Mom had a Dream

It all happened in 1992. I was born. second child to my parents. crazy as it sounds, I was, am the naughtiest kid. I was and still I am the toughest to handle. I am quick as a wind but I am the one who has most troubled parents, grandparents as well. Always running around, making every inch of mistakes, the tough kid at times for my parents , grandmother to look after. let me tell you how at each face we have tried to achieve our dreams.

we are 3 daughters born in a very orthodox (village). All started there. Mom and dad might had a dream of raising all of us like queens, oh! which they did. Dad dreams. Mom dreams. 3 daughters dreams. well! all have to be fulfilled isnt it? lets see how that worked for us.

#When we were kids we had an amazing childhood. we had amazing toys to play. Friends to play with. Villagers who would complain about us. Families who would yell, shout, compare and insult which was very usual to us. With all that being, we were raised equally, never onto any restrictions, never forced to do anything, always asked for our preferences, choices. Interests were respected.

Once , there was this time when i was 5 years old, I have heard from my elder sister, someone talking about our dad and how our dad's driver took all our dad's money and dad had to literally give the gold taking it out from my sister's ear. Probably that time , Mom would have thought more than the gold, just to come out of all this and take the kids far away and raise so that they won't remember this.

Which my dad did, we went to Bangalore. Dreaming to get a great schooling(English Medium). Our new life: from village to city transformation started. Mom thought this would change things for her husband, for us.

#When i was 6- 10 year old: We were living in a 1 bhk. My mom is an amazing women. very welcoming. All of our relatives would come home, enjoy with us. They always liked us, and at the same time did not like dad and always wished not having that perfect life as in money with him to raise us. They used to complain and compare about our hobbies, our lifestyle with them and blame. They would always comment about his being, style, having money that he struggled to keep us happy.

We were so small to even realise , we were happy. We were contented. Me, sisters, mom and dad. Thats our life was all about. we used to wait for dad in the evening to come home from work, eat play watch a movie with him.

For us 3, never thought or asked how mom and dad were doing. How they have struggled to raise us. what was their thinking? how they did manage? What was thier dream. It is not easy to manage 3 girls. They had a lot to do. Things didnt go well after a while for dad in bangalore. We had to shift back again to village. Lot of relatives issues, lies, struck with people who just waits a chance to yell, insult, point out. Mom thought again lets go back and see how that works. No expectations there. Always mom has trusted god and believed in him that nothing can go wrong. and that worked. let me tell you how we connect and felt so relieved.

#When i was 11-13 year old: We went back to native. Dad's brother who has always been unsuportive of anything dad does, had an opinion for coming back. Commented on, again never supported. Mom did. She has, she has been through out. we went to kannada medium school. Mom was principle too. Again out life started better , thats what we thought. For us, it was the lunch , dinner , at grandmother;s place. Enjoyed every bit of time with grandfathers. Played with friends, studied, rankers.

Elder sister would have a different story to tell. As she is 5 years older than me and would have experienced every bit of pain what mom and dad would have gone through. Mom and dad would never show anything, never expressed uptill now, never stopped loving us, always would bring stuff, fulfilled all our dreams, we always got what we want. Just think in mind, dad would fulfill in seconds. we were, we are that lucky.

Yet then, we had to move to a different city- Belgaum. Dad got a job. Apparently, a new life again leaving everyone here. This time elder sis could not join us.

#When i was 14-17 year old: We went to belgaum, schooling. We had a beautiful life there. Us 4. Study, cycling to school, watching movies, going out, eating chats, made a lot of friends, playing. All the neigbours were well wishers, close, happy meeting us, talking to us. we had a great life, then elder sister joined us for a degree.

We had all her stories of college to listen to, movies, the biggest ganesh festivals, house was filled with garden , plants , we got a car. We were roaming everywhere. Sister learnt driving. we could never feel any better, we had to again move back to native. Grandfather passed away.

That was the twist again. we almost thought this is us. Us 5 , together happily every after there comes a storm and had to rush back. Another dream or a wish of mine, to be there wasnt anymore. No contacts of friends, no great feeling of coming back. Mom handled all that so well again and we got settled at my native next to banks.

#When i was 18 and 19: PUC 1 and PUC 2 This is the most toughest part of my life. Struggling to study, get a college, get good marks as people cousins, relatives, kids everyone were pointing fingers at me. Had the toughest treatment from everyone except mom dad and sisters. This is the time where i got struck with my first dream. My mom made it happen irrespective of anyone opposed due to money, staying away . I wanted to be an Engineer.

