What Makes You Fall in Love?

Ah, Love is an Open Door, All You Need Is Love, Can't Help Falling in Love With You... Well, you've probably heard these songs before, and they all share a common theme: love is the most powerful and captivating feeling of all. Despite its potential to break hearts, love has nothing to do with the heart itself; it's all about the brain. Join me as we delve into the scientific aspects of love, the hormones, and brain systems that come into play, leading people to compose songs, create masterpieces, and do all sorts of extraordinary things.

Let's imagine your body as a complex system—a factory, if you will. Now, let's explore what happens inside this factory, and which hormones and brain processes—err, employees—are responsible when you embark on a new relationship. The initial stages of love are marked by infatuation or passionate love. During this time, your world revolves around your partner, daydreaming about them when apart and wanting to spend every moment together. This euphoria is driven by the reward processing and motivation center of your brain, the ventral tegmental area (VTA). When this area is activated, happiness hormones like dopamine are released, creating a craving for more of the same positive experiences, much like how puppies learn to give a paw for a treat.

This surge of dopamine also explains why people in the early stages of love often experience insomnia and a decreased appetite. The cognitive center of your brain, responsible for judgment and critical thought, shows decreased activity during this time, leading you to overlook any faults in your partner and see them through rose-colored glasses. It's no wonder that love is often described as blind.

As the brain's reward system fires up, you become more joyful and optimistic about the world, finding even the smallest things delightful. It's like turning into a cheerful version of SpongeBob! However, this initial phase of intense emotions and mental activity usually lasts only a few months.

Next comes the attachment or compassionate love stage, where pair-bonding hormones, oxytocin, and vasopressin, play significant roles. These hormones promote feelings of attachment, trust, and social support. As the bond strengthens, the distinction between romantic love and other forms of love fades away because these hormones also play a role in bonding families and friendships. Oxytocin also helps release stress hormones, making you feel more relaxed when spending time with your loved one.

During this phase, you may feel more comfortable and committed to your partner. While your rose-colored glasses fade, the deeper connection fosters honesty and understanding. However, this is also the stage where some relationship problems might surface. The brain's cognitive regions become more active, leading to a more realistic perception of your partner.

In the unfortunate event of a breakup, the brain is responsible for the pain that follows heartbreak. The torment activates the insular cortex, which processes different types of pain, including social pain. Your brain still craves the reward of being with your partner, even after they're gone, making you daydream about them and feel an overwhelming urge to reconnect. However, as time goes on, the brain's higher cortical regions kick in, helping you gradually cope with the distress and yearning.

To ease the pain of heartbreak, engaging in activities like exercise, spending time with friends, or watching your favorite movie can trigger the release of dopamine, the feel-good hormone. Time and support from loved ones are also crucial in healing the wounds.

While love at first sight is a widely believed concept, the process of falling in love involves not only biological factors but also psychological ones. Psychologist Arthur Aaron devised a set of 36 questions to deepen intimacy between potential partners, leading to a quicker emotional connection.

In conclusion, love is indeed an intricate combination of biological and psychological factors that unite to create a powerful and transformative experience. So, whether you find yourself in the exhilarating throes of infatuation or basking in the warmth of compassionate love, cherish the journey that love takes you on and stay open to the wonders it brings.

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