What it was like being pregnant?

I’m not going to give out my daughters real name nor my ex husbands name in this story. I want to respect their privacy.

My ex husband- Nick

My friend /neighbor- Joy

My daughter- Molly and not giving out her real DOD.

It’s been 3 long and hard months since my daughter Molly has been born. She was born in March 5th of this year! But before she was born let’s take 9 months prior to her being in my stomach! I wasn’t feeling well around mid June of 2021, I though I was just stressing myself out since during that time my mother almost had a heart attack and was in the hospital for a few days, and I was so worried about her and that’s when I thought that I was over stressing myself! I also missed my cycle during that time as well, I didn’t think to much of it because I had stressed out before and didn’t have my cycle so that’s what I thought and moved on with my day and etc. Little did I know that my stomach pain would get worse and worse, still at the time I didn’t even think that I was pregnant and it never once crossed my mind one bit. I started to think that maybe I slept wrong or maybe that I ate something bad! Till the end of June to early August thats when my husband (when we were still married) got me 2 packs of pregnancy test because I told him that my stomach had been hurting and I wasn’t sure why! He left without saying anything and I thought at least tell me that you’ll see me later. A little while letter he came back with the pregnancy tests and told me to take one at the moment but I told him that I don’t have to use a restroom but I’ll take one when I’ll need to use one. He left again.. hours passed after he left and I needed to use a restroom so I took all the tests and had them in the bathroom took the one he got out for me and did my thing and just read the paper and reading it to how long to wait for and I set the timer for how long it was spouse to be. After the time was up I looked at the text and it said pregnant. I didn’t react and I was tired as well because I stayed up all night watching YouTube (because I’m a night owl). So after that I just left it as is and then I took the second one a few hours later when it was the next day just a couple hours apart like for example 9-5 in time of couple of hours. And said the same thing pregnant, I wasn’t faced by it at all and just thought that it was expired pregnancy tests or something, then another 2 times of taking them I once again wasn’t faced at all and just keep thinkings it’s expired or false pregnancy because with the store pregnancy tests their not always accurate so that’s what I thought during that whole time. Till August 2nd my husband took me to the ER to get me tested to make sure that the pregnancy tests was actually accurate or not they drew my blood and took my urine to test if I was pregnant or not. Which that took hours on end like we were at the ER for almost 8 hours wait for the results and we were both tired and he had to go to the field the same day. (Because my ex husband was in the military). So after almost 3 AM the doctor comes up to us and tells us that I am pregnant, I didn’t even have a reaction at all. I was so natural in my emotions. That I didn’t seem happy nor sad. I just didn’t have a reaction. My husband before we went to the ER came home the next morning or noon can’t remember and asked me if I took the tests and i told him to look in the bathroom. He seemed alright with the results. Well I’m the ER he asked me if I was happy I said I guess I just don’t know how to feel right now and I asked him the same thing he said he was happy.

Well during the whole month of August he wasn’t home and it was just me! I wasn’t feeling the greatest at all, I had all day morning sickness and for me not to throw up I normally slept the whole entire day and night and sometimes I would be awake for only 3 to 4 hours and during those times I would throw up badly, I couldn’t drink anything along couldn’t eat anything epithet and not only that I had a very strong since of smell. I hardly had food at the house and when I was able to eat something I had to ask my friend so send me money so I could get me something, so I got me some crackers and a coke. I know your not spouse to drink anything caffeine. But I had learned that coke actually helped me a little bit with my all day sickness, so I would get me some cock and I would drink it when I was feeling all day sickness and after that I was starting to able to eat food, solid foods at that. Also during that time my friend Joy we ran into each other when I went to the gas station that was a 15 min walk from my house and she gave me a ride back home and we ended up chatting because she hasn’t seen me for a while and she thought I left the state for a while on vacation or something and I told her no, I been sleeping all day since I’m pregnant and the rest is history. She was more there for me during my whole pregnancy than my own husband Nick ever was. Whenever he would get off work his friends would call him up and ask hi hang out with him he would go to his friends in a heart beat while leave his pregnant wife behind! It was always like that till I got closer to my 3rd trimester and had to finally go to appts because it took a long while to have my papers transferred to a different state and with whom my doctors were that’s why I took that long. So around 3rd trimester is when my husband Nick started coming around me and our daughter would go to appts with me and etc all the way up to when I gave birth. He would always be on his phone while k was having bad contractions and he would just sit on the chair in the room and watch his videos or whatever instead of being beside me and holding my hand and telling that I’ll be alright. Then few hours go by and I tell my nurse that the pain is getting worse and my body feels the need to push. I got the shot for my back to help with my pregnancy and it went well my body was sore as hell from my arms to my legs.. so that’s pretty much my story of my pregnancy and what went down the past 3 months. Yes my husband wasn’t there for me at all during my whole pregnancy not even hardly around after we came home from the hospital because he wanted to go door-dashing with our roommate a week before he went back to work. Yes we’re divorced and he had custody of our daughter, I think it’s a well learned lesson to never abandon your spouse and child now he can’t have much freedom to don whatever he wanted to do before since he has a daughter to take care of.