A taste of your choice

Match, tinder, Facebook dating, and so many more websites and applications to help people find their love, partner in crime or just a soul mate to not feel single.

The question is what is your true reason to pursue this path to find someone special? Is it because you really desire to find love, your partner who will be there for you? Or is it because society push you towards that search?

Let’s start with identifying what is the relation for you? For me is little more complicated due to I am a single mother, I have to be more detailed in my wish I should say. So, in a single mother eyes, it is where I do not have to explain or excuses the time, I am busy with my son. Raising a child is time consuming life. Some single parents are not ready for commitment, or not ready to be appreciated. So, my partner has to be patient with me. I do read a lot of books and I became belle, who believe in romance and chivalry. Like white roses, open the door, dressed up and holding hands. I am very detailed about what I desire.

When you go to the websites or applications to file your profile and what you are looking for, you hope that you will get what you are looking. But to your surprise you will find a lot of scams, or people asking for one night stand. No one able to hold conversation without talking how much they thrive in physical activities.

After years you just lose interest in dating, partnership. I did. I enjoyed living single life, where I am my own boss. Me and my son went on vacations, we started to draw more and explore the world of art. I entered the CS50 in Harvard to learn the computer science and pursue my dream etc. By being single I was enjoying time to love my son and myself without needed drama in my life.

Unfortunately, I met a good number of women who need to jump in relation from relation. I asked one of them for the reason why? And the answer was not what I expected. She advised that what she is going to do if she is single. That shocked me a little. I keep myself calm and advised of multiple opportunities you can do by yourself without need of drama and broken heart.

The more time I spent on applications or website to meet someone special to me the more I was sure that it is impossible to be. As a Shakespeare say “To be or not to be” can be taken multiple different ways, paths I should say. For me it became to torture myself or not…

Because every time you match with someone or go on a first date you have your hope up no matter how much you prepare yourself. And when you get ghosted or the man push himself towards you in wild manner I should say, you get your soul lost piece by piece or your heart disappear little by little.

That is what happened to me I stopped believing in love, romance, partnership. So, I started to deny everyone because I knew it will never work for me.

But I want other single parents, single people to look when they are ready and they all, you all have that chance. But before you do go to online search always have a best friend to support you in your search. Because third party can observe more that you. Third party is not in love or like the person from online. Your friend, a true friend will tell the truth they see….