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The Cost of Comfort: How Overprotection Broke a Generation
We are watching an entire generation crumble under the weight of emotional fragility, identity confusion, and quiet despair. We call it a "mental health crisis," but that phrase feels far too clean. The truth is harder: the problem isn’t that kids were born weaker, but that they were taught to fear the very things that make them strong.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast3 months ago in Families
The War of Understanding: Why Men and Women Fight Differently
Men and women often see the same moment through different lenses. What one perceives as confrontation, the other experiences as connection. What one calls “silence,” the other calls “space.” Beneath nearly every conflict between men and women lies not hatred, but misinterpretation. The battlefield is rarely the issue itself. It is language, tone, and expectation.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast3 months ago in Families
Easiest way to lose fat 2x faster
Tons of fitness videos promise the secret to losing fat fast, then hit you with a workout that would make a Navy Seal throw up, boil chicken for lunch, and lots of crying. It is not working if you are not suffering. But what if I told you a simple walking method can burn fat faster than killing yourself with cardio? I know that sounds hard to believe, but it's just one of four sciencebacked strategies I'll show you to help you lose fat up to two times faster without losing muscle. And I've crunched the numbers to prove it. Okay, so reducing your intake of fat is the first tactic. Additionally, I want you to compare managing your finances to losing weight. Your daily calorie allowance is as follows: this bowl here. Take it as 2,000 calories. Now, these little balls I got over here, this is your protein and carbs. So, protein like chicken and carbs like potatoes. Since they contain four calories per gram, you can consume a lot of them without exceeding your calorie allowance, right? However, your fats are these guys here, these big kahunas. They contain 9 calories per gram. So, you can see just having a few of them can quickly make you go over your calorie budget. So, when it comes to dieting, the thing about protein is that you still want to have a lot of them because it's going to help with building your muscle and it's also going to help with losing fat as you see later on. Carbohydrates, on the other hand, cause people to experience an immediate loss of energy if they are eliminated too soon, according to my observations. So, with fats, not only does taking out, you know, maybe one or two fat sources from your day immediately save you a ton of calories, but the only real compromise you're making is slightly less tasty food. Now, for health reasons, you don't want to go below around 35 to 50 grams of fat per day. That's your minimum. But you'd be surprised with how much fat you're actually consuming. A ribeye steak with oil and butter is already over 60 g of fat. That's almost 700 calories right there. So, here's what I want you to do. Consider the fats you consume on a daily basis. Cheese, butter, and even healthy fats like avocado. Starting tomorrow, cut however much you usually have of these in half. Since I'm half Filipino, meats were my primary source of fat. There was a lot of pork, sausage, spam, and even strange meats like full-grown pigs and belute, which is basically a half-born duck, laid out on the table. This is very cruel now that I think about it. And it explains why every friend I brought over for dinner never ended up coming back. Anyways, I want you to also check if you're eating any of these highfat proteins. Delicious, but calorie bombs. Therefore, try having just one of these every day, and then pick a protein source from this list that is more pure for all of your other meals. And you can apply the same concept even when you're eating out. All right, so I'm at Chipotle. I just got the chicken bowl with some guac and cheese. And I took out half the guacamole and half of the cheese. And I'm going to use my Fil Science app. It has an AI scanner that will figure out the calories. So, we got about 100 g of guac and about 15 g of cheese together, that's 200 calories, right? So, just by cutting the fats in half, you're saving 200 calories. And so, when you're ordering, maybe just ask them for a little bit of guac, a little bit of cheese instead of the normal serving that they get. You can apply this when you're eating out, apply it to your foods that you eat at home. But obviously, if you take out all the fats, it makes it taste not as good. So that's why I'm saying just cut half. You know what I mean? You still get a lot of the flavor, but you save a ton of calories. Now, I would recommend using some kind of food tracking app to keep track of this. I personally use the one that we built here called Built with Science Plus, as it personalizes the fat intake for me, and it lets me know how much wiggle room I have and to prevent me from going too low. But regardless of how you track it, if you just cut one fat source in half and make one protein swap, boom, you're saving up to 250 calories per day, which already speeds up your fat loss by half a pound per week. And you can lose even more by combining it with the next strategy, the walking method. So, when most people think about fat loss, the first thing that comes to their mind is cardio. However, cardio is not very effective. Let's take a bunch of people and have them burn 2,000 calories from cardio every week. On paper, this should result in a loss of approximately two pounds of fat after a month. But when a study actually tested this, the average fat loss was less than half of that, with some people not losing any fat at all. Why? In fact, deliberate exercise, such as cardio or weight lifting, contributes to some of your daily calorie burn. But what most people don't know is you burn way more calories from all the things that you do outside of the gym. So simple things like typing at a computer, walking your dog, or even cooking dinner. Now, all these nonworkout activities, they're called NEAT. And what's fascinating is that a highly active person, they can burn up to 2,000 more calories every day just from NEAT compared to someone who's more sedentary. 