The best way to be a father

1. Be there

The biggest failure as a man is to have a child and then reject that child, to shirk your responsibility as a father, to rush into sex, and to rush out when pregnancy comes.

Many children are hurt by a father who is alive but has rejected them, it makes the child feel unwanted and unloved, it breaks the child's self-esteem, and some grow up with a constant feeling of rejection. If you have a child, be there no matter how bad things are between you and the child's mother. You owe it to your young man.

2. Tell your daughter she is beautiful.

The first man to compliment a girl should be her father, the first man to pay attention to her beauty should be her father. A girl should grow up convinced that she is beautiful, that she feels like a princess, and that even when boys try to flatter her that boys are beautiful, she will answer "I know Dad has been telling me that for years.''

Many girls fall for men who are victimized because they are desperately looking for affection, they have father issues, and they have never met a man who truly loved them before they saw their breasts and hips, so they fall for men who use compliments and attention as a carrot to lure them into a trap that leads to hurt.

3. Role Models for Sons

A boy comes into the world as a naive student who absorbs what the male figures around him teach him. He can be taught the right way to be a man or misguided. He learns from the men around him how to treat women well or badly. He should learn proper masculinity from his father. The father should be a role model for how to treat and respect women the best, how to love like a man, how to work, how to provide, how to be a man of integrity.

4. Eat with your family.

Food brings people together, and one of the greatest displays of a child's security is when a father takes the time to share a meal.

5. Be a spiritual leader.

The father should be the high priest. He should guide the child/children to live a righteous life, provide the child with a spiritual foundation that will shape a stable future, and see the father submit to the nature that gave the child life and allowed him to be a parent.

6. Listen.

A child's confidence grows when he has a father who is willing to listen. When a child feels like he can tell his father anything, no amount of fighting will scare the child. Sometimes, you don't have to say much, just sit back and pay attention. The first requirement of love is to listen, to value how you feel and what you have to say.

7. Give advice.

A father should be there to give advice, whether it's asked for or not. Children cry for guidance. As a father, get involved in the process of finding answers. Be open about your mistakes, your childhood, your lessons, and your expectations for your child.

Don't give advice like a dictator who has the final word so that you don't isolate yourself from your child. But help your child understand why you insist on your way, help your child understand your reasons, and train your child to think through solutions. In this way, he/she will grow up with the self-sufficient ability to make good and wise decisions.

8. Be present.

The presence of the father must be felt, many fathers have entrusted the parents to their wives. The best test of love is giving time, don't fail this test.

9. Avoid throwing money at the problem.

No matter how rich you are, throwing money at the problem doesn't make you a father. When your child complains about your absence, when problems arise, when dealing with your child becomes a handful and you feel like you don't have time, don't use money to silence or comfort the child. Fatherhood is an approach, it won't be easy, but the rewards are sweet. Don't run over your ATM. Material things may contain a child for a while, but soon the child looks around and sees empty things, but no love from Dad.

10. Show up.

Make a dad appearance. Show up at your child's playdate, birthday, parent's day, graduation, or other special day. Make a random visit to something your child cares about, even if it's just for a few minutes. Briefly meet your child's friends, let your child feel that Dad's loving eyes are watching over them.