After turning 25, the 32 slaps that have been slapped by life

　　When I received the reminder in the early morning, I realized that it was my birthday.

　　I was slightly surprised, in previous years, even if I didn't particularly care, I always expected some people to remember me, but today I'm unusually calm, solid and sure.

　　28 years old, an age of anxiety and embarrassment. No one treats you like a child, but no one takes you too seriously either. All the vows and aspirations that were once made were essentially cut off at the age of 30.

　　But can you still achieve your ambitions in such a short period of time? It's hard.

　　But I still feel lucky to accept the fact that I can't change, lucky to find myself in the embarrassment, anxiety, confusion, and finally a glimpse of the truth of life that I didn't care to understand before I was 25.

　　So these words, I want to say to the year I stood at the gate of 25 years old to listen, but also to all the people who will be 25 years old and once 25 years old.

　　May we leave the youth, always young.

　　I. Work and people]

　　1. I'm sorry, this society is not fair

　　When we are young, we can see the unfair side of everything, cynical at the same time, but also for their own hardships to find a little psychological comfort. But really, society is not fair, someone is not only more beautiful and handsome than you, but also more talented than you have wealth, status and achievements. Recognize this, after each harvest also becomes a gift.

　　2. sincerity is not always returned sincere

　　I used to think that trust must be exchanged for not being let down, sincerity can be exchanged for empathy. After being sad again and again gradually understand, in many people's view, you always wear another mask. So, pay for what you have paid for, do not care too much. Just be good to others, don't expect others to be grateful and equally good to you.

　　3. Be yourself, do not care about the evaluation of others

　　No matter how much kindness you have, you will still encounter malice; no matter how deep your sincerity, you will still be doubted; no matter how much softness you present, you will still have to face meanness; no matter how quietly you just be yourself, there will still be people who demand you according to their expectations; no matter how bravely you open yourself, there are still people who falsely decorate a you that he sees.

　　4. More important than intelligence and effort, is the emotional intelligence

　　Before the age of 25, bullying and pride, think they are smart and hard work, do what can certainly be made. 25 years old after the discovery, if you can not learn to be smart, can not control their temper and impulse, can not learn how to make a good impression, then you will progress very difficult.

　　5. learn not to explain

　　Whether or not aggrieved, do not rush to explain, there is nothing more convincing than the results.

　　6. Effort is not something to be proud of

　　You then work hard, did not make achievements, and do not take out a proud face in an attempt to get people's approval. Other people easily made is that you have not done after all the trouble, that only more proof of your incompetence.

　　7. No one takes it for granted to help you

　　Express your gratitude to all those who have made it easier for you, because no one really has to help you. And even if you've helped someone before, don't ask them to help you next time. Only an exchange of equivalence can lead to reasonable help.

　　8. Soft-heartedness is not kindness, is no principle no bottom line

　　Don't be the one who can forgive work mistakes and understand all kinds of objective reasons, your unprincipled will bring the other party's bottom line constantly lower. Once when you find worse and worse and realize the need to follow the normal requirements of the other party, they will feel that you are unreasonable instead.

　　9. Making friends at work is a matter of luck and skill

　　Do not be sad why colleagues and their own always separated by a veil, do not be depressed why the surface of friendly colleagues behind the scenes actually stepped on their feet, do not have too high expectations of any friendship at work, may be a little interest can make you war.

　　10. The best resources are always evenly matched

　　If you are not good enough, your network is mostly worthless. Leave a phone number and add a wechat, in the end may just get a friendly expression. Good connections are not pursued, but attracted. So do not say you know who who who, know does not mean any.

　　11. Do not attempt to change anyone

　　Do not attempt to change someone, whether it is thought or behavior, even if it is close to people. Especially for those who stubbornly live in their own fantasy world, do not try to convince him or overthrow him, that is the same as throwing bombs into the pit, will splash you uncomfortable.

　　12. Stop questioning the ability of others at will

　　If someone can sit in a higher position than you, then he must have at least one aspect stronger than you. And your reflexive questioning and speculation, in fact, also exposed their own nasty.

　　[II. Life and Body]

　　13. Take care of the body, it is not so young

　　From the age of 25, sleep without washing your face the next day skin as tight and smooth as ever, will officially become a pipe dream. Did not eat breakfast, insomnia, stay up late, three meals unpredictable, drink a little more, winter legs, your body will frequently alarm to remind you that it can not afford to toss and turn.

　　14. willing to spend money

　　Buy things that please you. Buy a favorite thing, go to a desired place, eat a delicious meal, not necessarily spent in the place where others can see, but they bring a real happy, can iron out many of life's wrinkles.

　　15. Make money well and save money well

　　Since you want to spend money well, of course, to make good money, the ideal are to be built on the basis of bread before it is possible to achieve. Don't ever think that only graduated not long ago, can first slowly experience life, making money is a matter of the future.