I made it. Got a college seat in bangalore. Dad listening to mom, didnt even think twice, took loan and got admission. series of dreams follow then.

#When i was in Engineering: Dad left me at hostel. Crying so hard the whole day, I never thought in my life i would feel sooooo alone and wanted everything back to normal, except it wont happen. Hostel was amazing, beautiful room, a bed to yourself, bathroom. Nice roommate. Ragging, crying, missing home, cursing myself thousand times for taking up this decision of staying apart, yet rebelling back as i had to do it.

Only two things followed in my head. I cant waste time, I had to study and get a good job. Loan was always on my head. I had to to do. With sleepless nights, studying very hard, crying all the 4 years in hostel, made it. I finished my Engineering without having a backlog. My 1st dream was achieved. I was sooo happy, parents were proud. Next my target was to find a job. Job hunting begins.

#Me,when I am Job hunting: Crazy rides, horrible emotional torments. Every single day waiting for a job, attend an interview, to attend travel in bus, trains, walk , lifts, created accounts in every single job site, apply for the job you see, ask for anyone and everyone for a job, seek for any help, struggled to my extreme ability.

Always had a trust about getting a job, would do anything for it. Trusted god, parents supported, thrived for the job, struggled a lot physically, mentally and emotionally. Heard so many insulting comments from soo many people, relatives, villagers. Heart broken at times, regretted being alone and struggling but could always gain back as i had always dreamt to get one job.

After attending 17 companies, I made it in HPE. My first company, my motivating company that changed my life. Parents had shifted to bangalore. We were together again. I got the job. Thats the first time i had seen my parents proud eyes. They were so happy, I cant express this feeling enough. It was life changing. For me, for them, it was a moment of celebration in a very long time. Tears in everyone's eyes, a hectic struggle had come to an end. I started job, paid loans, switched companies, we were all Happy.

Dad has this amazing kindness. He showers and want to give to people who does not have anything. He is a giver. He has not expected anything from anyone. He has raised us more than boy kids. He always says he is three times richer than others, because he has 3 daughters.

To add to our happiness, sister had kids, seeing my parents to grandparents is one another emotion. It is so very overwelming. Another dream of us together praying had come true. We as a family are emotionally so strong, bind eachother, being with each other,which makes us strongest. Every step of my life from Engineering was the toughest until i got a job and we settled in Kurubarahalli, Bangalore. It was the best and the saturation testing point for anyone with respect to extreme emotional control , you have to make sure you are strong and pull yourself together and get it done.

My younger sister got a car to our dad. That was another dream to come true. Again, that moment of having car and then not having car and bam! 7 years later- you are buying a brad new car. Dad and mom are sitting inside for a drive. This is another emotional expression for everyone. little ones on her lap, us 3 behind. It was all perfect again. we gained ourselves back. We bond emotionally so strong that none can break us. Now at this time, Mom would still have not have expected anything, but then looking back at us then and now, we all have grown much stronger emotionally, financially, mentally.

I got married. I had to stay away from my husband due to corona. Couldnt travel with him to Australia. In a way, it was sad as we couldnt get time together but as a matter of fact, we earned, we bought a house. Sister and her husband bought a house too. This is a biggest dream for us. For our parents. All their dreams, our dreams is slowly and firmly coming true.

Never have seen mom breaking down, never seen her eyes shed. She has never stopped loving us, supporting us, always been supportive of Dad. Always by his side making him stronger and us the strongest. Today, with all the dreams coming true, we are educated, we are raised kind and humble and loving, we are settled, yet with no expectations she stills prays god to keep us safe, help us achive all our dreams. I think this is pure love. I have to say Inevitable. Selfless Love of her has made us all humble and kind and being really at a position where we can try to be independant. Personally to me, She has made me stronger, work hard, believe in myself as she does-in us and today I have, we have achived the dream.

She has waited 35 years for this dream of us to come true, with patience, selfless efforts, zero expectations, always spreading kind and joy, empathy to the core, extreme positive thinking and most important trusting in god. She has always believed that this day would come. She and we would circle back from bad to good. We could do the things, right together. we did achieve and gained our strengths, we could stand back and she is an amazing inspiration to all of us.

Today, we can say we are all always blessed, proud and can never ask for more.Trust in god, faith in ourselves, love towards each other, parents extreme support, working hard, believe in youself is just the key to achieve your dreams. Life is all about showing kindness , spreading joy, no comparision, trusting each other , being truthful, being there when you need.

-HU