No matter how busy you are, you still need to make time for sex

Many men, when chatting with friends, tend to subtly project an image of being "good in bed" or "still having it."However, upon closer examination, it often turns out that these individuals are under significant stress, living a semi - sexless life with their partners, and even facing the risk of breaking up. This issue is actually quite common.

Sex should be an exciting and joyful experience. In a monotonous life, a fulfilling sex life can bring happiness and balance to one's mental and physical well - being. However, many office - workers in their thirties and forties who are in relationships often exhibit a reluctance towards sex. What's really going on here? Is the excuse "I can't have sex" truly unsolvable?

In my clinical experience, I often encounter such cases. After analysis, I've found that the following reasons are commonly cited for refusing sex:

1. **"I have a meeting tomorrow, I'm not in the mood for sex."**

2. **"I have to get up early for work tomorrow, let's just sleep!"**

3. **"The work pressure is too high."**

4. **"I still have work to finish when I get home."**

These four reasons are typical excuses for not being able to have sex with a partner due to a busy work schedule. Some companies are indeed very busy, but considering the sexual habits of Taiwanese people, finding time for sex actually only requires setting aside 30 to 40 minutes. By cutting back on time spent on the internet, watching TV, or playing with mobile phones, it should be achievable. Moreover, if sex is integrated into activities like taking a shower or having a bedtime conversation, it becomes even less time - consuming.

If someone is working overtime frequently and has to get up early the next day, then "not wanting to have sex" is something a partner can understand. However, if overtime is constantly used as an excuse, leading to very few instances of sex, it can be very hurtful to the other half. But if "it's really that tiring," one might consider changing jobs. After all, someone who can't spare half an hour for their partner is unlikely to bring happiness to the family. These individuals should weigh what is truly important in life.

5. **"I just want to get straight to it, no foreplay."**

6. **"Still playing with the phone right before bed."**

If a partner uses these two reasons to refuse sex, it's either laziness or being distracted by other things. Compared to the first four reasons, these are relatively less severe. I suggest that the partner who wants to have sex take the lead in setting the mood and engaging in foreplay. With careful preparation and catering to the other's preferences, it's possible to reignite their passion and even turn the tables.

7. **"I'm afraid of waking the kids, let's not do it."**

Some women, after giving birth, may temporarily lose interest in sex due to physical weakness and hormonal changes. This is a normal phenomenon. However, if the child is already over three years old, it's recommended to have the child sleep in a separate room. This prevents the child from being exposed to sexual activities during their formative years, which could lead to premature sexual development. Sharing a room with the child not only helps in fostering their independence but also preserves the couple's intimate life. Therefore, both partners should work together to address this issue.

8. **"We can't agree on the timing for sex."**

9. **"I've done too much housework, I'm too lazy to have sex..."**

Sex is a natural act and shouldn't be confined by time. Whenever both partners have free time and the atmosphere is right, it's a good opportunity. Of course, housework is not the responsibility of one person. Especially in dual - income families, which are common nowadays, housework should be shared and assisted with. Both men and women should develop the habit of taking the initiative to do housework; this is the true meaning of being responsible. If "the housework really never ends," one should ask themselves: "Am I too fixated on household matters? Or am I just trying to avoid sex?"

In fact, moderate sex doesn't have to take a long time. Afterward, not only do you feel relaxed both mentally and physically, but stress is also relieved, and you sleep better, building more energy. People who are too lazy to work, exercise, and even have sex are not necessarily lacking in sexual desire; they just find sex "too troublesome," as it requires making the other person happy and getting their consent first. There's also a situation where, if a couple has a disagreement before bed and one person wants to make up by having sex, they have to apologize, reconcile, and humbly beg the other person. This seems undignified and time - consuming, so it might seem more convenient to take care of oneself.

Intimate relationships should be nurtured with care. If well - managed, a couple's bond can be unbreakable, and life's challenges will naturally be easier to overcome. Ignoring the issue of not having sex for too long can lead to a lack of interaction, causing the two hearts to drift apart. When sex becomes something only done for procreation or to relieve sexual desire, not only does the past passion fade, but it can also lead to a marital crisis. Therefore, these issues should be taken seriously.