The boy's brain is so different: love your boy well, because he is "enlightened" late.

There is a boy at home. Come and tell me what he focuses on when he comes home after class every day.

Do you focus on playing, eating and reading your favorite books?

Or get your own gadgets.

Or go through the cabinets and mess around

Don't tell me, sometimes you really have to admire them.

You have said countless times, "finish your homework, put your stationery away and put it back in your schoolbag."

But they always leave one or two behind.

No matter how much you nag, some words just can't be heard, as if your ears are closed.

But as soon as they found their point of interest, they came over at the slightest stir.

"go and play the piano!"

Okay, okay, when I finish drinking milk.

Then quietly and slowly holding the straw, I just can't finish it.

I just want to go later.

"come, let's eat!"

He can jump from the piano to the table in two seconds.

Haha, how do you explain this phenomenon?

I think the boys live a careless and heartless life.

But there is also an advantage, it is really pure, you can focus on building blocks all the time, no matter how messy the house is.

When I play, I don't care if I have finished my homework.

And before you yell at him, you will never see that your face has turned cloudy.

Is so focused and purely immersed in their own world.

You can only look up to the sky and sigh, "Why, they just don't understand!"

When it comes to things they don't understand, there are really a lot of things, and how to complain is not enough.

For example, there are many "ignorant" boys in life.

But the most common complaint is that the son is "ignorant", which is always more than the girl.

This semester, Xiaoyu's head teacher had to leave school temporarily and separated from the children because of his own situation.

Knowing the news at that time, we were all worried about the mood of the children.

On the day I went to school to take a group photo, several girls hugged the teacher tightly, shed tears, and said they didn't want to part.

As for the boys in the class, many boys were also infected by this parting atmosphere, with red eyes and some quietly wiping tears.

But there are still some boys, in the face of parting, still playing happily with their companions as if nothing had happened.

Another boy kept asking, "teacher, have you been quit by the school?"

Should we blame these boys for being "hard-hearted" and "emotionally cold"?

Please don't do this.

Adults who really understand children, especially boys at home, must understand this situation.

Because in the perception and expression of emotion, boys are really inferior to girls.

They don't know what this parting means.

I don't know how to express my remembrance to the teacher.

Moreover, they are more likely to think that the teacher will come back and can come to see us. When they were young, they seemed more rational.

Boys are also often complained about their "carelessness" in their studies.

Every time, before I check the homework for Xiaoyu, I should try to make myself feel better and relax.

Because there are always some unexpected answers in front of you.

I really don't know what was on your mind when you were working on this problem.

In fact, he has mastered all the knowledge points well, his understanding ability is good, and his academic performance is also very good.

But there will still be a lot of carelessness.

So the most common thing I said to him was "check again."

"check it again!"

When he examines himself, he will find a problem and then correct it in a hurry.

"at this point, how did you get it right?"

I don't know why you just filled in this answer.

He himself is ignorant and doesn't know what's going on.

And this is not an isolated case, but a universal one.

You will find that in kindergarten and primary school, most of the top grades in the class are girls.

Because the psychological age of girls is two or three years earlier than that of boys, and they are more considerate and sensible than boys.

I can understand the meaning of the question better and be more careful.

At this time, you need to encourage them more and give them a chance to try.

Spend more time with them, to understand the meaning of the topic, to master knowledge points, to improve their grades.

It can not be said that they are not good at it, or that they are not the material for learning.

This will only make the boys farther and farther away from their study and hate it.

It's not a good thing if it goes on like this.

Sometimes, you will find it really difficult for boys to express one thing.

Especially when you express your ideas for solving problems, you will find a world of difference.

Many boys can write answers directly, but they can't write the whole process.

If the teacher asks them to talk on the podium.

The stumbling boys look really hard.

Why is that? because the boys are "slow" in language.

We often say "sharp-tongued" little girl, eloquent girl.

The only thing you can hear is a boy with a "clumsy tongue".

This is not a label for boys and girls, but a common situation.

Just like meeting on the road, girls always greet each other more actively than boys.

And when children want to play with other partners, girls are more likely to take the initiative to invite or express their ideas.

Boys will not be like this, they may gather around you, wear around, or deliberately disrupt your game, hoping to attract everyone's attention and see if they can join.

But many people will mistakenly think that they are deliberately making trouble and exclude them instead.

Why don't boys like to express?

Scientific research has found that in the structure of the female brain, the area responsible for language is 20%, 30% larger than that of men.

So we have to understand their expression problems, it is more important to find ways to exercise their ability.

I always think that reading picture books to children from an early age, telling them stories and chatting with children is the best way.

If we can read together for half an hour every day, we have to say a lot to each other and discuss a lot of ideas.

This is good exercise.

So Xiaoyu's language expression ability is very good, because reading can also enrich the child's vocabulary.

There will not be "words that do not reach the meaning", or do not know what words to use to describe such a situation.

Another common headache for parents is "recklessness" in behavior.

I still remember when Xiaoyu just started kindergarten.

The admissions teacher said that we want to go to a class with more boys and fewer girls, which is difficult to manage.

Boys often have skirmishes and act rashly.

I told them that Xiaoyu is gentle and quiet and won't cause trouble to fight. Don't worry.

I went in at last.

In primary school, too, teachers always worry that there are too many boys in the class.

That's true. Every time you line up to get out of school or take part in activities.

Boys are always the ones who run to and fro in the line, or suddenly jump out of the neat line.

There are even people who jump directly in front of the teacher.

This is because the boys' motor nerves are more developed, and they are easy to get excited when they encounter something exciting.

Energetic, they need some activities to vent.

So PE is always their favorite.

Now on campus, for the sake of safety, a lot of after-class time is limited to the scope of activities.

For boys, the discipline of the school is sometimes unacceptable.

So when you get home, let them do some exercise.

And in the face of their naughty and mischievous, will not hurt people to relax a little bit, do not control too tightly.

Of course, when they are in a good mood, you can still tell them:

"tidy up your room and schoolbag."

"obey the discipline of the classroom and listen to the teacher carefully."

"write in a serious format."

"communicate well with your classmates and don't attack others."

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