Whether a husband and wife or a lover, the highest state of love is actually only 2 words

The highest state of love is actually only two words, that is: no self.

In the intercourse between men and women, when you love someone in particular, your eyes will be filled with the other person, your whole heart will be occupied by the other person, and there will be no space or place for yourself.

Regarding love, if both parties can be so "selfless", it is the most beautiful fit and the most touching love. This state of "no-self" will manifest itself in every aspect of how two people get along. If both parties, when they are together, often have the following three kinds of communication and interaction without self. No matter what kind of relationship the two have, they already love each other to the core.

The first: two people do not feel tired doing anything together

There is a saying that men and women match, and work is not tiring! In fact, this should be based on the attraction between men and women and mutual liking. Only when two people love each other to a certain extent can they reach the state of self-forgetfulness and not feel tired. Whether two people go out on a trip, climb a mountain, or play together. Still go to work together. As long as two people are together, there is endless energy and spirit. As long as two people are together, they will be particularly active and positive. This may be the power of love that we often say, because of love, it has achieved "no self". Because of love, become tireless. Even in the bitter days of deep waters, as long as two people love each other, they will not feel so bitter. This state of forgetting one's own physical and mental feelings because of the other party is the highest state of love "without self"

Second: think about each other first

In the relationship between men and women, whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, the highest state of love is "no self", think about each other first! For example, if you are already very tired, but you don't even feel it, you have to think about whether the other party is tired or not, and whether you should take a rest. Moreover, let the other party rest first, and then he is willing to give up. I was already very hungry, and I didn't even think that I had to let the other party have a full meal first, just like I was full. This kind of spiritual empathy is actually a sacrifice that will only be made when love reaches a certain level. We can understand this sacrifice as loving someone willingly. Therefore, whether two people are in love together really depends on whether the other person thinks of you first.

Third: all eyes are on you

No matter whether you are a husband and wife or a lover, the highest state of love is that your eyes are full of your "no-self" state. In each other's eyes, each other is their own world, while others are like the existence of air. In short, all day long is full of each other's thoughts, not interested in anything else, not in the mood to do anything. In fact, this state is more common when in love. Men and women who are often in love are often in a state of "no self", centering on each other and revolving around each other. It is said that when two people are in love, it is the most beautiful time for two people. It is because two people have no self and have each other in their hearts, so they can love so beautifully and so happily. Sometimes just thinking about the other person makes me feel very happy, and even missing is a kind of beauty.