2,000 calories. So, what happened with the participants in the study is that even though they burned a ton of calories during their cardio sessions, they took the lazy route the rest of the day. They just ended up in a couch lock watching Netflix with their most intense activity being carrying a Dorito from the bag to their mouth, tanking the calories they usually burn from meat. Plus, cardio sessions can also make you hungrier. Additionally, individuals frequently eat back all or even more of the calories they burned. So, while cardio is great for your heart and health, it's kind of just meh for fat loss. A much better approach I personally use myself and with our Built with Science clients is plain old walking. Okay, so I actually learned this one by accident. Back in the day, long before YouTube, I got a summer job as a funeral caterer. Weird gig, I know, but I was on my feet all day unloading caskets, serving people food, and trying my best to cheer them up. And I remember looking at my phone and I was getting on average like 12 to 15,000 steps a day. And so after two months of this, even though it didn't change anything with my diet and did no cardio, I ended up being the leanest I had ever been in my life without even trying. I remember every time I go to the bathroom, I lift my shirt and every week my abs would pop just a little bit more to the point where I was contemplating turning that funeral room into a magic mic show. Thankfully, my YouTube channel took off so I no longer have to cater at funerals. But walking to this day is still my main form of cardio to get lean and stay lean. So much so that I even invested in an under desk treadmill. And so all I do is twice a day I'll use this guy for 30 minutes while I'm banging out emails or just like mundane tasks. And that alone is 6,000 steps. And then the rest of the day, let's say I'm going to the grocery store, I'll make sure to park further away just to get more steps in. And then whenever I need a break, I'll just go for a walk around the block and boom, I'm easily at over 10,000 steps. And I use my Built with Science Plus app on my phone to just track my steps and make sure I'm hitting my target. But you can use the health app on your phone or whatever it is for Android. I just want you to try to hit 7,000 to 12,000 steps per day. Anywhere within that range, that's a good sweet spot to aim for. And guys, to put this into perspective, a 30-minute walk, that's 3,000 steps, right? So let's say that every day you start just doing that. The average person is going to burn 100 to 200 calories from 3,000 steps. So, if you just simply add a 30-minute walk every single day, after a month, you can lose an extra pound of fat. And every single week, that's going to speed up your fat loss by about a/4 pound of fat. And you can speed this up even further if you apply the next strategy with your diet, which is called the accidental deficit. The easiest way to prevent calories from being stored as fat is by not eating them in the first place. Let me show you. So, 250 calories are in these sad hand pillow chips here. That was the easy part. Now, I'm going to put on this mask and we're going to see how long it takes me to burn off those chips jogging on the treadmill. I hope I succeed. So, that was an excellent reminder of how much I hate running. Guess how long that took me? Just under 25 minutes. Sincerely, longer than I anticipated. Way easier just to not eat the chips. It demonstrates the point. Your diet can do most of the work. And that's where the accidental deficit comes in. Think about the last time you got really sick. Like when you spent days confined to your bed, barely able to eat a cracker, but managed to lose a few pounds without really trying. It's kind of the same idea as that. No, I'm not telling you to go give yourself food poisoning. Can we try one where it's like obviously don't put your mouth directly on it, but hold up and you're like lowering it down. But think about your busiest days at work or school where you barely have time to eat, let alone think about food. and by the end of the day, you get home and realize, "Holy crap, I've barely eaten all day." Why not use those days to your advantage? For example, Kevin is our head engineer for our app, and as soon as he sits down to code, he just logs in. It's insane. Like, he doesn't even think about food all day, and I actually have to remind him of his basic needs, like drinking water. What did you eat today? [Music] So, he barely eats at work, but when he gets home, he'll Uber eat some pizza or take out and pretty much just eat whatever. So, when I try to help him get in shape, all we did was he sw
By Ibrahim dayyab4 months ago in Families
“Breaking Stereotypes, One Story at a Time”
In a world where the stories of Muslim women are often misrepresented, overlooked, or filtered through someone else’s lens, The Digital Sisterhood Podcast stands as a vibrant, authentic, and inspiring platform. It is not just a podcast—it’s a movement, a safe space, and a celebration of the diverse experiences, achievements, and voices of Muslim women across the globe. For anyone who believes in the power of storytelling to change perceptions and build community, this podcast is a shining example of how media can uplift rather than stereotype.
By Shehzad Anjum4 months ago in Families
Dad, Tell Me Your Story: The Unwritten Legacy in Your Living Room
It hits you at the oddest moments. Maybe you’re watching him fiddle with the grill, a man perfectly comfortable in the silent ritual of cooking. Or perhaps you see an old, faded photograph of a young man with a different hairstyle and a glint in his eye you don’t quite recognize. In that moment, a simple, powerful thought emerges: I don't really know him.
By Epic Vibes4 months ago in Families
Female sexual dysfunction
What Is Female Sexual Dysfunction? Female sexual dysfunction refers to ongoing sexual problems that make intimacy less satisfying or cause stress in a relationship. These issues can involve desire, arousal, orgasm, or pain during sex.
By MUHAMMAD Abbas4 months ago in Families
The Heart Behind the Helmet
The Heart Behind the Helmet: The Story of Diego Pavia's Biggest Fan In the world of college football, we celebrate the quarterbacks for their arm strength, their mobility, and their leadership on the field. We know the names, the stats, and the highlight reels. But behind every great athlete is a foundation of support, often built by family. For New Mexico State quarterback Diego Pavia, that unwavering foundation, his biggest fan, is his mother.
By KAMRAN AHMAD4 months ago in Families
From Scholarship Winner to Wanted Man: The Path of the Kirk Shooting Suspect
In the conservative southern Utah city where Tyler Robinson grew up, neighbors and classmates described him as a reserved, intelligent young man raised in a Republican family who was deeply interested in video games, comic books and current events.
By MUHAMMAD Abbas4 months ago in Families
Trinity Health Ann Arbor
Trinity Health Ann Arbor, located in Ypsilanti, Michigan, is a nationally recognized teaching hospital that continues to set the standard for compassionate, high-quality care. As part of the Trinity Health Michigan network, this 560-bed facility has built a reputation for combining advanced medical expertise with a strong commitment to community well-being. Whether it’s through groundbreaking treatments, award-winning specialty programs, or outreach initiatives, Trinity Health Ann Arbor remains a trusted partner in health for thousands of families across southeast Michigan.
By salamguide5 months ago in Families
