5 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist and It’s Time to Run

I remember I was pretty upset when things didn’t work out the way I wanted it to be. Yet my gut still told me that this is the best decision I’ve ever taken for myself.

I’ve been seeing this guy for quite some time and things were going well until I noticed some red flags that annoyed the heck out of me. To the point where I couldn’t be myself around him.

Fortunately, I took a massive decision early to end it before things got worse.

It takes a while to spot a narcissistic but, once you do, you need to quickly take a step back and reevaluate your relationship with them. I couldn’t stress enough how much impact it will do to your self-esteem if you still keep them around.

Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t even date them in the first place:

1. You Can’t Be Yourself around Them

While at the very beginning things might be really great and you feel like you were dying to be with them, that feeling will wear off quickly once you notice how everything revolves around them.

They are the best at making you feel good by feeding so many compliments you’ve never even heard before. Those ‘butterflies’ in your stomach? Yea, you’ll get that feeling too.

However, after you surround yourself with them more, you’ll notice that you can express yourself fully because they mostly have already added some labels in their ‘compliments’.

For example: “you look amazing but I actually like you in a red dress instead” or “I know you are so smart but maybe learn more about this /that?”. It’s their high expectations of us that make us have this limited freedom to even let them know who we really are.

2. You Will Be Pretty Invisible to Them

Because the whole time they are gonna make it all about them, remember?

If you are an ambitious person who has big dreams, it will suck big time. You should be able to share everything with your partner— goals, dreams, and what inspires you to reach them.

But how are you going to open up when you aren’t given the chance in the first place? Most of the time, you’ll only listen to their stories and their life plans.

3. Your Insecurity Goes Up

I can’t stress how real this feeling was. I was convinced that I couldn’t do any better in life just because he told me so.

Unnecessary thoughts will also cross your mind and make you overthink more than usual.

Things like: “Am I really that sensitive?” or “I don’t think I deserve this”.

It’s where you start questioning your own self and ended up having doubts about what can and you can’t do, where things are going bad.

Because you shouldn’t ever surround yourself with people who make you feel like you can only achieve certain things in life — leave alone dating them.

4. Your Feelings Wouldn’t Matter to Them

Narcissistic people tend to have lesser empathy or sometimes they don’t have at all. This is because no matter what you are going through, they’ll always think that they have it worse.

You definitely don’t want to date somebody who all they are doing is invalidating your feelings. As if whatever you feel doesn’t mean anything and their feelings should be the only one that matters.

Not only this will mess up with your self-esteem, but you’ll also have a strong resentment because they make you feel unworthy of being heard.

5. You Don’t Know if You Can Trust Them

This will happen because you aren’t sure anymore if they are coming to you because they truly care or it’s only because they want something from you.

It’s literally such an endless loop because everything is changing so quickly between you two and you’ll be put in such an emotional roller-coaster.

There will be so many lies that you didn’t deserve in the first place and nothing feels real anymore.

The Takeaways

While it can be very tempting to think that maybe you can make it work and hope that he’ll change, I’m telling that wouldn’t be the case.

They chased and tried hard to win you over at the beginning and later showed their true colours should be your valid reason to make a better decision for yourself.

For some people cutting it off would be too harsh, I’d recommend to gradually walk away and redirect your energy into focusing on your life. Because if you keep investing, the cost you’d pay isn’t just worth it.

I’m sure we all deserve the best things that we believe in strongly and we shouldn’t let anyone else make us think otherwise.