.

People who lie to us, cheat us, backbite and slander us, don’t keep their promises, and cause us more harm than good may be called, “low value” — because that is what they give out.

However, still, I don’t think that calling people high or low value explains much or gives many benefits.

I don’t know if others agree or what are their thoughts.

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