When making love, don't just rely on hitting hard

Many male friends enjoy watching adult videos or using various erotic products to aid their growth. While this can help cultivate emotions and sexual desire, it's important not to blindly imitate or become overly attached to the content. Using adult videos to understand the world of sex can be misleading if, as an adult, one lacks sufficient knowledge or experience with women, leading to the misconception that the content is entirely accurate.

In reality, a fulfilling sexual experience is achieved by correcting misconceptions and communicating more with your partner. However, adult videos can have a significant impact on men, especially by omitting the importance of foreplay and perpetuating the erroneous idea that men must be big, strong, and aggressive.

**Men, Find Your Sexual Template**

Sexual techniques are diverse. Beyond setting the mood and engaging in foreplay and afterplay, the crucial part is the movement during intercourse. Many men, when it comes to this stage, believe that simply performing thrusting motions, gradually increasing speed and intensity, is sufficient. Some may subconsciously set an image of being "aggressive" and strive to meet this goal; even finger movements are approached similarly. These are, in fact, narrow - minded and incorrect perceptions.

"Aggressiveness" does not equate to charm. It's recommended to utilize "speed variation" to achieve mutual pleasure between partners. After slowing down, it's not necessary to continue at a fast pace. Trying gentle movements, such as circular rotations, varying depths of penetration, or having the woman on top and moving front to back, can be effective sexual maneuvers. These movements not only allow men to continue enjoying the process and conserve energy but also help women reach orgasm. Instead of just working hard, sometimes being gentle can yield better results.

**Women, Take the Lead for a Quicker Climax**

According to surveys, only 25% of women can achieve vaginal orgasms, and these women do not reach climax due to fast or aggressive movements. For women, "speed" only provides sensation, not orgasm, and is not a guarantee of climax. More important than speed is "synchronization," meaning both partners' rhythms must match and be aware of each other's sensitive spots. Additionally, managing stamina directly affects the duration of sex. Just as in running a 5 - kilometer race versus a 100 - meter sprint, without conserving energy, one cannot fully enjoy the process.

Why do men still use tiring and ineffective methods for intercourse when a more relaxed and longer - lasting approach can provide pleasure? It's suggested to try different rhythm changes and movements regularly. Allowing the woman to lead the entire sexual process can result in a completely different experience.

**Adult Films for Reference, But Communication Is Key**

When watching erotic films, consider them as a form of learning. However, if you try to follow the actions in the films, you may find it impossible to be as impressive as the actors, leading to frustration. This is not a personal flaw but rather a reality check. Actual sex is not as consistently "aggressive" as in films, which can be edited and enhanced with props. Yet, some men mistakenly believe that thrusting hard and long is the only way.

In fact, producing adult films is a commercial activity. Directors must create an exaggerated sexual atmosphere to quickly engage viewers. This is the nature of erotic products. It's important to understand that when we become accustomed to the ideas presented in adult films and try to imitate them, we're engaging in a fantasy rather than reality. Over time, this can lead to a disconnect with real - life partners, which is not ideal. Ask yourself: "Is having good sexual performance about truly satisfying your partner or just proving your strength through brute force?"

**Don't Just Achieve Your Own "Strength" and Forget to Be Considerate**

Men and women are like two different shapes, one convex and the other concave. Due to their inherent differences, their pursuits have always been distinct. Naturally, sex cannot be based solely on one person's ideas. Only by understanding each other's perspectives and finding a balance in sexual needs can a fulfilling relationship be maintained.

Sex is a varied rhythm and a beautiful art. Thrusting motions are not limited to a single fast pace, nor are they a fixed pattern. Those who truly understand the correct concept of sex can skillfully manage their intimate behavior with their partner and will find that sex becomes more enjoyable and effortless.