Real high emotional communication, from these two abilities

What is most important in social interaction?

Some people say intelligence, others say emotional intelligence. Different people will have different answers, after all, everyone's situation and experience are different, we always need to learn how to get along with people, to better adapt to society.

So, high emotional intelligence can be reflected by what?

It's simple: communication.

True high emotional intelligence communication is not about being able to talk, but about being able to communicate in a way that makes others feel comfortable

These two abilities are essential in effective communication.

1. know but not say, is a cultivation

Some people often think that high emotional intelligence is to be able to talk, but in fact, this is just a personal idea.

I do not know if you have encountered such a scene in life.

There are always people who listen to the wind and take hearsay and render it very different from the truth.

Some people are used to showing their superiority on social occasions and take the shortcomings of others as the talk of the day after dinner.

All of the above does not make us much better, but only highlights a person's ignorance and lack of cultivation.

I heard a story like this.

Franklin once came out of the lobby with his colleagues and saw a lady fall accidentally, and his colleagues were about to go forward to help each other up when Franklin stopped his colleagues.

Afterward, when the lady stood up, Franklin and his colleague came out.

The company's employees are not sure why Franklin is usually very enthusiastic, but this time he ignored the fallen woman.

Franklin said, "No one wants others to see their embarrassment."

It dawned on the colleague: it turns out that not all mutual help can make others feel comfortable. More often than not, we are used to helping others in our way and ignoring the feelings of others.

Sometimes, not saying anything is also kindness.

Knowing and not saying anything is considerate of others and their cultivation, giving others decency and earning themselves the respect of others.

2. No nonsense, is respect for others

Real high emotional communication does not mean that one can talk, but also avoid saying nonsense.

If we say a lot of words but are not precise, then, the worst case is to make others resent and think we say the words without any nutrition.

Everyone's time is limited, we should make efficient choices and actions within the limited time.

I had an online friend with whom I had only a casual acquaintance online.

Because there was a brief exchange, it has been in each other's address book, but I never took the initiative to chat with the other.

One day, the other party sent me a message at 11:30 pm late at night, asking me what content I am writing to make money. Then, also asked what I am doing now.

At that time, I felt very speechless.

It was more or less uncomfortable to be awakened by an alert tone just after I had fallen asleep myself.

Moreover, the other party's questions were worthless, and felt like they were consuming each other's time.

A few times later, I was asked questions that I could find on the Internet late at night, but they took up my sleep time when I could look them up myself.

After that, I simply didn't reply again and deleted the other party from my address book.

This kind of thing is very common in our lives.

Some people, who usually do not have anything to do, think you know about a certain area, just the other party has your contact information, and will hold a "no words" to ask questions mentality, to consume us.

This will not only make people feel low emotional intelligence but also let us pull the other party into the social "blacklist".

As adults, we do not have to bother others with everything, encounter difficulties, first to solve our own, and then they can not handle it, and then to ask others.

In this way, you can grow, but also be more able to establish an image of high emotional intelligence.

3. The so-called high emotional intelligence communication, is to make others feel comfortable

I have seen many straightforward people, and chatter as the performance of high emotional intelligence, and some even think that a person who can talk is eloquent and capable.

I don't know, there are two sides to everything, what you think is high emotional intelligence, in the eyes of others, maybe ignorance.

The so-called efficient communication is to make others feel comfortable, not by their preferences, the mouth is not blocked.

Perhaps, in front of people who can tolerate us, we can be reckless and say some jokes.

However, when you step into society, this is not the case.

Communication is not just about talking properly, but also about speaking responsibly.

It is difficult to have a sincere relationship even if we have too many false words.

Sometimes, if your communication is not efficient, it is better to keep silent, and the person who can make you feel comfortable is your real friend.

The first thing you need to do is to communicate with a high level of emotional intelligence, which is also an art, not just a tool for socializing.

Some people speak like a spring breeze, while others speak with a burst of revulsion.

I've often heard people say that some people are well-liked because they have high emotional intelligence and can talk.

This is not wrong, but it is very difficult to do. Because, we are accustomed to standing in our position to see the problem, naturally speaking out to, also with a subjective color.

Therefore, want to communicate with high emotional intelligence, from their own words and actions to change is necessary.

In the future, may you communicate efficiently and do a high emotional intelligence of people.