6 Ways to Make a Friend With Benefits Fall in Love When You're in a Relationship

Friends with benefits relationships typically involve no-strings-attached sex and provide a stress-free method to enjoy the company of people of the opposite sex. The scenario, however, changes when one of you is silently dying within because you want your friend with benefits to fall in love with you or transition from FWB to a relationship, but the other person is quite content with the current state of affairs.

Instead, because you're so attached to him, you can feel locked and unable to find love elsewhere. You can also feel helpless to turn away from this destructive one-way street.

Can a FWB turn into a relationship?

You might be wondering if it’s even possible for a friends-with-benefits situation to turn into love – for both people.

As you know, the problem with this situation is that the people get so caught up in the no-strings-attached sex that you sometimes end up feeling stuck with the FWB label.

But now that you are developing feelings for your FWB, what should you do? Can it turn into love?

The short answer is… yes. It can. But it doesn’t always.

First, you need to understand why this guy might prefer to be in a FWB situation over a real relationship. So, let’s take a look at what a FWB situation means to a guy.

For a guy, what does FWB mean?

Unsurprisingly, a guy usually has it good in an FWB scenario. This arrangement can appear ideal to him if he's not searching for a committed relationship and would rather just have fun.

Why is it good for him? Well, he gets the sex he craves without having to deal with the expectations of having a real girlfriend. You’ve probably heard the phrase, “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” You get the point.

You see, to a guy, a FWB situation means he can have sex regularly and he also gets to keep his freedom, independence, and single status. Plus, he can also keep dating other women because he’s not committed to you or anyone else.

FWB to relationship transition strategy

There are a few strategies you can use to catch his attention and make him consider you for his girlfriend. You might be on your way to the relationship you've been secretly yearning for if you do the correct actions and don't sabotage your chances with him.

The following tips will put you a step ahead of the game, and have him thinking he was in love with you all this time and just didn’t know it yet.

1. Check the signs

The first thing you need to figure out is if he’s into you in any way, or if he’s just mixing sweat with a new girl every night? You want to make sure he likes you on some other level.

He might even want the same thing as you, but he's not sure if you do:

A) excessive promiscuity

b) I'm not into him in that way

c) he was the first item to appear because they were sex-obsessed, or

d) Using him to make someone else envious or to get revenge on someone.

A guy will demonstrate his interest in his friend with benefits in a number of ways when it goes deeper than just the perks.

It's a positive sign if he introduces you to some of his friends, voluntarily admits he's single, spends time with you before or after sex, and never brings up other women.

Even if not all of these indicators indicate that he wants to be in a relationship with you, they may suggest that you are more than simply a sex object to him. He might simply be letting things develop naturally before he approaches you about going together.

2. Vanish when it's appropriate

Shake him up a bit here and there, and then simply disappear for a while. This can be accomplished by answering one of his texts the following day after it was sent. This strategy gives the impression that you are distracted from him and are thinking about something else.

In his opinion, you might be sleeping with another person, reconciling with an ex, or meeting someone you wish to date. All of the aforementioned could frighten him into approaching you since he's worried about you turning to another guy.

3. Avoid being overly accessible

Being very accessible makes you seem carefree. Being perceived as a friend with benefits already has a little disadvantage of making you look promiscuous, but being constantly available makes you seem like a sex toy that keeps wanting more.

That’s not what you’re going for here if you want him as a future boyfriend.

4. Participate in sufficient meaningful talks.

Talking to a guy about things other than sex is an excellent approach to introduce yourself to him outside of the bedroom.

Deep conversations or life-related topics can help the two of you connect on a deeper level and prevent the relationship from being solely about sexual connections.

5. Show your real colors.

Show him that you are a good person and that you have standards if you want to transition from FWB to a relationship. Never let him believe that you're needy, insecure, or that you're using sex to fill a psychological need.

Instead, show him that you are a caring person, but also an independent woman with sexual needs, who isn’t afraid to get what she wants. This will make you look in control.

6. Subtly hint at your wifey side

Don’t start offering to do his laundry, or preparing him a five-course meal when he says he’s coming over for a quickie. Drop hints like “oh yeah, I forgot to call, I was just making lasagna,” or tell him you’re in the middle of cleaning and have to call him back.

This will show him that you have a traditional wifey side that he doesn’t have access to. If he knows that another guy got the full wifey treatment, but he can’t, this will bring out his competitive streak. He will want to have the same treatment that your ex did.

How determined you are to play the game well and win him over will determine whether you can go from FWB to a relationship. Just make sure he's worth all this work if you want your friend with benefits to fall in love with you!

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