Sometimes, how you treat your 'enemies'..is what defines you..
There have been many defining moments in my long life...But i think you could sum up who I am by an example i will share with you that happened a few years ago. I was married to a younger man, who was my (so I thought) my very best friend... He was from a rough childhood, and we had totally different moral values to say the least.. We lived together for years and, against all odds, got married and stayed together for 8 years before divorcing....I had found during that time his old street ways had gotten the best of him and he was a repeat cheating offender, but with one young lady in particular. She was very brazen, even waiting for him outside our house on many occasions...I tried to be patient, but finally had enough when he called me one day and told me he had met a nice girl. I remember telling him he has a nice girl... I told him to be happy and presumed it was the terror that had been such a horrible part of our married life. Instead, it was another young lady he had met out of town... So, i wished him well, i really did, but put his things in storage and locked him out of my home, I didnt even want him there..... I was walking down the boardwalk and ran into the girl, who thought he was going to leave me for her. She looked like a frightened child. I told her, no dear, he never had any intention of leaving me for you. She began to cry and I dont know why but i hugged her and told her not to feel sad there would be a better guy waiting for her some days. This a woman who taunted me and made my life a living hell ...but i put myself out of the situation and somehow found compassion ... My ex went on to cheat on the woman he left me for... I was older than him, she was younger than him... but Karma has a way of coming back to bite people...She left him for a younger guy and her and I became friends.. I guess what im saying is this sums me up pretty good. I have always been a realist. I tried to put myself in the other persons place,.. What if i found love and wanted out... I would have told them first off that i was not feeling the same way and before i cheated on them I know i would have gotten out of the relations.. I endured a lot and it was like a death when we split up. I wont forget how i congratulated them both, while he was driving her around in the car my mom had bought for us that i gave to him... But later in life.. i think we get paid back for kindness.. I recently fell very ill (six months ago) and almost lost my life to six life saving surgeries. Id been running a fever, went to the ER where i found i had a punctured small intestine..which led to severe Interitis... and oral thrush.. It had spread into my stomach into perontinitis..and during the three weeks stay at the hospital, they did a dnc, found i had stage two cancer... two biopsies... they put me on intervenious antibiotics to control the infections for three weeks. I then went in on May 29, for four massive surgeries... A foot and a half of my small intestine, radical hysterectomy..appendectomy, cut me 35 staples down my belly to open my stomach and drain the perointitus..gave me a heart catheter,..and all this while trying to bring my Potassium levels back up from 2.6, which could have been fatal on its own. I was brought through it like they could not believe. I lost 30 pounds while in the hospital and now, five months later I am walking two miles a day.. I had a haital hernia, and all of the doctors said i should not be alive. I often wondered, if my kindness to others was taken into consideration because i certainly didnt think i deserved to live.... But i to this day, was ready to accept my fate...What goes around does come around..
