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Why Do We Find It So Difficult to Talk About the Important Things in Life?
After being contacted this morning by a fellow Twitter warrior; I felt it necessary to write this piece. He like myself has a "cause", his being that person who brings awareness to Herpes and the fact that it is so widespread and somewhat common these days, but no one wants to talk about it. Of course, he was feeling discouraged and perhaps knew intuitively that I might be someone he could share his angst with. He was right.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
Far-Reaching Health Benefits of Sex
Sex is a word bantered about in the media, conjuring a host of diverse images, however, seldom is this basic human act’s role in health and wellness discussed. Not so in Germany where researchers recently published the results of an extensive 10-year study that indicated that women and men who have sex on a frequent basis tend to be happier, more vivacious and slimmer than those persons who don’t have an active sex life.
By Marlene Affeld9 years ago in Filthy
Understanding Sexual Obsessions and Addictions
“Sexual compulsions and PRDs are complex psychiatric disorders therefore exact causes are not known, although there are many theories. Whether they represent an addiction, obsessive-compulsive disorder, impulse control disorder, or a pattern of hypersexualism is still a matter of controversy. Some have argued that since these disorders represent an ongoing pattern of uncontrolled sexual behaviour, they should be viewed as an addiction because like substance abuse, these consist of a pathological relationship with a mood-altering experience. Others have argued against this idea, instead describing paraphilias and PDRs as symptoms of an underlying obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).” - M. Williams, PhD brainphysics.com
By Carol Edwards9 years ago in Filthy
Threesomes
Most women find the idea of sharing the man they love with another woman infuriating. It brings out feelings of jealousy, anger and straight up “I’m going to beat a bitch’s ass if she touches my man” feelings but some women find that sharing their man with another woman is exotic, titillating and a huge turn on. I am a woman that is extremely turned on by watching her man have sex with another woman. I fantasize about it during sex and really enjoy it when it happens in real life. My husband and I have been married for fifteen years and we have had a handful of threesomes throughout our marriage and each time it has been one of the best experiences we have had together sexually.
By Jackie Sagastume9 years ago in Filthy
Learning Curve
Masturbation is a very important time in a young woman's life. However, it is very easy to get overwhelmed by the experience, especially when one is ready to upgrade to sex toys from fingers. There are so many different types, sizes, speeds, it can be a scary process. Well, have no fear. I am here to provide advice on how to pick sex toys based on the ones I picked out for myself all those years ago.
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Love Yourself
I was twelve when I first learned what masturbation was. I was watching an episode of the British TV show Skins. There was this one character obsessed with a (gay) guy. She snuck into his bedroom and masturbated on his bed to thoughts of him. Now that I am older I see how creepy it was, but at that age I was more focused on the fact that she was sticking her hand down her pants and moaning. I didn't know what that meant, and I was infinitely curious.
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Guide to Bathroom Sex
Most people, when looking to have bathroom sex for the first time, are left up the creek with no idea how to do it. Maybe the idea of sex in the bathroom appeals to you. Maybe it sounds very un-sexy. For some, the fear of trying something new will result in vanilla, bland sex.
By Miranda O'Conner9 years ago in Filthy
How To Discuss BDSM With Your Partner
If you're curious about kink or are a major fan of it, you're probably well-aware of how hard it can be to talk about BDSM with your partner. It can be embarrassing to talk about that side of your sexuality. You might be worried that your partner will think you're a freak for it. In some cases, you might even get worried about your partner having a chip on their shoulder after you talk about it.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart9 years ago in Filthy
Sex, Viagra, Libido, Marriage & Divorce in the Millennium
Marriage and Divorce Married/committed couples & singles are re-shaping their lives in all areas; regardless of approaching milestone birthdays. “Forty is the new thirty” and people finally understand they don’t have to give into the stereotyping of certain age groups.
By Susan McCord9 years ago in Filthy
Doing to Do For the First Time
Sex is a topic that surrounds us. From TV to ads online to porn websites, there is no escaping the influence of sex on the everyday American's life. Therefore, when I had sex for the first time, I found myself comparing and contrasting my experience with the expectations society has forced upon me. With that in mind, here are some things I noticed during my first time I had sex. Disclaimer: all of these are based off my own personal experience and may not reflect what you have experienced. With that in mind, let's go.
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Ask Wendy: About Staying in Love and Lust
Have you ever had someone ask you and your loved one, “What is your secret for staying married so long?” I have heard it a lot and had to take a step back to figure that out, as we live day to day and this transcendental question hadn’t arisen. Having been married for almost three decades, I guess from outward appearances yes, we have a successful marriage. But we have certainly been through many ups and downs as any relationship does, however, somehow we have been able to tolerate our differences and remain intact. The one saying we have heard was we never fell out of love at the same time. Well that is fine and dandy but you can’t rely on those odds.
By Wendy Adams9 years ago in Filthy
