How love affairs bloom and die

Love has been around as long as humanity has been around on this planet. Neither humans nor gods and goddesses can protect themselves from its effects. The number of love affairs and relationships have increased in these times since men and women work together.

In our society, there’s an entrenched belief that love should be easy — that when you build a loving relationship with someone, things should just “work out”. But this simply isn’t true!

Relationships require work in order to thrive, the same way flowers need tending to in order to flourish. Our word and actions — what we say and do — impact others, and they can bring joy, but they can also hurt. If we do not take the time to nurture a bond we have with someone, especially after it’s been hurt, it will suffer over time.

Astrology Ways

Issues related to love are analyzed through the fifth house in a horoscope. A person may fall in love when he is under the influence of the Dasha of the fifth lord or the Dasha of a planet placed in the fifth house. In Vedic astrology, marriage is predicted by analyzing the seventh house. If the Dasha of the seventh lord or the Dasha of planets placed in the seventh house is running, then also the person may fall in love.

Ninth house is five houses ahead of the fifth house. Hence, the Dasha of the ninth house lord or the Dasha of a planet placed in the ninth house will cause a love affair.

Reasons for love relationships not turning into marriages

The seventh house in a Kundali is known as the house of marriage. Love is not converted into a marriage if the seventh house or the lord of the seventh house does not have a relationship with the ascendant, the lord of the ascendant, the fifth house, the lord of the fifth house, the ninth house or the lord of the ninth house.

Sometimes, combinations related to the success of love relationships are seen in the Janma Kundali and the seventh house also forms relationships with other houses and their lords but these combinations are not found in a Navansh Kundali. It may also happen that both the fifth and the seventh house are weak and afflicted. Due to all these reasons, love relationships do not turn into marriages.

A love marriage is also not possible when the lord of the fifth house is present in the ninth house or when the lord of the ninth house is present in the fifth house.

How to Nurture Love and Relationships

Every meaningful relationship you have is special in its own way. Like the many species of flowers that need varying amounts of water, fertilizer, and sunlight to flourish, your relationships may need to be cared for differently in order for them to grow or heal. To help you out with your relationship “gardening” (ha, couldn’t resist!), here are a few things you can do to help nurture your bonds with others:

Learn to Fight Better

As I’ve already mentioned, conflict is a very normal part of relationships, and it can actually bring people closer together. The important thing to note is how you fight. For example, one of the most useful things I do whenever I feel stressed in a heated discussion is to take a pause. This simple act can stop potentially harmful words from flying out of your mouth — all you need to do is literally pause! When you slow down and check in with yourself, chances are that your response will be more thoughtful and deliberate.

Going forward, choose to work hard at nurturing your relationships through proper care and attention, so that the love you have in your life can thrive, feel beautiful, and be lasting.

Reflect on your most important relationships. Are there any that need a little TLC? What will you do going forward to nurture and cultivate that bond?