Happy married life secrets

When you were a boy, you were never told you were married until your parents were old enough to tell you that you were going to be married. Now I’m telling you about some of the best habits for married life you should try to follow. These are very simple and can make your marriage much more stable and peaceful.

1) Never lose sight of it

I used to think that I was too proud to get married. But recently, when my husband proposed to me, I realized that perhaps I wasn’t ready for the commitment. So the next time in our wedding ceremony we talked and joked about this situation.

2) Keep an open mind

Having to explain something to your wife can be stressful, especially if it is a big deal. Be prepared. If you want to keep things short and sweet, talk about the small stuff or little-known facts before you go for it. This way, your spouse will understand what you want from life. You have only a few hours to live it. Don’t waste them trying to convince her why you chose to do this, but rather why not? And ask her for suggestions instead of assuming everything will fall into place.

3) Tell each other what you want and don’t need

A good relationship goes beyond just saying “yes” or “no”. It also includes being able to give each other clear opinions and ideas. Have one thing to say about each other, rather than simply saying yes or no. Sometimes our spouses really prefer this kind of communication, which is why they can sometimes stay by themselves. Asking questions like: What kind of partner are you, how long have you been married and so on. Make sure to let them know how their partner makes you feel. Then ask yourself what you would have done to make their life better and avoid the things they like. Then, finally, ask yourself what they love most about you.

4) Share your feelings and goals with each other

If you need to find out something new for your marriage, don’t make assumptions about your partner’s character. Instead, find out what interests them and make a list of all the areas where they may be interested in doing something outside the house. Or, if you don't want to think about that many details, write down any specific activities you’ve done during the course of your day and make a list. Do ask them to tell you the reasons for why this is interesting to them. Also suggest some common hobbies they might enjoy. We often forget to mention that there are people with different tastes and interests. And once your spouse finds out what those activities have to do with them, it can make your life easier, as well as their life.

5) Talk about the future together as a couple

This means that you have to talk about things both of you want. If you haven’t planned anything, sit down and see what your future might look like together. Can you do something specific? How many people do you want to invite over? What kind of food would they want to cook? Would you want to visit another country or settle somewhere else? Maybe you would like to buy a motorhome. All these possibilities are perfectly valid, and you simply have to decide which ones to pursue. Even though you have only two days to start these plans, they will become part of you and eventually become your routine. There will be moments when you realize you weren’t exactly prepared for anything but your own desire. Try to remember your dreams for the future and plan them to come true.

6) Ask for help if you cant keep up with others

Partnered men and women are quite capable of doing a lot. A great example is taking care of children and looking after homes and other family members. Yet, at times we feel overwhelmed by everything we have to do. Often we simply can’t take on all people and activities. In such cases you have to ask for help. Perhaps you can start volunteering, organizing events as the president of an organization, visiting the bank or even talking to friends about the subject.

7) Know where to seek advice and counseling if needed

Sometimes we ignore any advice we receive because we’re lazy. So the best bet is to start thinking about what can be done instead of wasting time trying to do everything ourselves. To learn and to improve, you want to be able to give other people a chance. You can always count on other people to do things for you. They know what you’re feeling and they will help you. By asking for advice and counseling, you make your life easier as a married man and a woman.

8) Keep your sense of humor

You can always relate the situation from another angle – even if you’re not comfortable with other people’s point of view. Laughing at jokes or making puns can always bring us closer together. Just remember that some things simply don’t mean anything if you have your senses intact. Don’t force yourself to laugh at someone’s joke or make fun of a person who said something stupid. At least have fun with your wife or son and don’t make her feel bad when she laughs at your jokes. Most importantly: know that all kinds of humor have no consequences. They’re just for fun.

9) Spend quality time together

I’m guilty for not having a proper date. I often feel depressed when I miss even one day with my wife. That’s why we need to spend time together on special occasions. Remember the first time you met or when you found a piece of furniture when you were small? Those memories will always be fresh in your mind. Spending time in front of the garden, by the river, on the beach or whatever you can think of, is important. Because every time you share a memory on your mind, all you’re doing is putting your hands into your eyes and saying: “Here I am now! Here I am, and here I will be for a while and then I’ll pick up the pieces later”.

10) Be thankful for others

When you need to get something done, don’t give your opinion and wait until someone thinks you’re wrong. Instead, just ask one of the others for advice and help instead of insisting upon yourself. You both want to be happy, so ask other people for something for once. Helping yourself is an act of generosity. Being nice and giving is caring.

The more you start to see yourself through this lens, the happier and easier your life will be.