Don't pay too much attention to the size of the penis

From a young age, men are taught to navigate a world filled with competition, whether it's academic performance, work income, or social standing. In this environment, "sexual prowess" has become a label that seems to define a man's worth in the bedroom. coupled with the fear of falling behind, men often fall into the trap of meaningless comparison.



In the consultation room, I frequently encounter men who lack confidence, asking me, "Is it too small?" Some, after hearing exaggerated claims from friends and lacking accurate knowledge, begin to doubt themselves, which in turn affects their sexual performance.



These are all illusions! It's all an act!



During adolescence, boys are exposed to a wealth of sexual information out of curiosity. Whether it's cartoons, anime, or adult films, there's a degree of exaggeration and commercial intent. The penises shown are often not average in size, leading men to mistakenly believe that larger penises equate to greater female happiness in sex. In reality, to make films and sell products, only those with more impressive attributes are selected as actors. Don't take the stage as reality!



Bigger isn't always better. Men with larger penises often have to guard against premature aging. When erect, the corpus cavernosum muscles of a larger penis require higher tension. If the corpus cavernosum doesn't expand symmetrically after filling with blood or if the tunica albuginea's elasticity is imbalanced, the penis may curve. This is indeed more common among Western men. Additionally, the nerve endings in most women's vaginas are concentrated within the first five centimeters of the vaginal opening. Sensitivity decreases in other areas, which is why many women don't care about penis size. Some women also focus more on the angle of the erect penis.



In truth, not all women prefer larger penises. Sometimes, an overly large penis can lead to sexual intercourse difficulties or cause pain and discomfort. There are also men who, thinking their slightly larger penis gives them an advantage, ignore the various skills involved in lovemaking. In bed, they resort to relentless thrusting, disregarding their partner's feelings. Over time, this can make women feel disrespected and lead them to discontinue the relationship. In reality, as long as a penis is close to the average size and doesn't become too soft when erect, it can satisfy a woman and bring her pleasure and orgasm. However, this requires men to understand women's needs and diligently learn lovemaking techniques. Without genuine effort, even a large penis won't make a woman feel loved and satisfied during sex.



Sex isn't just about the penis. A man's hands, mouth, and tongue are also vital. Tools are less important than techniques. Beyond physical contact, factors like the atmosphere, rhythm, content of lovemaking, communication between partners, conversation, psychological guidance, and cultivate tacit understanding are all crucial in satisfying a woman. They are no less important than the penis itself. So, men should stop obsessing over penis size. As long as it doesn't affect sexual activity, every penis is unique.



Finally, a reminder to men: while a larger penis might boost confidence, it doesn't determine sexual ability. Never equate sexual ability with penis size, as this can undermine the quality of your sexual experiences. If you rely solely on a large penis without learning proper sexual concepts and skills, you might cause pain to your partner or leave her feeling uncomfortable and empty afterward, leading her to lose interest in you.



Women's acceptance of sex isn't about penis size. A French director shot a movie in Tibet titled *Samsara*, depicting a monk who, after three years, three months, three weeks, and three days of seclusion, attends a festival. He catches sight of a mother breastfeeding her child, and his three - year meditation is shattered. Despite his years of practice and adherence to the five precepts, he cannot control his primal sexual nature.



Breasts can evoke a direct response in men. However, women are different from men. Sometimes, a man's smile can be the best aphrodisiac for a woman, not to mention a large hand or broad shoulders, which are sources of male sex appeal. Women don't care about measurements. Therefore, a man's measurements or penis size don't enhance sexual life. To view your partner through your own lens is a sign of immaturity and can easily overlook a woman's innate maternal nature. Most women fall deeply in love, sometimes even before they fully understand a man's character.



Over the years of my practice, 30% of male clients have never been in love or had real sexual experiences. They seek help for premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, or to learn techniques. Those who come to me for love - related issues usually have problems with their way of loving or don't understand how to love. So, I often jokingly say to men stuck on the size issue: "A small size isn't the end of the world. The simplest solution is photo editing; the hardest is being reborn." Many opt for pearl embedding surgery to enlarge the penis. However, if it's still less than 7 centimeters or as thin as a German sausage when erect, medical intervention is genuinely needed. But if you just want to satisfy your partner, I suggest observing her needs, bravely discussing your shortcomings, and understanding what she truly cares about. This should be your top priority.