No money for men in love is a sin

Readers write in to say the following.

My husband and I are ordinary working people, because we work all year round in a small county, so our monthly income together is less than $8,000. And because my parents and in-laws are farmers, so my husband and I got married more than a decade before we bought a house and car in our county, during the two elderly and children's expenses and daily expenses, so my husband and I can not save any money.

My son went to school, my husband and I especially hope that our son can study well, our idea is very simple: only to study well, in order to fight for a more reliable future for themselves. In fact, my son's academic performance during school is still quite good, and after graduating from graduate school in the city of work has a more stable job. Unfortunately, the son is 31 years old this year, still not talking about a date. I have asked my son: do you like boys, if it is like boys, parents also accept this harsh reality. In fact, the son's sexual orientation is normal, and he is now reluctant to touch love because: it is a sin to fall in love with a man who has no money.

Although my son has never complained in front of us that my husband and I make less money, but the harsh reality is that my husband and I can't help much at the level of my son's house purchase, so much so that sometimes I feel quite sorry for my son. Regarding my son's marriage, I know it's useless to force him. But the parents will certainly be worried about this matter all the time.

In fact, we've been around for most of our lives, and we don't know that all the romantic things in life need to be supported by money. Perhaps the young girls of this era are more pragmatic. Or maybe my son has had previous love experiences that led to love eventually losing out to material things, making my son not take practical action on the matter of marriage now.

Now, what my husband and I can do: try to help my son save more money by saving money. During this period, relatives, friends and neighbors will certainly be "concerned" about our son's marriage, and every time, my husband and I can only pretend to calmly say: nowadays, young people have their own way of life. In fact, every time this time, our heart is very difficult.

Muzi Li emotional analysis.

You and your husband are still more enlightened parents, at least you can understand the helplessness of your son in fighting for the city. In fact, your son is not anxious about his life event. You have a more rational analysis of your son's reluctance to touch the possibility of love, the probability of the situation should be: he once met a woman who was in love with him, but their feelings eventually lost to the material, resulting in your son is still in the healing stage. In addition, he also has a lot of people around the same age love lost to material things, so your son in the loss of love and the surrounding environment, the formation of a more pessimistic view of marriage: no money for men in love is a sin.

In the present day, more and more groups of late marriages, in fact, they have a yearning for married life in their hearts, but in their shy state, in order to cover up their embarrassment, or will claim to be unmarried in front of colleagues as well as friends. It needs to be acknowledged that in today's marriage market, both during the relationship and the process of preparing for the wedding will indeed cost a lot of money, the key is not everyone's view of marriage is money first. If you encounter a situation in life where you like each other and the other's view of marriage is more grounded, you should give love a chance. But there will be people because they are shy but also hold a more pragmatic view of marriage, for this part of the people, will be in life to exercise such an attitude of marriage: no money, not willing to touch love.

Seriously, about married life is afraid of not right now shyness in the bag, but sitting on the hills. Life often sees such women, obviously their ability to earn money is not, not even willing to work, but would like to find a man, so that they can live a life of sitting on their hands. For such a woman, naturally not those family conditions more general men can be recruited. Therefore, for people from average families, they should be more cautious when it comes to preferring a marriage partner. Although including me and many parents, including people still hope that the young people of today will eventually choose to go into the city, but it is clear that forced marriage will not solve the actual problem. Perhaps in the matter of children getting married, as parents to their children the most affordable help is within the ability to help children save more money.

Many parents, not willing to think differently, the result: every time you talk to your children on the phone, or the few children back home, will be on the children's marriage, but ignore a more practical problem: the real situation of children is what? In fact, sometimes I really don't blame the children for being too picky, but rather I think they are treating their own life events with a more rigorous attitude, which makes them reluctant to go down the road of getting married just for the sake of getting married. Nowadays, the concept of marriage may be different from the concept of marriage 20 or 30 years ago, so, in the case of their own parents past the perceived marriageable age and not married, understanding may be more comfortable than forced marriage to children.

There is a difference between not getting married temporarily and not having the idea of getting married at all. In fact, even if some people don't have the idea of getting married at some point in time, it doesn't mean that he will never have the idea of getting married. When a person can be relatively free at the economic level, perhaps the attitude about life will also change accordingly. As a matter of fact, people from average families who go to big cities from small cities to work are not generally in an awkward position in life. At this time they may at some point want to return to the small city where they grew up, at least at the level of buying a house is not a lot of pressure, but worried that after returning to their parents, they can not find a relatively reliable job, but also in the city where they work and get by.

In fact, many people do not have too many expectations in the face of life, they feel that a stable job, a set of their own house in the city of work, there is a struggle for life together with the love of life, and then and love to have a child belonging to two people. The point is, there are too many young people working in the city of work will be because of the house thing, resulting in love fizzled out. In this case, they will certainly not blame their origin, at the same time, they also hope that their parents can understand that they are not easy. In this case, parents do not force marriage, in a way is the spiritual salvation of them. So, about the marriage of children, children and parents need to do mutual understanding.

Editor's note.

For some people, perhaps one or two years of income can help them realize the dream of having a house, but for many families, it takes the whole family to work together for more than a decade to realize the dream of having a house. Perhaps in this piece of earning power, there is really no comparison, but there is one thing you need to insist on: never mind how difficult your life is at the moment, do not give up on your efforts at work, believe that as long as you are willing to work hard and the direction of the other side, a good life will be closer and closer to you.

Many people have experienced a more difficult time that others could not see before solving the food and clothing, and when you look back, perhaps you will be indifferent to the sorrows, but will certainly tell yourself: everything you did before was worth it. While you are young, let yourself work harder in the work, please believe that one day in the future you will thank yourself for having worked hard for life.