Why are men obsessed with women's "breasts"?

Men's fashion magazines are often filled with images of women with ample breasts, and directors and novelists also tend to emphasize the curves of women's chests. In order to cater to men's aesthetics and preferences, many creators seem to treat women as mere symbols of sexuality.



However, if you ask a man why he likes women with full breasts, he is likely to simply reply, “Because it's sexy.” If you press further and ask, “Why is it sexy?” he will probably be at a loss for words, because he himself can't quite explain it.



In fact, people never like something for no reason; they just don't bother to investigate.



The reason men are attracted to women's ample breasts is first related to the memories from infancy (related to taste, touch, sight, and smell).



After emerging from the womb, a baby quickly realizes that when he feels hungry, a white, large, and soft breast will be brought to his mouth. It not only satisfies his hunger but also provides the pleasure of sucking. Moreover, it gives him a sense of love, security, and the happiness of being accepted. When a baby is hungry, a larger breast means more “food” and a fuller stomach. No baby wants to face a hungry belly with a small, dry breast, because that means going hungry and unfulfilled.



The breast is a part of a woman's body, and it naturally connects her to the feelings from infancy, until one day she uses her own breasts to feed her child. Men, however, will never experience the feeling of “being with breasts” throughout their lives, so they long for the sense of fulfillment and happiness from holding a breast in their infancy. They also have a kind of inexplicable emotion towards breasts, mixed with admiration and desire.



Due to the development of civilization and social culture, women's breasts are required to be covered. However, taboos always spark endless imagination and longing.



In the primitive age, when people lived a very simple life with almost no clothing, the chest was exposed. As civilization progressed and various social rules emerged, the chest became a taboo that needed to be covered. Interestingly, the more it was covered, the more it stood out. For example, many clothing designs like bikinis seem to cover up the sexy parts, but in fact, they highlight the covered areas. When we see a bikini-clad beauty, our visual focus will naturally be drawn to the chest.



This contradiction of wanting to cover up while also highlighting further enhances the mystery of the breasts, making them a natural focal point.



Freud's “Oedipus complex” once shocked the world, and one of the reasons men are fascinated by women's breasts is the “Oedipus complex.”



Oedipus is a character from ancient Greek mythology. The Oedipus complex refers to an adult man's psychological attachment to his mother, commonly known as the mother complex. Strictly speaking, the mother complex is more about the painful and entangled emotions a man has towards his mother. However, in everyday life, people often understand the Oedipus complex as liking older women or those who resemble one's mother.



Developmental psychology has found that around the age of 4 to 5, children will direct their sexual objects towards their parents, with boys showing a desire to monopolize their mothers and resent their fathers. This change is believed to originate from the pleasure of sucking milk from their mother's breast. Of course, most children will successfully pass through this stage and gradually shift their attention to a broader world, continuing to learn and explore.



However, this Oedipus complex remains buried deep in their hearts. All men will show a deep attachment to their mothers in adulthood, and many will even follow their mothers' arrangements unconditionally (which often leads to problems in handling the relationship between mother-in-law and wife, thereby affecting marital relationships).



Since humans have a deep taboo against “incest,” we are very careful to avoid physical contact with older women. This means that no matter how much a man longs to relive the feelings of childhood, he cannot touch or suckle his mother's breasts, and neither our culture nor his education allows him to have such thoughts. Thus, he has to transfer this need to other women. In order to get a feeling similar to childhood, he will subconsciously desire a partner with larger breasts—when he was a child, his hands were small, so his mother's milk-filled breasts seemed especially large.



Finally, there is the most direct reason: due to the XY chromosomes, men cannot have full breasts like women. Because they don't have them, men easily find women's breasts mysterious.



Every boy in puberty has had the desire to peek at women's breasts. The development of secondary sexual characteristics makes boys directly experience the differences between men and women, especially when they only develop an Adam's apple while the girl next to them has a protruding “chest.” No matter how much a boy's voice changes， it can't compare to the beauty of a woman's increasingly full body. With comparison comes difference; with difference comes the imagination of “what it's like.” With imagination, desire naturally follows.



However, it takes a very long time for boys to have the opportunity for intimate contact with breasts. The more unattainable something is, the more mysterious and precious it seems. So boys enter adulthood with fantasies about breasts, and by this time, their breast complex has already formed.