Naked Attraction
Some Thoughts On Double Standards Between Men And Women
Introduction
A few years ago, a friend of mine appeared on the dating program "Naked Attraction", the concept of which is you see the naked body, no faces and choose your date. There are men and women on both sides of the equation.
My friend's date turned out to be an absolute creep so it went no further.
You can find out about and watch (if you have access to Channel 4) the program via the links below.
The music is "Naked" by Ella Mai
These Double Standards
The "Naked Attraction" banner says it all: the man is ok to be topless, but the woman has to cover herself up. Even today, women and girls are continually sexualised by men, and this 1973 action by Lily Tomlin shows that things still have not really changed:
I used to work somewhere, and at lunchtime we would go out for walks, and one guy would either make insulting comments about women he did not consider attractive, or say "She's Asking For It" about the ones he did fancy.
I said, "Who has she asked for IT?" Then I asked him if he would to able to walk back to the office. It took a few times, but eventually he got the message, though I don't know what he was like when I was not there. It was like being back in the sixties and seventies with TV series like On The Buses and Carry On films.
Look at Facebook, you can share racist, misogynistic, and violent posts, but a female nipple will get you banned.
Women who breastfeed are told to cover up my men, who will then go on and grope women and say it's a bit of a laugh or banter. It is not.
I appreciate the female form, but I love a smile or a laugh more than anything, and I know women like the male form as well, but the problem is the continual sexualisation of women in plain sight.
So many adverts have scantily clad women to sell the product, usually to men.
They sexualise and abuse women who do not fall into line. They use the word slut if a women dresses how she wants and does her own thing. I heard the definition of a slut being:
"A woman who acts like a man"
If a woman is attacked, she is always the one to blame according to patriarchal #NotAllMen, it's her clothes, the fact she was out, the fact she was alone, and you know "boys will be boys".
This is still the situation today, and it should not be.
Only the first two sentences are by William Golding; the completion is by Erick Gray, but the whole quote is very true.
I feel the second part is a bit of putting the woman in as a housekeeper, but it is true, women can often improve on anything a man does.
I know this piece has gone a bit further than the Naked Attraction start, but we do need to start calling out those who do not treat women with respect. It is 2025, not 1925 or 1825.
Things have improved in some areas, but a lot still needs to be done.
Conclusion
I feel that this piece has to go in the Vocal Filthy Community because I dare to mention the word nipple, and that is another example of how the media uses its own double standard to keep women in place.
This is fine on social media
But show any female flesh and you get smacked down, even if it is yours.
Thank you for reading, love to hear your views.
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Comments (5)
The sexualization of people is something that happens both ways. Women also objectify men too. Both women and men are needed and both sexes are beautiful. We’re all made in the image of God. Sadly, speaking in broad strokes, humanity doesn’t treat each other as well as we could. People were designed to give and receive love. When we disparage someone we’re not acting in alignment with how we were designed.
First off, thank you for being the person to call out another's inappropriate comments and being man enough to respect a woman as an equal. There are so many things I have to say about this, I'm not sure I can touch on all of it in one comment. I might have to write my own article on the subject. As a woman I feel we should have the right to dress how we want without fear but I always feel sad when I see another woman dressed scantily. I remember the days I flaunted my body, not because I felt confident dressing that way, but because society had me believe that my value lay in how many men were attracted to me. I struggled for years untangling my self worth from my sexuality. I remember watching JLo's Superbowl halftime show with my 14 year old son and he turned to me and said "how come all the women on stage are barely dressed and all the men are overdressed?" He was bothered by the inequity he saw on that stage that is repeated so often. Is the double standard that a woman can't show her body without being sexualized or that women feel they have to show their body to feel empowered? I think it's both and it's perpetuated by women as often as it is by men.
Its not safe for women to dress sexy in some areas. Some guys are just not mature enough to appreciate a woman's body without trying touch it. Some men just dont have self controlled when seeing a feminine form in public unfortunately. I did watched a show called Dating Naked, like you were talking about in your article but the problem with Dating Naked show, it become about just than falling in love.
The descriptions of the episodes are amusing. Lol
I loved reading this, I completely agree. It is almost considered fine for men to berate women they don't find attractive, and also objectify women they do find attractive. I would like to say not all men here as well because there is some (like yourself) who understand this problem and are willing to help out. But whenever a man of this horrid calibre questions me about why all men are considered a danger to women now it's because the horrid behaviour is all we see. And, I think it's Muhammad Ali who said it about racism and racists. He uses an analogy of snakes coming down a hallway, there's 100 of them and not many of them are poisonous. He then asks whether you wait inside your room to find out which are poisonous and which are not, giving them all a fair chance. Or, do you shut the door on all of them. It really makes you think about how this applies in our modern day to men who don't seem to be able to treat women like human beings.