What to Know about Erotic Asphyxiation: The Sexy Chokehold — Is It for you?

True confession. My name is Jacqueline and I love to be choked during sex. When my man is on top, and repeatedly thrusting in and out of me, it is the optimal time for him to firmly wrap his hand around my neck and gently squeeze. I ask for it. Sometimes, plead for it. Even demand it. It very much turns me on.

Why do I like it?

I’m seduced by the surrender of power. I’m fascinated by the way a man knows how to offer just enough pressure to turn me on, but not too much, so as to avoid a dangerous situation. It’s a skillset. Quite frankly, I enjoy being dominated and I’ve always been intrigued by power play in society at large, not just during sex. Being controlled in the bedroom really turns me on. Undoubtedly, there is also an adrenaline rush that comes from having the flow of oxygen restricted and then, released.

I’m not the only one that wants to be hemmed up during sex

Erotic asphyxiation is pretty popular. It’s on the lighter side of BDSM. I can recall one of my closest friends and I were having a frank discussion about sex, and I bashfully let on that I enjoyed being choked. Immediately, she lit up like a Christmas tree to acknowledge “oh my God, so do I”. It helped me to own it a bit more, knowing that I wasn’t alone in my desire to be choked during sex and that I didn’t necessarily need to sit on some expert’s couch in order to unpack the true meaning of why it turned me on. Let me repeat that — You are not alone if this is something you are into.

Let’s discuss the elements necessary to have an enjoyable “Choke Session”

Sometimes a man doesn’t know that erotic asphyxiation is my thing. Typically, it doesn’t make the list of first date convos to have. It’s also not usually how you begin a sexual journey with a new partner. Needless to say, in the beginning I ask for it. I whisper or plead ever so seductively, “choke me, please”. Most men are all too happy to comply.

Before you add this to your own sexual resume:

• Consent needs to be given, EVERY SINGLE TIME! The last thing anyone wants is someone grabbing their neck when they never asked for it, and definitely didn’t want it.

• Avoid direct pressure on your wind pipe and limit your partner to ONLY squeezing the sides of your neck insteadto keep your experience safe.

• Only engage with a partner you trust — Trying this with someone you barely know, is simply not advised. Your life is quite literally in someone else hands, so you want to be selective and prudent about who you hand that much power to.