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Safe sex is the first step to enjoyable sex. Advice on improving your sexual health to improve your sex life.
7 Reasons Feminist Porn Is Better Than Real Porn
To many people, the idea of “feminist porn” is an oxymoron. Porn is often viewed as degrading towards women and some feminists, like second wave feminist Andrea Dworkin, believe that all porn, regardless of the context, is inherently degrading. Those feminists would be wrong. For some women, being empowered means being what BDSM porn star Rain deGray refers to as a, “professional naked person.” Exhibitionism is a common kink after all, so why wouldn't men and women with this kink want to capitalize on it? And with the sexual revolution, why shouldn't women have our own porn, geared towards us, and why shouldn't we embrace it as freedom, rather than write all of it off as degrading?
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
Shere Hite On the Importance of Masturbation
"Masturbation has helped me to know how to have an orgasm, and to recognize the stages of arousal I go through." My mother recently gave me a book she said changed her life in the late 1970s. Masturbation, in a very real sense, is one of the most important subjects discussed in The Hite Report book by Shere Hite, and was a cause for celebration because it is such an easy source of orgasms for most American women. Many women in the study said they could masturbate and orgasm with ease in just a few minutes. Of the 82 percent of women who said they masturbated, 95 percent could orgasm easily and regularly whenever they wanted. Many women used the term "masturbation" synonymously with orgasm: women assumed masturbation included orgasm.
By Alicia Springer9 years ago in Filthy
Why Foreplay is Slowly Becoming a Thing of the Past
Foreplay. The word quickly brings to mind a certain couple and situation . . . usually, a man taking a few minutes to ‘warm up’ his lady before the actual act of penetration, perhaps with slow and indulgent kissing, a sensual massage, a little delicate fingering, or even a saucily-applied vibrator. Sometimes oral sex is included under the ‘foreplay’ banner as well. Nothing like an enthusiastic blowjob before the main event, or perhaps some toe-curling cunnilingus. Anything to get everybody fully and utterly aroused before the P. goes in the V. That ‘traditional’ model up there has been around for quite a while, but it ---- and, indeed, the concept of foreplay in general ---- is slowly becoming a relic of the past. Why? Well, one significant reason lies in the growing visibility of LGBT+ couples. If two women, in the process of getting hot ‘n’ heavy, have a heated and desperate makeout session followed by tearing off each others’ clothes and finishing each other off with oral pleasure and digital penetration, you won’t find too many people protesting the fact that they’ve just had sex.
By Anne St. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Impotent With His Wife
Patrick, a 29-year-old physician, has been married for three years; and already he is losing desire for his exceptionally good-looking 24-year-old wife. For the several months that they lived together before marriage, they’ve had sex two or three times, almost every day of the week. Honeymoon stage if I do say so myself. For the first year after marrying, despite his busy schedule at the hospital where he was taking his residency in pediatrics, they almost kept up this pace. But then Patrick began having trouble ejaculating, and would sometimes have to pursue active intercourse for 45 minutes.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
How to Be Better in Bed - A Porn Star's Advice
Kind of a click baity title because I know that everyone, no matter how awesome you think you are at sex, wants to be better. Just double check there isn’t anything they missed off the old check list. I’ve had a lot of sex. It is fair to say I have had more sex and more sexual partners, both male and female, then most humans have in their life time. Yes, I do porn and a lot of those sexual partners were purely for on screen satisfaction, but shooting porn has taught me more about sex than any sex ed class or one night stand ever could.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Treating Sexual Paranoia
Though many of our parents' and grandparents' sex fears hardly affect us any longer, love and sex continue to be uppermost among the anxieties revealed in clinical consultation. Few still think that we will drive ourselves to the loony bin by masturbating. Not many lie awake nights worrying about the possible horrors of syphilis, illegitimate pregnancy, or abortion. Even regular run-of-the-mill thoughts of participation in acts of fornication and adultery have largely ceased to make us prepare ourselves for the fires of hell. Old sex fears have virtually vanished. This is not to say that sex education conquers all, for every contemporary sex survey conclusively proves that erotic ignorance is still widespread. But the worst mass misinformation seems now to be over. Only those adults who cannot or will not read seem to be as sorely ignorant as were their not-so-distant ancestors.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
History of Sperm Banks
A Midwestern grandfather makes a deposit at the sperm bank to assure the continuance of his family name should his son prove sterile. In the East, a 69-year-old bachelor millionaire stores semen so that should his fertility decline as he ages, he will still be able to marry and produce an heir with a presumably younger woman. And a young man is to be castrated for cancer of the testes. His surgeon advises him to store his sperm.
By Frank White9 years ago in Filthy
50 Shades of Okay, Why It's All Right to Like the Steamy Bestselling Series
'50 Shades of Grey' Okay, now that I’ve started off with that line, I’ll give you a moment to either stop fan-flailing or to (more likely) stop seething. Yes, a huge number of people absolutely loathe 50 Shades, its author E.L. James, its nubile heroine Ana, and, especially, its ‘alpha male’ hero Christian. Next to Twilight (whose fanfiction it started out as), 50 Shades of Grey is probably the most widely hated book series published to date.
By Anne St. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Sexual Boredom Advice
When passion wanes and love lives on, you have reached the sexual boredom phase. Most intimate relationships begin with the rare propinquity that makes it possible for a man and a woman to take the first difficult steps toward joining their lives. It is sexual exaltation—not a shared interest in Chinese cooking or tennis or foreign travel—that makes pleasure out of the hard work of accommodating oneself to the needs and idiosyncrasies of another adult. When this exaltation wanes we often seek out guidance from others. My advice? Seek advice and guidance from sexual therapists, not your mom or dad.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
Intimate Behavior Signals
The female form bristles with genital substitutes. The mouth, red lips and all, is really pinch-hitting for the vagina, and so is the navel which, in modern woman, is becoming increasingly slit or vulva-like. By the same token, the breasts are biologically developed copies of the buttocks. They send out powerful sexual signals when a woman is standing up.
By Lenny Legman9 years ago in Filthy
