A man of bad character, then love also want to let go, a lot of women make this mistake

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Parents oppose, on and off

Fan stories:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. I am 27 and he is 28. We planned to get married four years ago.

At that time, my parents meant to buy a house in the city where I work, which his parents agreed with.

Later, his parents did buy their house, but they did not buy it in the city where I work, but in the city where my boyfriend works.

Because of this, my parents began to disallow us to continue, feeling that they had broken their word.

Still have calculate eight character later, say we belong to each other is half husband and wife.

Because of these things, we argued fiercely, at that time, he bought me a mobile phone, and then asked me to give him the money for the phone, I thought he was too much, so we broke up.

There was no contact, but last year we got back together because we couldn't put it down.

My parents know strongly disagree, said his character is not good, will bully me.

But I think it's been more than two years, we are mature, he will change, he promised to my parents to make it up to me, but my parents just don't agree.

I really do not want to part, together for so many years, he is really good to me, everything for me, money is willing to give me flowers, now I am torn.

Her boyfriend said we go to get the certificate, get the certificate and then say at home.

But my parents said that if I was with him, they would disown me.

And I keep fighting with my boyfriend because of this thing, my heart is very tired, I feel that I lost too much for this relationship, now also do not know whether to continue.

Ask the teacher to give me a direction and tell me what to do.

 

Answer:

A: Hi, girl. Being your boyfriend on the one hand and your parents on the other really puts you in A dilemma.

Let's see what's making this so difficult for you.

You made these points in your letter:

1. When you wanted to get married, you agreed to buy a house in the city where you work, but later you bought a house in the city where your boyfriend lives without consulting with you and your family.

2. He bought you the phone and asked you to give him the money back.

Want you to go privately and he get the certificate, first get on the car, after the make-up ticket.

Did you pick up on that? You said he was nice to you, he was willing to spend money on you, and you also said that over the past two years, as you both matured, he would change, promised your parents he would make it up to you.

But as a matter of fact, there are great contradictions in your letter.

A contradiction:

On the one hand you say he treats you very well and thinks of everything for you. On the other hand, his family promised to buy a house in your city, but they didn't keep it.

Second:

One is to buy you a phone and ask you for money. On the other hand, you say that he has been kind to you for years and has money and is willing to give you flowers.

Contradiction between three:

On the one hand, you say he is mature, but on the other hand, he instigated you and him to get a license without permission because of your parents' objection.

I don't know how you feel after all these contradictions and contrasts. Maybe you understand his difficulties, but at least in my opinion, it seems that your boyfriend doesn't love you as much as you describe.

Well, it seems your parents were right about his bad character.

At least when it comes to getting married, his suggestion that you get a license away from your parents is insensitive and disrespectful.

If he really wants to marry you properly and is really mature, I believe he can handle your relationship in a more mature way.

For example, he could go and fix the house you had a problem with, sell it, buy it in your city, and show you that he really wants to make up for his past mistakes.

For example, he could go to your house more often and give gifts to let your parents know that he's being nice to you.

For example, he can ask his parents to come to the door with him to "apologize", his family offered to give enough bride price to show their sincerity.

However, obviously he did not do all these, he did not think about how to improve your parents' attitude towards him, resolve the past conflict, he is not willing to pay anything, just talk.

I didn't even think about how I could make you feel less conflicted, less embarrassed.

The method he proposed was only advantageous to him. You see, by letting you get a license with him privately, the question of the house could be avoided directly, and the bride price could not be discussed any more.

After getting the certificate, will you tell you to get pregnant, so that your parents can't object?

So did you find it? The guy you think is being nice to you isn't really being nice to you.

Your parents strongly disagree, on the grounds that he is not a good person, at least in this respect, I am on your parents side, I believe your parents are right.

I don't know what you think of this story, what do you think the girl should choose?

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