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Different but Effective Ways to Talk to Our Children About Sex

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By Conrad DominguezPublished 4 years ago 4 min read
Different but Effective Ways to Talk to Our Children About Sex
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We all know that the vast majority of children are very curious, right from the moment they start interacting with other children of the same age, a curiosity that is manifested by asking questions, more or less relevant, but also by a few facts, ordinary, that's right.

The latter can cause all kinds of unfounded fears to their parents, in the end, because the children are naturally curious, which is why they do not hesitate to explore every part of their body or mind. Next, of course, is the common question, "Where do the children come from?" Most parents avoid answering their little ones, not necessarily with details, but a real one, at least with a part that conforms to reality.

Then comes the period when children's sexual desires begin to take shape, so there are various manifestations. That is why parents need to have a serious discussion with their children. In this case, it does not matter how you approach such a subject, but rather, the message must be understood correctly.

So the time has come for us, as parents, to understand how we talk to children about sex. Some of us will indeed be scared, they will be somewhat reluctant and shy at the same time in explaining to the little ones. At the same time, the questions are so bold that parents lose all their words.

Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person. Therefore, first of all, we must be careful how we answer it, we must choose very carefully each word, especially since it takes only one syllable to get the child to ask even more questions, manifesting -and so the curiosity in an invasive way for some parents.

And yet, when we consider that the time has come for us to learn how to talk to children about sex, we must first know what triggered that question. On the other hand, it is possible that there is no question at all and we only consider that the time has come to talk to them about this subject. Not to mention the fact that the ubiquitous promotion of sex can be confusing for a child, in many ways.

And the parents must be the ones who take the first step, and not anyway, but with discernment, especially since many of the children understand only certain parts of those things that are said to them. For example, a parent should, for a start, name parts of the body with exact terms, which will most likely not raise any other questions.

For shy, seemingly timeless parents, the problem of "how we talk to children about sex" is as annoying as it is impossible. The thought of these parents is that the little ones have to find out for themselves what sex, sexuality, or love are. Nothing could be further from the truth, psychologists say.

We, as parents, need to know how to talk to our children about sex, and we also have the opportunity to teach them what values ​​are, what love means, and what is good to do. In other words, the adult will not encourage the child to have sex but will allow him to understand what responsibility entails, what principles he should have, and, of course, how he should see the changes he is going through.

And even though sex is ubiquitous, only the notion of sex appears at least 5 times a day, on TV, on a poster, even in certain books. In fact, in the last case, the sex appears camouflaged, and since the children's imagination is already quite rich, the curiosity is immediately aroused. Moreover, parents who believe that their little ones should find out for themselves what is the worst sex are doing them harm, as some children may do things that are not exactly right for their age.

Of course, you can't stop the curiosity between a girl and a boy, especially since we are referring to those over 10 years old, but at least make sure that when something can happen, the child will have the necessary information to discern what is good for him and what is not.

In other words, parents need to make sure that their boys or girls do not misunderstand a notion, whatever it may be, in this case, sex, and that they will have almost all the information so that they do not do something later. regrets all parties.

We know, it sounds slightly bombastic and surreal, but the curiosity of some children, especially some of the teenagers, can reach proportions that are already worrying. Through some natural but decent discussions, with a simple and concise vocabulary, the child will understand exactly what he wants to know. On the other hand, it would be advisable for mothers to talk only to their daughters, and fathers to talk to their boys.

But the results could be just as good if, for example, mothers talked to their boys. Instead, it is almost impossible for fathers to talk to their daughters, for many reasons, when the context, unfortunately, does not allow them to do otherwise.

Therefore, the question "how do we talk to children about sex?" and cautiously, at the same time specifying that he was speaking to her from the position of a man. A woman, aunt, grandmother, or family friend may also talk to the girl about sex.

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