　　16. wear decent clothes, especially intimate clothes

　　Will no longer go to Taobao to buy a variety of cheap clothes, especially underwear. There will always be an expensive set of clothes that can be attended at any time on any occasion without stage fright. Begin to know that good decent clothes will give people confidence.

　　17. Make friends with people who know how to live

　　Before the age of 25, every time you go out to clean up after yourself for more than half an hour, dinner to use the most beautiful tablecloth, judged as "made" and scoffed.

　　But in fact, they will teach you how to better live any ordinary day. You can't write poetry, but you can live your life like a poem.

　　18. Cherish the people around you

　　Constantly experience birth, old age, sickness and death, understand that one more look may be the last, one more day with may be the last. In the next life, whether you love or not, you will not meet your lover and parents again.

　　19. Manage your body well

　　No one will continue to say that your obesity is cute, you can choose to eat crazy food you love, but you also have to learn how to control your weight not to the point of loathing yourself. At the same time don't over pursue thin, you will regret it because of endocrine disorders.

　　20. Home, more important than the house

　　Before the age of 25, I thought buying a house was a pipe dream and told myself "I don't want to be a house slave"; after the age of 25, I started to want to have a stable home from time to time after being tormented by moving to exhaustion. But a warm home decorated with your own heart is always more important than a house.

　　21. True feelings, no distance

　　Those who often say "we live very close to ah, next time I come to play with you" people, often later or not on the see. The distance to measure the affection, even across a street, is a thousand miles away.

　　22. No one is inseparable from anyone

　　No matter who you are, no matter how close you once were, as long as she wants to, disappear in your life easily.

　　Three, life and self]

　　23. Choose friends with the same outlook

　　Friends are not in more, but in whether you can make you comfortable. And the premise of comfort is whether the same values. If a friend is still sincerely happy for you when you succeed, cherish it.

　　"Anyone can feel sympathy for a friend's misfortune, while it takes a very fine nature to dissipate a friend who springs to life."

　　24. Nothing is forced.

　　"Hey, I was forced to do it" and "I can't help it" are often our helpless sighs when we face the life we don't like and the status quo. Later on, it became clear that nothing is forced, it is possible to choose, as long as you are willing to pay the price.

　　25. The pursuit of freedom and the long flow of water do not conflict

　　The actual freedom is the ability to do what you want to do before you are 25 years old, and after that, you understand that the real freedom is not to do what you don't want to do. There is no contradiction between chasing freedom and fine water, you have to believe in the power of slow, calm, down-to-earth and cool.

　　26. Can't be the person you despise

　　There are too many temptations and too much darkness around you. But even if you're in a shithole, you can't take a big bite out of shit. Michelle Obama's quote I especially like: when they go low,we go high.

　　27. Read a good book, read well

　　Why insist on reading? What exactly does he have to do with it? "I can't remember what I ate as a child, but I'm sure it was they that became my bones my blood and made me grow into what I am now." Maybe a lot of things effort and reward are not proportional, but reading should be the only thing that will pay off if you give it.

　　28. Believe in love

　　No matter what age you are, how many times you have been cheated, how deep your heart has been broken, always believe that there will be someone who loves you and will not be late because you came.

　　29. There is no marriage relationship that is sure to last

　　Believe in love, but do not feel that marriage is a must long. Responsibility is something that needs to be taken care of. After all, you do not have any blood relations between you, love is also slowly consumed by trivial.

　　30. understand cheating, but do not forgive

　　No longer will be for cheating things righteous anger, anger. The actual fact is that it is very difficult and valuable to sleep with only one person in your life. So it's not unreasonable to understand that they are physically cheating. But I still don't choose to forgive.

　　31. A good mind is more important than anything else

　　Once thought that the more in bad times, the more to grasp to figure out how to solve the situation. In fact, at such times, it is better to adjust their mindset, assuming that the worst state of their own can not accept. Since the worst can be accepted, what is there to be afraid of. There are times when slow is fast.

　　32. you will always be confused, will be low

　　No one can predict how long each low period of life will be, but what is known is that the most important thing to do in each low period is: do not have the idea of "leaving everything behind to ...". Then read more, eat more, spend time with your family, go to bed earlier, do your best with what you're still doing, and you'll be fine. You will be fine.

　　These are some of the summaries of what I particularly want to say.

　　Although I didn't know all the truths on this until I was 25, I got my teeth knocked out all the way and stood up again with a bloody grin.

　　But at 28, I feel lucky, not just because of all the external gains, but because I always get beaten up, but always get back up when God his old man counts to 9.

　　Because of this luck, I forgive myself for the detours I've taken along the way and calmly wait for the call of 30.

　　I still have love, dreams, life, try my best to toss, dream as a horse, the sky is high and the water is long.