About The” Problem-Children.”

Parents should understand when it comes to giving birth to a child with all the responsibilities it represents. It must also make the difference between fertility and parenting and raising a child and educating him.

When we talk about a child with behavioral problems: school, social, we must emphasize some fundamental aspects related to the way they were raised and educated:

1. The character and temperament of the child are born and developed from the first days of life.

They originate from the interaction with the external environment: parents, grandparents, nannies. Later he will reflect on the qualities and defects he took from them.

However, unfortunately, the parents are not aware of this, and when the child's behaviors become evident and disturbing, they prefer to hide behind the phrase: "This is how God left him."

2. A second phase of development begins when the external environment expands.

The filters he learned in his early childhood will make him choose certain friends or develop certain behaviors in relationships with those around him.

If you release him too much during this time or put too much pressure on him, his behavior will develop accordingly.

Parents should understand when it comes to giving birth to a child with all the responsibilities it represents. It must also make the difference between fertility and parenting and raising a child and educating him.

If you understand the above, we can take on the mistakes we made and start correcting them: first to the parents and then to the children.

Let's evaluate in more depth the causes that lead to the formation of a child with problems:

• Parents with communication problems. Or with your child.

• Parents who did not know or failed to become friends with the child correctly.

• Parents who have used their children as a weapon against each other.

• The house's atmosphere made the child want to spend more time outside.

• Parents who rely too much on the child's education only on: kindergarten, school, nannies, substitute teachers. Forgetting how important it is to create a relationship with your child, to whom you can share your qualities.

• Because they traumatized their child: hitting him, insulting, humiliating him, excessively.

• Because the parents did not find the proper forms of education at home: reading a book with the child or with him, watching a quality movie, and listening to music. Or talk to him about great personalities or successful social models. In this way, the child can learn the keys to success by taking the proper landmarks.

• Because they believed that a parent's duty was to provide a roof over one's head, food, and God forbid. And education will come from somewhere… from someone…

Solutions to solve the situation:

• First of all, turn to an experienced psychologist: to understand where he went wrong, what he needs to change about himself, and his behavior in the family before asking the child for something.

• Secondly, to find a formula suitable for both partners in the child's education. Most of the time, the problems appear when the parents have opposite or contradictory opinions about homework, school, money, education, free time.

When two parents argue about raising the child, he will try to manipulate each of them according to their weaknesses. After they have jointly established an education plan for the next period of at least one year, they begin working with the child.

• Keep in constant touch with teachers and make sure that homework for the next day is done when they are home.

• Find a balance between what you give your child and what you receive from him. Here we refer to money, playtime, computer, Facebook. This way, the child will learn that it is essential to offer something to receive something in turn.

• Parents should try to become a model of communication and behavior in the family and society, not to ask the child what they do not do.

• To develop through discussions everything that means behavior based on the code of good manners. This way, I can explain to the child that he will be more successful in his career or when he wants to conquer someone of the opposite sex.

• To punish without humiliating or hitting the child, his behaviors are not typical.

• To enroll and go with the child to a sport, a musical instrument, a drawing class.

Activities that involve the development of the child's skills must be based on:

• innate abilities
• hobbies
• the social models they would like to imitate

The psychologist's conclusion: problems like this are due to the family, and the whole family has to solve them.

For this reason, it is good to turn to a specialist with whom to build a viable plan based on the family model, the problems they face, to learn how to put it into practice, and to consult with him when the program undergoes transformations or things. Get out of control.