How to tell your wife she's gained weight?

They are called the kilos of love but they are not carried in the heart, but basically from the waist down!

These five kilos (or, alas, more) settle in the woman's body without anyone realizing it… at least within the couple. But one morning they catch your eye and you wonder how it happened!

How is it possible that the fit woman you've chosen as your life partner has become like this, tight in her clothes and uncomfortable with her body? How could you not notice anything? Yet she has told you several times that she felt fat. But you've always gently teased her, reassuring her that she is her to you and she will always be the most beautiful of her! But now, suddenly, you realize that she was right: what to do?

Many men prefer to keep quiet, but the more the extra pounds increase, the more tensions grow in the couple . Now that you've become aware of her extra pounds, you find her less attractive than before and feel that she is increasingly nervous and uncomfortable with her body. Not to mention that she starts to worry about her health. First of all, you try to figure out why for yourself.

She got fat because she's sick

First of all breathe, try to understand the seriousness of the situation and evaluate it. Is it just 3 extra kilos or a 30% weight gain? Something happened and he's venting about the food:

• has problems at work or with a friend
• she is pregnant and doesn't know it yet
• he stopped playing sports due to an injury.
• a painful event for her (she lost her job, someone in her family or in her circle of friends died, etc…)

If your partner is going through a period of mourning or profound discomfort that has triggered the desire to take refuge in food, the advice is to avoid attacking her extra pounds. Instead, she tries to help and be close to her. This, for her, is not the right time to start a diet. Her letting off steam in her food is a warning sign, a way of saying "help me get out of it", so support her and to hell with the extra pounds, at least for now!

Over the years you gain weight more easily

Make sure your idea of ​​ideal weight isn't wrong.

Many men dream of their woman remaining young, slim and wrinkle-free for life. But it is an unattainable wish. You too have put on some bacon and have a few more wrinkles than before…

Realize that keeping an eighteen year old body is impossible and against nature!

Before talking to her, reflect on this truth or you risk hurting her for nothing. Look around, take a look at your wife's friends and colleagues and ask yourself: is she average?

If she's put on a few extra pounds due to age, take the opportunity to look in the mirror. Did you weigh yourself down too? Maybe you should review your lifestyle? One too many beers, fried foods, junk food in front of the television certainly don't help you keep fit. The solution? You both start eating healthier and moving more.

Now that you've analyzed the situation well, you're ready to address the issue with her, but are you afraid of her reaction? Here are 3 possible female profiles. Find the one closest to you and read the tips for talking and acting!

Profile 1

Your partner is a very direct and ironic woman, you have the habit of confronting each other and you speak frankly, with humor and making fun of each other.

Do you know that she is not susceptible? You can certainly adopt the cold shower method : "You've gained a few pounds, it's time to go on a diet!".

But know that a woman is a woman and even if she has a lot of humor and self-irony, the subject is thorny and can put her in crisis. Addressing the matter head-on can be an effective electroshock, but you have to be delicate, don't make fun of her, and don't think about doing it in public. Choose the right time to do it.

If you've both gained weight, everything is much easier : “I weighed myself this morning and noticed that I've gained 10 kilos since we've been together. I don't feel well and I would like to start a diet, what do you say?” By doing so, you will arouse a sense of compassion in her and will trigger her desire to share this project with you.

Profile 2

Your partner has gained weight and is very touchy and insecure.

Women are often offended and this profile is certainly the most common: how to behave?

Avoid direct confrontation with her or you risk sulking or embarking on endless arguments for weeks on end!

If your partner is absolutely unaware of her extra pounds (yes, it can happen), it's a delicate and time-consuming job that requires patience. Try suggesting that you look at the photos of your honeymoon together: perhaps she will realize the change in her!

You can also tell her that you'd like to see her in that floral dress she was wearing five years ago when you met. If she can't zip up then you win! After that, though, you'll need to be there to support her and above all, don't get caught up in guilt. Remember that you are doing it for his sake.

Profile 3

She is already aware of being fat and experiences her excess weight badly. But she absolutely doesn't want to talk about it because the subject of chili is taboo for her. The right strategy is: patience and optimism!

You both know she's gained weight and you also know it won't be easy. Here are some tips to get you motivated:

• You start playing sports and try to involve her without pushing her too much! Give her the time she needs!
• Take care of your physical appearance: seeing you, she will also want to take better care of herself and buy clothes, she will love herself more and probably the next step will be to start a diet.
• Start complimenting her again: it may seem illogical to you but this advice is from Shmuley Boteach, a very famous couple's therapist. His theory is that many women let themselves go because they have the feeling (founded or not) that they are no longer watched by their partner. If she has gained weight, perhaps it is also partly your fault because you no longer make her feel beautiful and desirable, so reverse the trend and start paying her compliments, you will see that she will gradually feel better, more confident and will want to take care of herself.

After these tips, it's up to you to make your move … face the tiger and … let us know how it went!