10 Myths About the Partner Soul That Everyone Should Read

When we were young, we all heard wonderful stories about princes and princesses, how they fell in love with each other, and how they lived happily ever after when they got married. We have been taught that we have only one soul mate and that this person (always of the opposite gender) complements us.

As we mature, many of us seek to fulfill this romantic ideal. Some of us spend years wishing and searching for the perfect love that can tick all the boxes and meet all our predetermined criteria. Some of us even carry with us a mental representation of what our soul mate should be, how it should look and behave.

However, instead of the tall, mysterious and rebellious man, we end up falling in love with a logical, emotionally balanced guy with only a higher finger, and, more than that, we are really happy in this relationship.

Cases of this kind are the most numerous among the stories with happy endings. One conclusion may be that we think we know what we want from a person, when in fact we have no idea.

And sometimes, when someone comes up who doesn't fit the picture we have, we close ourselves emotionally and thus miss the opportunity to be happy.

To those who have experienced severe emotional and mental trauma, soul mates appear to them as a kind of holy Mecca or a realm of promise.

When we feel incomplete, alone, and disconnected from ourselves, the idea of loving a soul mate becomes a light of hope, promising us salvation. Soon, we begin to strongly believe that our lover will "complete" us and thus make our lives meaningful again.

10 myths about the soul mate

Deep down, many believe that there is at least one person somewhere who will fulfill all our needs and desires. Such a distorted belief is what causes such a high divorce rate and such a high frequency of dysfunctional relationships in the world in which we live.

There are so many harmful myths about soul mates, stories that flow through our cultural dialogues. All these myths end up becoming, in our minds, stories with the value of truth and ideals from which we can not deviate at any cost.

It is these ideals and beliefs that are responsible for limiting our spiritual growth and our ability to mature as divine beings. The belief that there is "something" or "someone" outside of you that will complete or complete you is not only wrong but also dangerous to our well-being.

With that in mind, let's explore 10 of the most common myths about soul mate love:

Myth no. 1 You can "find" your soul mate

First of all, it is important to get rid of the illusion of control. Wake up to reality: you have no power over when, where, or how your soul mate will appear. All you can do, realistically speaking, is be open and receptive to the possibility of meeting your soul mate.

The human ego tends to believe that it can control life. But life simply refuses to let itself be controlled. Life is as wise, uncontrollable, and mysterious as it is frustrating. Our soul mates often appear suddenly, out of the blue. But it is also common to intuit, feel or dream of your soul mate before it suddenly appears in your life.

Myth no. 2 You will find in your soul mate exactly what you want to find

We tend to approach relationships with preconceived notions about what we want or need. There are so many articles that recommend that you "visualize your soul mate" so that you can "attract" him into your life. This is just another ploy of the ego.

The law of attraction doesn't work that way. Your thoughts and beliefs are the ones that reflect your reality. Your soul mate is often not someone you consciously want, but rather someone you unconsciously attract and need to grow inside.

Myth no. 3 Soul mates will stay with you no matter what happens

This is another one of the harmful myths that create a lot of unnecessary suffering. As a species, we find special comfort in the thought of "always and for eternity" (that's why marriage seems very attractive to us). But that doesn't always happen. Sometimes our soul mates stay for a season, other times they stay for a lifetime.

Myth no. 4 We have only ONE soul mate

However, this may not be true. There are many people who, sharing their thoughts and experiences about love, recognize that they may have had more such experiences in life. Each of them was different, precious, and changed their lives in many ways.

Myth no. 5 Soul mates are always romantic/sexual

On the contrary, relationships between soul mates can be completely platonic, with no trace of romantic feelings or sexual attraction. In other words, your soul mate can simply be your best friend.

Myth no. 6 Soul mates are human

We think of a soul mate in the sense of people loving other people. But many people have felt intense and strong connections with wildlife or pets, connections that transcend human language.

Myth no. 7 Soul mates are of the opposite sex

Religion and tradition would have us believe that soul mates are heterosexual. In reality, love is free; it is not restricted by what is believed to be "good" or "bad." Your soul mate may well be of the same sex.

If you identify as heterosexual, this will come as a big surprise to you. However, it will encourage you to finally regain your true sexuality.

Myth no. 8 Soul mates are single

Love is a complex emotion. Indeed, we cannot choose whom to love - love flows freely and wildly. Who can claim to understand the mysteries of the heart? As such, many people are tormented by the fact that the person they love is already in a relationship or marriage.

As a result, there are two options: you can choose to go ahead and forget, or you can end a marriage. While both are painful, both are a catalyst for further growth.

Myth no. 9 Relationships with the soul mate do not require effort

There is a widespread assumption that loving your soul mate is easy and stress-free. This belief adds to the desirability and idealization of such a relationship.

However, a relationship with your soul mate requires time, effort, patience, and care, just like any other kind of relationship. Without conscious maintenance, even the relationship with the soul mate can fail.

Myth no. 10 Paired souls complete you

Perhaps the most destructive myth of all, the belief that our soul mates compliment us is not only misleading but also selfless. We are taught to believe that our soul mates are our missing halves, when in fact they are only the helpers and catalysts of our spiritual growth.

The idea that the soul mate "completes" us is so popular because it encourages us to transfer responsibility for our happiness and spiritual integrity. It is much easier to put the burden and pressure on the shoulders of others!

So many people start relationships believing that their soul mate will give them everything they want. This belief, unfortunately, leads to problems such as addiction, toxic empowerment, and self-betrayal.

Instead of looking outside for your integrity, why not look inside your precious and still unexplored soul? Everything - all the love, acceptance, and joy you need - is there, waiting to be found.