What Makes a Couple Happy?

Are you part of a happy couple? Sure, you have small problems, small quarrels, but do you consider yourself happy in your relationship? A happy couple implies a harmonious relationship, strengthened over time, and makes both partners fulfilled and satisfied people.

Otherwise, you have to work on the relationship, because happiness does not come from heaven and is not so easily achieved!

10 ingredients needed for a happy couple:

"Where there is no love, there is nothing"… Yes, love! Without feeling that you love the other person and that you would do everything for him/her, you will maintain a couple of relationships out of inertia! There are two types of love, both can work just as well for different people and in different relationships.

There is a love-shock-passion when you suddenly fall in love with someone, so similar to lightning. Over time, it will be proven that they were just hormones or something real and substance… But there is also quite love, that feeling just as intense, but which consolidates over time - the more you know the other, the more you get to you love him more! Whether or not each type of love works in a relationship, the key is to exist! But, unfortunately, love is not everything…

Communication - yes, it is already a cliché so much heard that it comes to you to lift your eyes: "communication is essential for strengthening a harmonious relationship and for a happy couple"… It is a cliché, but it is so repeated precisely because it is true! You need to communicate, to talk, to get to know each other.

When a small problem arises, you need to discuss it, because otherwise, it will grow inside you. Unfortunately, we cannot see the other person's soul in the proper sense, but we can hear him speak! There is an important difference between "we don't need to talk" and "we don't have anything to talk about"! Yes, after a while, in a happy and solid couple, the partners can know what is happening in the other's mind without words, and this is a beautiful thing!

But it can also lead to a lack of words because you feel that you have nothing to say to the other, that everything has been said, and nothing interesting remains. And this is no longer a good thing. Talk about anything and nothing, because even though words you come to support the intimacy between you. That doesn't mean you always talk non-stop, but don't let too much time pass without communicating!

It goes without saying: sincerity is a key ingredient for a happy couple! But do you put this rule into practice? For example, when your partner asks you if you like the gift, what do you say: do you prefer to lie and tell him it's perfect, or are you honest and tell him you wanted something else? But when she asks you if she has gained weight: are you lying to her, saying that she is as gorgeous as in the first year, or are you telling her that she put on a few pounds ?!

Almost everyone chooses the easy solution and lies, but we apologize by telling ourselves that there are "white lies" that keep the harmony. And it's true! How to resolve the situation? It would be good from the beginning of a relationship to get used to and get used to your partner with sincerity in everything! Sure, he will get upset a few times, but he will pass them by at the end, he will admire and prefer sincerity! This, in a really happy couple!

Anyone who can't stand criticism like "the gift is a little weird" or "you're a little fat" has problems with relationship security and self-confidence. Which he has to solve! This does not mean that sincerity must turn into malicious criticism of the other; it is good, to be honest, but in moderation and especially, when the truth is something unpleasant when you are asked and that's it!

Trust and respect. In fact, by showing the other person confidence, you are showing them that you respect their freedom and ability to conduct themselves. Instead, by always checking your partner when he or she is somewhere, by checking, by constantly calling, they show that you do not respect their independence and that you do not give them the trust they probably deserve.

The problems of intense jealousy, most of the time, do not come from your relationship partner, but your mind and your insecurity. So learn to manage your negative emotions and control yourself and, over time, you will gain confidence in the other. And this will make him / her trust you in turn!

Appreciation - it is very important to show the other person that he/she is valuable, counts for you, and is an important part of your life! How? Telling him these things is the easiest. In addition, pay attention to his profession and his accomplishments - it can be difficult when you have different professional backgrounds and barely understand what he is telling you, but try to understand and listen to him/her carefully.

Never fail if you use compliments: we all like to be appreciated and praised and we will respond in the same way! This is also for men - do you think he doesn't like to hear how much you attract him, how sexy he is, how much you admire his intelligence, etc.? Don't assume that he already knows this, but always remind them and you will see that he will answer you the same way!

Sex: of course it's important! And even in a happy couple, the sex life has moments when it stumbles and the passion seems to be hard to find! Solve the problem together and don't leave things to their own devices! And never, but never, does she leave the responsibility on the other's shoulders: "it's her fault, she never takes the initiative" or "it's his fault, she doesn't know how to be spontaneous and surprise me and that's why I don't feel like it".

The truth is, as usual, in the middle: it's both their fault! So talk to each other and find something to whet your appetite: a romantic evening, a new setting, new sexual positions, an erotic game…

Getting out of the routine. You have probably read in other articles on the site that routine is good for a happy couple, that it provides security and stability!

True, but after months and years of routine, you may find yourself less excited about the relationship and each other. So get out of the routine a little bit, doing something you've never done before! A short trip, a night in a club you've never been to, a new game (bedroom or not), take a class together - whatever works!

Related to this, look for fun activities and we together: it is not enough to sit in front of your TV or computer every night and declare that you spend time together! Do something really fun with this time! Look for a computer game you like, a swimming course, horseback riding, horseback riding, dancing, etc., a card game or a board game, a club where you both like, a restaurant…

Many of the quarrels that make you less of a happy couple and more of two nervous people are related to household activities. Therefore, a somewhat strict schedule of activities, the person who does them and the schedule to be followed could help! Doesn't he want to cook, wash his clothes, or dust? Very well, you do them - but he has to take out the trash, wash the dishes, and vacuum! Make a detailed list of the activity, the person and the dates when the task must be performed and maybe there will be fewer quarrels!

A happy couple is one in which the partners are not co-dependent! That's why time is important to yourself. This may seem contrary to what has been said about activities together, but it is not. In any harmonious relationship, each partner needs to feel a little independent, to have regular time for himself, in which to do whatever he likes (with the limits of common sense!).

So, respect your partner's need for time: this does not mean that he does not want to be with you, but that he needs a little air, a little freedom. If you still do not feel this need, no problem, you will feel it at some point! If you do not offer each other "alone time", the proximity may suffocate you at some point and make you burst

So, this is what the equation for a happy couple would look like: love-communication-sincerity-trust-appreciation-sex-routine-activities together-scheduling tasks-time. Where do you get a grade of 10 and where are you correcting? Work together to be rewarding!