5 Clichés to Avoid When You Break up With Your Partner

Clichés to avoid when you break up with your partner: whatever the reason you choose to end a relationship, your partner deserves more than the ultra-worn clichés! Your partner deserves the truth, even if it is cruel - trying to get rid of a confrontation using used remarks means cowardice, but also disrespect…

Therefore, even if it is not easy at all when you want to end the relationship, avoid clichés when you break up with your partner, especially when you know that he/she still loves you, that he/she would not want to forever a breakup when you know he/she will suffer. What do you have to tell him?

The truth - the reason why you don't want to continue: either you fell in love with someone else, or you don't love him/her anymore, or the relationship doesn't satisfy you anymore and you want something else, or you realized that you don't fit or that you can no longer stand all the quarrels between you. Your (future) partner deserves at least a sincere explanation.

5 clichés to avoid when you break up with your partner:

"It's not your fault, it's my fault" - in other words, the classic "it's not you, it's me". Nothing is more annoying than this reply. It doesn't even make sense: maybe it's nobody's fault, maybe the relationship just doesn't work out.

Or maybe it's someone's fault: but this cliché retort doesn't explain anything. Do you think that your partner will breathe a sigh of relief when he hears that it is not his fault that you do not want to be with him/her anymore ?!

"I still care about you as a friend," and of course, "I hope we stay friends." Even in the rare case when you want to remain friends with your partner after you break up, it is a reply too worn and inappropriate for the moment when you end the relationship.

The partner is sad, shocked, angry, confused - anyway, he is not in the mood to say "okay, we'll be best friends now"! If you intend to be friends, you need to give them time to break free from strong emotions. And the attempt to soothe and comfort your partner when you end the relationship by telling him "I care about you like a friend" is better to avoid. In his / her condition, he/she will translate these words as "you are a good guy, I like you, but you are not good enough to be my boyfriend too"…

"I understand you, it's hard for me too." Among the clichés to avoid when breaking up with your partner, this one is forbidden! Nobody denies that, probably, especially if you've had a long relationship, it's hard for you to end it too. But telling your partner the moment you leave him/her is annoying and even cruel.

If it's really hard for you, if you suffer, then don't do it! If you have chosen to do it, then you think this is a good choice, so accept your regret without trying to be nice! When you leave a person, you can't tell them that you understand them: you are the one who dropped the bomb, he/she is the one who feels the explosion! Even though you know that she is suffering, that she is experiencing intense emotions, you can't live them too - so you can't understand how your partner feels…

Anyway, saying "it's hard for me too" is a reply that wants to show how sensitive you are; unfortunately, when you break up with your desire, you have to accept the role of the "evil" - you will not find sympathy with your partner, especially when you tell him…

You feel horrible because you cause pain, you feel sad because you end a relationship, you feel afraid of the other person's reaction - but do not compare your emotions with those felt by the one you are leaving and do not ask for understanding at this moment.

"You'll be better off without me" - along with other clichés such as "everything will be fine", "it will pass and you will see that it's better"… Even if you think it's best for both ends the relationship because it will not make you happy, the partner may have a completely different opinion.

If he/she suffers and is shocked by your desire to end the relationship, it is better to swallow dry than to tell him/her the moment you break up that it will be better for him/her. Maybe, in the future, he will be in another relationship that will make him/her more fulfilled, happier.

But now, when the relationship is in full swing, he/she does not want to hear or think that this is the best. Because nothing that happens is good for him - it seems shocking and awful, it seems painful and almost unacceptable.

"I don't deserve you, you'll find someone better." And the last of the biggest clichés to avoid when breaking up with your partner - a continuation of the above. You want to break up, but you explain your choice by the fact that your partner deserves a better person. Honestly, how do you feel, how would you feel to hear this line from someone you love?

Does that sound honest to you? No, because even when she is sincere, it sounds false in the context of a breakup. When your partner is suffering because of a breakup, you do not bring him any relief by saying that he deserves something better.

Maybe it's true - maybe you weren't the right partner, a good partner for him/her. But honestly, that's not why you want to end a relationship - not because you want someone better and because you don't deserve him/her, but you have completely different reasons.

So choose the mature, respectful, and honest way (although difficult), giving your partner an explanation, Of the real reason why you don't want to be with him/her anymore…