15 Signs of an Adult Psychologically Grown-Up Man

He already has 20+ in his passport, according to his physical parameters he is a mature man. He is characterized by expressions such as "my parents made me unhappy", "my mother-in-law is to blame for our broken marriage", "the government is to blame for all my troubles", "my husband does not make me happy".

So is this a mature man or not? By law, yes. But there is also mental maturity, without which man cannot be considered an adult. But in this respect, things are much more complicated…

Before listing the signs of an adult psychologically, it is important to note that being an adult does not mean being always serious, responsible, boring, and not allowing yourself to spontaneously enjoy life, make mistakes, or have a natural, unhindered behavior, as children do.

This only means that an adult has several roles in his arsenal, which he can apply consciously. In other words, he can choose when to be serious and responsible, when to allow himself to react childishly to the situation and when to try the role of parent or teacher.

Or in each of us live three states, which characterize us throughout life: adult, child, and parent. Troubles often begin when we do not apply for these roles at the right time. For example, the person has to take responsibility, but he behaves like a child and avoids it.

Or when he has to learn something, but he doesn't want to do it and laziness knocks him down. Or vice versa, when he must sincerely enjoy something, but it is found that he has already forgotten what it is like to rejoice and his life loses its charm…

For this, we need to mature, for life to take on color, to become more diverse and harmonious.

And one more thing: the man described below does not exist. There are no ideal people. This list is not intended to be ticked off point by point and you realize that you are not matching and that you are not very mature.

It is like a landmark, to which you should aim, it serves as a vector and a possibility to identify the vulnerable points on which you have to work. So we read, we analyze, but we are not saddened by the fact that we are not perfect. We approach the situation constructively, like mature people, you can even arm yourself with a sheet and a pen for more productive work.

So a psychologically grown adult can:

1. Make decisions on your own and make a choice.
2. To deal independently not only with the positive consequences of his decisions (yes-yes, sometimes you may be unprepared for the positive effects as well), but also with the negative ones.
3. To allow himself and those around him to make mistakes.
4. To be responsible for his mistakes, but at the same time to be able to forgive them.
5. To react appropriately to his feelings and emotions: not to suppress them, not to inhibit them, but also to manifest them in a proper form and at the right time.
6. Not to have illusions about the people around him, about the world around him, including about himself, to approach reality as appropriately as possible.
7. To maintain the balance between the proper perception of criticism of him and his dependence on the opinion of those around him. Actively communicate with people, taking into account their opinion.
8. Not to be dependent on other people's support, acceptance, and attention, but at the same time to be able to build strong relationships with others.
9. To maintain a balance between work and rest, not to work to exhaustion and lose interest in what he does, but not to be trapped in laziness and indifference.
10. To know how to motivate himself, to focus on his tasks, to overcome the difficulties that stand in his way.
11. On the one hand, to accept and love, and on the other hand to be severe with oneself and not to be misled. To do this, it is necessary to know yourself, to know your weaknesses. Know them, but don't hate them.
12. To know and defend your limits, to know how to defend yourself, your values, ​​and your dignity.
13. Know and respect the boundaries of others. And don't break them.
14. To know how to love, to forgive, and to accept those around you with their shortcomings.
15. Know how to ask for and accept help when needed.

Is it possible to mature? Of course YES! At any age. The only condition is that you want this and be ready to work. Then life will no longer be chaotic, it will take on color, depth, and harmony.

To do this or not is up to you.